About my encounter with Buddhism

Buddhism does not mean that “greed is completely useless.”
Without love, no new life would be born in this world, and we wouldn't have been born either.
It's not a crime to like someone.
However, when the level and degree of the feeling of “liking” gets too high, they begin to “treat me” and “do whatever we want” about the other person.
It's just that they don't want to try to “turn me around” and “become me like this.”
Also, there are various types of love, from light ones to heavy ones.
This also varies depending on the degree of feelings and feelings you have for yourself or your partner for that person. Buddhism removes suffering and is a way of life without suffering.
If thinking about your partner or what you want to do with them makes you suffer, I think it's probably necessary to look at them and see if they haven't bothered them.
Love also sets others free. Loving someone is also love.
However, romantic feelings are accompanied by a sense of gain and loss, and a beginning and end.
If you want to maintain a smooth relationship with that person, you will dare to calmly keep your mind at a distance.
Permanent human feelings are friendship and respect rather than romantic feelings.

There is an example of being run over by a cow and visiting Zenkoji Temple. It's a story about a woman with no faith who happened to go chasing cows to a temple, and then she became religious after that. No matter what triggered it, it's good that they became interested in Buddhism. There's nothing wrong with Koharu.

However, what I'm worried about is that the word “enthusiastic” is being used. In Buddhism, “love is affliction” is because selfishness to do what one wants comes into it. If things don't go the way you want them to, it will be painful, and as a result, you will have a hard time. Originally, “mercy” is what we should aim for, but how about Koharu, who is now passionate about her teacher and Buddhism?
However, I myself think that it is a bit unrealistic for teenage women to have feelings of compassion rather than love for older men. I would be happy if you could keep it in a corner of your heart.

One of the Buddha's cousins was Prince Nanda.
Although the prince became a monk, he was concerned about his wife, who left behind in the country, and did not engage in ascetic practice. So the Buddha took him to the celestial world with his supernatural powers and showed him a beautiful celestial maiden as soon as he woke up.
“If you learn through training, I'll give them to you”
Prince Nanda took a turn and practiced with joy and courage. I was able to avoid being rumored by other monks that she was “training as a celestial maiden,” and immersing myself in it paid off, and I soon gained enlightenment. Of course, Prince Nanda, who was freed from all suffering by enlightenment, doesn't have the slightest hint of desire for celestial maidens anymore. It seems that the Buddha saw through everything up to that point and showed a celestial maiden.

No matter what led you to come across Buddhism, that's not a big deal. Being born as a human being and being introduced to Buddhism itself is a very rare and precious thing.
How is Koharu different now compared to before studying Buddhism? Is it easier and lighter? The mind continues to change. Please check it out all the time.
I hope you will seize the happiness that makes you think “it was worth my encounter with Buddhism.” I'm praying for you.

Thinking about someone and trying to get to know that person. Also, it means that I had a chance to come into contact with Buddhism from there. I think it's a very nice thing.
There's nothing to worry about. Rather, I think it's natural.

I want both feelings to be cherished~ (*^^*)

Koharu-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is a humble answer to the question.

I believe that liking someone and having love is an important feeling as a human being.

Buddhism does not deny all feelings of love, affection, unrequited love, and romance.

Rather, in esoteric Buddhism, they even try to transform such feelings into power for enlightenment. The following is a partial reference example, but you need to be careful when interpreting it. If you try to capture the content in general perceptions, myths, and truths (secular in a broad sense), etc., you may make ridiculous mistakes and mistakes, so please keep this as a sufficient assumption.

http://ja.wikipedia.org/wiki/理趣経
http://ja.wikipedia.org/wiki/愛染明王

Now, aside from Esoteric Buddhism for now, what Buddhism regards as an issue about emotions is generally simply “obsession” and “perception of reality.” The relationship between love and obsession has been described a little bit in the following questions so far.

http://hasunoha.jp/questions/16
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/76

In particular, as described in 76 above, I believe that it is important not to limit that love to a specific person, but eventually whether it can be applied equally to all sentient beings without discrimination.

As everyone in the other responses mentioned, I came across Buddhism due to a relationship called love, and the fact that I was fascinated by Buddhism was truly one good “Buddha relationship.”

Of course, it would be even better if this love affair was successfully fulfilled, and devotional efforts were made in Buddhism, and eventually Buddhism was fulfilled. Also, even if this love doesn't come true, I am grateful for receiving a good Buddha relationship, and if you spend time learning and practicing Buddhism with recompassion for this, I think you will be able to have a good romantic relationship again.

This time, anyway, it's not “love = bad in terms of Buddhism,” so I just hope you can understand this.

I pray for Koharu's happiness.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

　Koharu. Thank you for your interest in Buddhism even though you are a teenager. The teacher Koharu fell in love with was probably also a monk or temple apprentice. Teenagers (middle and high school students?!) You probably told a story that was easy to understand and intriguing. I want to take an apprenticeship too. By all means, I'd like to know exactly what they're talking about. I would like to ask for a professor if I get a chance.
Go on and on without thinking about whether love is an affliction from a teenage age. This is a relationship. There will be times when a relationship will work out. You might get dumped. That too is a relationship. I want them to work hard in love without being afraid of failure. Not only that, but there are plenty of opportunities to create relationships, such as friendships, school festivals, sports festivals, lessons, club activities, entrance exams, job hunting, travel, etc. But please have a feeling of compassion for the other person. This is the practice of Buddhists.
There is a Buddhist term called “aiyo (aigo).” The explanation is shown in the sutra called “Shushengi.”

“When you look at sentient beings, when you look at sentient beings, first invent a heart of compassion, apply the language of Koai (Koai), and when you store and speak the language of Jinen sentient beings (Yunyo), it is a love language; praises virtue; if you have virtue, you should have mercy; surrender (go fuku) your vengeful enemy (go fuku), surrender (go fuku) your vengeful enemy (go fuku), and make peace (peace) with Kimiko (amity) () narrowing is based on love words, and listening to love words makes faces (faces) happy () and relaxes the mind If you listen to love words without face (muka), you should keep in mind, remember in your soul, and learn that the power of Kaiten (Kaiten) is capable of love words.”

If I explain the meaning that is easy for me to understand now, I think it will hurt your sensibility, so I won't do this translation or explanation at all. It's something you'll understand as you read it over and over and over and over again and over again. I was able to understand this meaning about a year ago.
I am very happy that you have taken an interest in Buddhism, so I would like to support your romance. However, likes and dislikes are two sides of the same coin, so I don't want you to dislike Buddhism even if you don't like teachers or when they get dumped.

To Koharu-sama

As you can see in everyone's answers
Each person has a different relationship.
Isn't that wonderful?
I think every relationship has a meaning in Koharu-sama.

I hope you continue to experience Buddhism
I am very honored to be one of the monks who spread Buddhism. Gassho