I can't trust something that seems to be happy that I haven't visited in a long time.
I haven't had a girlfriend in a long time. This is my first time in five and a half years since an event like the one I wrote in my profile happened.
She is a woman who, like me, loves reading, has very firm thoughts, is wonderful internally and very cute on the outside.
But thank goodness, I find myself bracing myself for this situation.
After the incident described in my profile, with the exception of my family, the only thing that really supported me from then on was reading. If it weren't for the words in the book, I wouldn't be alive today.
Since then, solitude and reading have been my partner in life.
But she was able to do it.
It seems that she loves me.
However, even in Buddhism, they say that all actions are impermanent, don't they? I think that teaching is truly true.
It's certainly fun to be with her. When I'm talking, I feel at ease at that time.
However, after hanging up the phone and after finishing a date, I usually think about the following.
“This happiness is nothing more than a fleeting dream. I'm sure I'll be alone again.
No matter how many years have passed, it cannot be any guarantee of eternity.
If so, don't indulge in this unreliable happiness. Don't take this for granted.
If you're going to be lonely again anyway, don't get any more intimate with her.
”
However, her presence is eroding into me day by day.
The casual interactions I have with my girlfriend on LINE and phone are becoming something I enjoy every day.
It's so scary that that degree is getting bigger.
Humans are alone.
But if we don't help each other, we can't live.
I think both are important perceptions.
But what kind of stance should we take when it comes to a relationship with this lover?
If you open your mind too much, it will degenerate into a dependency relationship. Or they put a burden on or hurt their partner, and they hurt themselves too.
However, I wonder if they open their hearts too much as lovers.
How should I keep my mental distance? I'm worried.
I would be happy if all the monks could give me some advice from their standpoint as Buddhists.
