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Children are injured in quick succession

I'm a mother of two boys.
My older child had a head stitching injury in kindergarten, and the next day my younger child got injured cutting his head at home and sewed it.
They were both injured in a row, and the place where they were both injured was a similar place on the left front part of their heads (upper left corner of their forehead), so I'm worried.
The stitches were successfully removed a few days ago, and now they are both doing well.
Actually, I had two miscarriages before I had my older child.
I married my husband, and the couple had a strong desire for children, but unfortunately they experienced two early miscarriages.
It was so sad, and I received prayers for water support from the two people once at the temple I looked up on the internet, and after that, every year on the anniversary of their death (the day they were treated for a miscarriage), my family went to pray at a place like the Mizuko Nursery Tower at that temple.
When you receive your prayers, the chief priest will soon be blessed with children, so it's fine. I was told, and I actually found out that my older child was pregnant two months after my second miscarriage.
Also, I found out that my younger child was pregnant right after I bought my current new house nearly two years ago and moved in.
Mizuko, I'm really curious if her new home is related to this injury, or if it's some kind of message from Mizuko and her ancestors.
Please give me some advice.

5 Zen Responses

It doesn't matter at all.

Do you know the phrase “every human being is a horse” in ancient Chinese folklore?
The horse I owned ran away, and people around me sympathized with me
The owner's old man said this would make him happy, and after a while
The horse that had escaped came back with another horse.
Then they say this will be a disaster.
Then my son on the horse he brought fell off his horse and got injured.
Then the old man said this would make him happy.
Then the war began, but my son was not drafted into the military due to his injuries.
There are good things in life and bad things.
This phrase has been handed down a long time ago
These are exactly the words for Chamu-san.
Not only you, but many people up until now are the same
It is a word that has been passed down to future generations precisely because they have experienced it.

What are memorial services for Mizuko and her ancestors
It doesn't matter at all.
if you do the right thing every day
There's nothing to worry about.

How to face suffering such as “hatred, bitterness,” etc.

Chamu-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is a humble answer to the question.

This time, the two of them were certainly injured in the same place around the same time, so you may think that even if it were a coincidence... but since they are children who are growing up fast, of course, injuries are possible all the time, and well, I don't know that much of a particular concern about them, to the extent that they just happened to overlap.

It is even more so if the injury has already healed safely and both of them are doing well.

Miscarriages are really painful. I know that it is truly precious that they were able to overcome their hardships safely through a memorial service where they were polite and friendly to Mizuko.

Now, I wonder if the child's injury this time has anything to do with Mizuko-san's new home, or if it's some kind of message from Mizuko-san and her ancestors, but I think it's okay for you to think that it's not related.

Rather than that, we can encounter injuries, illnesses, accidents, and disasters at any time, and of course it is important to prevent and be careful as much as possible in advance to take countermeasures, but when there is nothing we can do, there really is nothing we can do about it.

Suffering where you have to encounter bad things, grudges, and things you should hate is called “grudge and hate pain” (Onzou Eku). This, together with the four pains of life, old age, illness, and death, is one of the eight pains of separation from love (suffering of having to break up with loved ones), unrequited hardships (suffering caused by living beings themselves, and five suffering are the elements that make up our existence: color, reception, thought, action, and knowledge).

To be honest, it is natural for us to suffer, and that is why the Buddha also said, “Everything is a pain.”

Even if you try to somehow distract yourself by blaming this much suffering on something invisible, something that cannot be proven, etc., it is actually nothing but futile.

Then, it was Buddha who showed the answer to how we should face the reality of this suffering and resolve it.

By all means, I hope you will take this opportunity to further your interest in Buddhism, and I hope it will be an opportunity for you to advance your studies.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

Please don't worry!

Chamusama
My name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an.

There are occasional consultations about Mizuko-san at Hasunoha and temples, but it's probably the love of parents who pity and care for the lives they died before giving birth.

Chamu-san also had two early miscarriages, and I think it was very painful. After that experience, I had an eldest son and a second son, and I think it was a particularly happy thing.

Now, let's get down to business... “Don't worry!”
The injuries to the two children, Mizuko's, and the fact that she moved to a new house have nothing to do with it. The fact that the location of the injury is the same is causal, but it is a coincidence.

I've written an article about Mizuko before. Please take a look if you like.
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/207

A message as a message

Hello, Chamu-san.

I know it was a pain. However, the reason we have today is probably because it is a family that has lived together even though there have been difficult times... I admire the way the Chamu-san family lives.

First, answer. This injury has nothing to do with it.
Also, it seems that Chamu-san is receiving the events that have happened up until now as a message from something.

Everyone is saying,
Bad things happened, bad things happened because bad things happened.
Good things happened, good things happened because good things happened.

... it's not.

I don't know when, but it doesn't always happen...
It doesn't matter at all.

Now, it is certainly a sad event to die before they are born and before they have grown big. You'll also be able to receive it as a message.
In fact, Chamu-san received it. The fact that they prayed for water children is proof of that.

So, speaking of whether there's no point in memorial services for ancestors or water child support... there's no such thing, right?
“Wouldn't it be better to do it?”... that's enough of a message.
However... I don't know if it's a message from my ancestors.

You should cherish the messages you receive.
You can stop praying at the memorial tower when the two children grow up.

What kind of message did you get

To Chamu-sama

There are also occasional inquiries about Mizuko at temples.
We will meet and talk as much as possible.
I won't know until we meet and talk honestly.
What kind of message is contained in this incident
I will refrain from giving an easy answer.

Just as Mukai-sama's answer says
Because I'm interested in Chamu-sama
Maybe it contains some kind of message.
What kind of messages have you received?
Please look back again. Gassho