What is true love

You're looking for true love, aren't you? Thank you for your wonderful and loving consultation.

However, true love cannot be understood by arguing. Love can only be understood by loving.
Therefore, if you want to know true love, don't argue; it's about practicing love to love so you love.

As you said there, sexual love and self-love always hit some kind of wall. Even so, if you continue to ask questions about what it means to love and continue to practice, eventually self-love will break down, and you may be able to open up agape, which loves itself, or charity in Buddhism.

As long as we are human, there are various entrances to love. because it's a relationship.

However, whether it is sexual love (libido), beauty (eros), or the reverse side of selfishness, it is humans who are tested and questioned by love as long as it is love.

Can you love them? Can I still love this? Can you really love them?

Continuing to respond to questions from that love is probably the search for love.

“I want you to turn around”

Love as an obsession is also love. However, it can also be rejected as long as there is an opponent. Is it possible to try to love someone who still refuses as a partner?
Is it possible to love someone who turned to me even if the person who turned to me changes? Is it possible to love someone you've loved even if they don't love you anymore? Can that kind of love really sprout for me?

Can you accept all of your opponents just the way they are?

It's not something to discuss; it can only be understood by putting it into practice.

If you meet someone you want to love, try to love them thoroughly.

This is because before you and I question love from here, we are actually being questioned from love.

Thank you Mirin-san for your consultation.

What is true love? With the question of
From the content, it seems that they are dependent and only care about their partner and others

First, do you like yourself? Do you love yourself? Do you have a sense of self-affirmation?
If you love yourself and don't love yourself, you won't be able to share that love with others
Because love isn't enough.
When you like yourself and feel that your sense of self-affirmation is satisfied
You can find love where you can respect each other without depending on your partner.
You're sure to find a great partner.

Love yourself, love your partner, and respect each other
Being able to participate in and contribute to society
It can be said that it is an actual practice of love

Please think carefully and then take action.
Just for reference.
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Hello Mirin-san.

You're worried a lot about love, aren't you?
Thinking about love is important. This is because from there, they understand loving and being in love with instincts and reason.
Normal guys, myself included, are lewd (laughs), but not all men necessarily invite women they like for the purpose of sex. There are also men who divide sexual desire and love. The feeling of wanting to hold someone if they fall in love is natural, but since love does not come from sexual desire, it starts with a feeling of liking.
Mirin-san is still young, so don't be afraid, learn about various relationships, and cultivate your eye for men. Naturally, you also need to create your own appeal. It's not difficult. You should enhance your hobbies. If you do that, men who love you will also appear. That's where the love affair begins.

Good luck! I'm rooting for you. Gassho

Before that, the man I was dealing with thought “I didn't even think about that” was a realistic answer.
Since you “have something standing up” beforehand, you have hesitation, suffering, and anxiety about your opponent.
It is also written in the sutras that demanding “true love” or “true love” from someone a few months after meeting is like asking Prince Hans in Frozen for a loving Chu. (Hey)
So let's check that out better.
You can read people's lying expressions.
Even if you say “YES” and “NO” with your mouth, you can clearly understand your true intentions.
If they really love each other, it's totally fine that they won't have a physical relationship with each other until they get married.
I think your “weight” should also be conveyed.
It's natural for them to respect you.
There are also men in the world who think they are light women.
Only men like that would cheat right away.
There are also many men who take pleasure in having lots of physical relationships, so there are also people who want to have relationships.
It is written in our sutras that men usually think about erotic things for 120 seconds out of 60 seconds on average unless they are herbivores or motherworts. (Honmyna)
If you're thinking about marriage now, it's OK to break up depending on the reaction of the other person who maintains chastity and ends in a romantic relationship. If you are a person who only has a physical relationship and eventually dissolves a romantic relationship, it's probably a good idea to break up. There are women like that too. There are also people who really dedicate pure love and chastity for people who will be future husbands, partners, and servants (laughs).
In a nutshell, if it's sexual activity, animals and insects do it.
The song “Courtship Is Aru Vivide Babide Wow” is often played at my house on E-TV that my daughter has been watching recently.
You're probably a pure love person, so I don't think if you don't forgive your body easily, you'll definitely not regret it later.
I think that kind of way of life is important.
When did women decide on the trend of taking physical relationships for granted when they reached a certain age? Since there are a lot of people with that kind of feeling, I think they are all adulterous, adulterous, cheating, and politicians are also great.
I think it's an attitude where they don't respect each other's gender, so I think it's better for that man to only have relationships with people who are seeking “true affection” from each other, not someone who really has “true love.”

After all, romantic feelings, love between a man and a woman, are [afflictions].
“Love” in Buddhism is “obsession,” and it is explained as the cause of suffering.

Harassment, excitement, and romance are fun, but on the other hand, I think you should know somewhere that it is an “obsession” where you want to have a monopoly on your partner.

As you've already noticed a little bit, the attitude of asking someone to pour more love into yourself is called “selfishness” (garri) in Buddhism.

I think the “true love” you are referring to is probably free love, that is, a heart of [mercy and devotion]. Doing everything for your partner, even when you put yourself aside, is called [selfishness, etc.] (moulita).

However, you're still young.
If the romance between a man and woman matures and can be sublimated to [selfishness, etc.], then they are already a mature veteran couple.

“I'm worried about whether I'll be able to find true love, and whether I'll be able to develop true love with the people I'm going out with.”
It's more about showing up a man who will pour out a lot of love for you
I wonder if you'll be able to find a man you're willing to give unconditional love to.

Loving is more important than being loved. Of course, it doesn't mean obsession.