About tomorrow's surgery

I think this kind of thing has happened a lot since the last consultation.
If that were the case, it might continue for a long time to come.
It might be better to keep a distance where there is no harm to yourself.
The mother's emotions are felt by the child too.
Please approach the birth with a relaxed feeling.
I pray for the birth of a healthy child.

P.S.
Of a child who is born with a deeper bond with her husband than her mother
Isn't it more important to cherish birth?
My wife also had no feeling of being dependent on her mother when she gave birth to a child
She said that if I, my husband, were there, that would be enough.

Yu-Yu-sama
I'll do it with Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an. I also read the previous question.

The last time she was about to give birth one month later, and today, when she was about to have a caesarean section tomorrow, she seems angry at her mother's changing attitude.

I was reading the question, and I felt that Yuyu actually had a feeling that she wanted to rely on, support, and trust her mother (I'm sorry if that's different).

And even though I had that kind of feeling, it was overturned, so I think it would make me feel extra angry. If it's someone you're not interested in or can't rely on from the beginning, you probably won't get that angry.

I don't understand her mother's thoughts, but I think she raised Yuyu by herself and was delighted with her growth. I think there's no doubt that Yuyu is looking forward to that becoming a mother and having a grandchild.

Anyway, tomorrow is an important day. You're probably not nervous, and I think you're also uneasy. Please forget about your mother and be fully prepared.
Also, I am praying so that tomorrow's birth will be successful, and eventually I will be able to make up with my mother.

Finally, it's tomorrow, isn't it?
In the midst of anxiety about having a caesarean section, it made me sad when I thought about how you felt when you were contacted by your mother.

It's okay ◎ Don't think about unnecessary things, right now, just think about my child I'll meet soon.
My husband will follow me too. Aka-chan also wants to meet her kind mom as soon as possible. So, stay calm and take a deep breath.

You should decide what to do after delivery while watching your baby's condition. Let's make the environment we want without being swayed by our mother. While discussing with my husband and wife.

It's fine (*^^*)

Things have been going well recently, but it would be nice if you could change jobs when I have a sudden schedule. If no one changes, I'll eventually have no choice but to cancel my schedule. The other party said, “It's fine.” I took an attitude that made me think, but no one matched my schedule, and I ended up canceling my own schedule. At that time, it was tempo, and I feel like I made statements without thinking about the other person's feelings.
Your mom is no different. At first, she changed her job, and she probably wanted to take care of her daughter. But nobody changed, and in the end, I think I had no choice but to cut my schedule. When you think about work fatigue and night shifts, you can't hope for a night shift unless you work while preserving your physical strength. The older you get, the harder it is to work the night shift. It's bad for Yuyu, but I painfully understand my mother's feelings.
Yuyu, it's already late, so I think she's sleeping. Maybe I'll see this answer tomorrow or after surgery. Apologize to my mom right now if I'm there! I want to say that. “I don't even need to reply to emails” is a pretty cruel phrase when exchanging e-mails. I have also received such emails, but I was hurt or rather angry. If you feel well, please send me an email really apologizing. It's fine even after surgery, so be sure to send it along with the results report.
I pray for a successful caesarean section.
PostScript
After all, it was a tough answer this time too. I will reflect on it.

Yu-Yu-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is a humble answer to the question.

It's finally tomorrow, or today, and I'm meeting my baby. I'm really looking forward to it. I wonder if my husband will be watching over me.

It's no wonder that I'm going to have a caesarean section, and I'm nervous because this is my first time full of anxiety.

I know that in the case of a caesarean section, you will be hospitalized for about 7 to 10 days, but even if your mother certainly doesn't take care of your personal surroundings while you're in the hospital, I think the maternity hospital staff will do everything for you. Meals will be served, and I'm wondering if laundry can be done in the hospital, and if it's shopping, necessary equipment, or simple personal items, I think it's about the extent that I can finish it at the kiosk in the hospital or ask my husband to buy it for me.

Actually, even when I was a humble wife, my mother-in-law only showed her face while in the hospital, and in other words, there was no such thing as having to stay to take care of her for such a long time, about laundry or a little shopping, so the problem is after being discharged from the hospital. (Actually, now, 20 days after giving birth to my second child, I am very indebted to my mother-in-law. Thank you very much.)

Also, above all else, the schedule during hospitalization is quite difficult and hectic, such as medical examinations, temperature measurements, breastfeeding, courses, etc., and I also think that the sympathizers cannot take it so slowly, even if they are relatives. If the timing of meeting a baby is bad, you may not even be able to meet your family.

So, to some extent, there is actually a point in what your mother said.

Well, well, yeah, don't get angry and think about things after being discharged from the hospital, and if you don't get help from your mother and create an environment where you can rest your body a little, the burden will become too heavy at this rate, and it could cause trouble for your baby and husband.

I think I should make up with my mother while in the hospital as much as possible so that I can get as much help as possible after being discharged from the hospital.

I sincerely pray for a safe delivery.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

Simply put, mom has a comprehensive judgment or something that has been thought through and thought through various things, such as mom's circumstances and schedules, things that should be prioritized, relationships, and so on.
You are the protagonist of your world.
But that's because mom herself is the main character in this world.
Don't get too involved for your own convenience.
I think your mom thinks properly about you.
Are mothers from the Showa era where after their children get married, even if they really want to meet their children, they shouldn't be too bothered, and they also have to leave their parents (you have to leave your parents too)? Did you know that there are rules (^.^) Mothers also think in their own way and have good intentions, so don't take them too maliciously.
However, I also think what I want you to understand the most is that you are in a difficult period due to your first delivery, that you want them to understand your anxiety, that if you were your own parents, you would like them to do this much, and so on... Maybe you're feeling resentful that you've lost your place in your heart because you've been betrayed. Please forgive them for today. I'm sure that the child that will be born will also be a calmer child. I'm praying for your safety.

To Yu-Yu-sama

I'm sorry for the late reply.
How are you doing after that?

I understand the feeling that makes you feel emotional.
Now that we're in the current situation, how about once again?
Isn't it important to follow that feeling?

It would be nice to go back to my parents' house
It would be nice to stay at home.
The final decision is still up to me. Gassho