hasunoha

I'm worried about what to do about my future career path

First, let me introduce myself briefly. I'm an office worker in my mid-thirties working for a small company in Tokyo. After graduating from high school, I left Hiroshima, where my parents' house is located, moved to Tokyo, and after going to university, it's been a little over 10 years since I got a job at my current company.

As for the content of the question, I'm worried about whether I should continue working for the company in the future, or whether I should go back to my parents' house in Hiroshima and get a job again.

My parents are the same age and are in their mid-sixties. I'm still doing well, but I discovered early cancer in my father the other day, and when we talked on the phone and went home, I began to feel that my parents were getting old. I think I should go back to Hiroshima soon and be prepared for an emergency.

However, the company's presidents are also indebted. The presidents are almost the same age as my parents. About 2 years after I got a job, I suddenly fell ill. The number of people being late for work or being absent from work increased, and I even took a one-year leave of absence. Even in such a state, the presidents continued to hire me without getting fired, and on top of that, thanks to their attention to this and that, I am somehow continuing to work even now. My illness hasn't been completely cured yet, and it continues to cause trouble, so I'd like to do something to return the favor.

Now, when I put it into sentences like this, I feel that my worries are very luxurious. It's a blessing to work for a company that wants to return the favor, and to have parents who want to return home. But that's why I don't know what to do.

5 Zen Responses

It's your life.

Why don't you talk to the president and your parents about your current feelings?
Please describe your honest feelings.
So I understand how your parents and the president feel
Your feelings are conveyed to both the president and your parents.
Then why don't you think about it again?

What is your happiness ~ that is what parents want the most

People have to make decisions from time to time while thinking about various things, such as work, parents, and themselves. You're a wonderful person who can be considerate of others.

If you work as a monk, you can see the positions and concerns of the children on the parent side at the same time. They all have something, and that's because they're important people! It's seriously bothering you, isn't it? There is no clear answer from me. Just because you're a monk, decide on that person's life, and ah... Please do this. There's no way I can say anything.
It's just... No matter what situation they are in, parents care more about their children than themselves and hope for happiness. You said you're lonely to me, but they're parents after all ◎

How do you express your gratitude to your parents?
Is it about living next to you, or is it about doing your best in a remote place?

What is your happiness~
That's probably what parents want the most~ (*^^*)

You can't read two books at the same time

There is no luxury or poverty in worries.
I think it's actually painful.
There is such a thing as a reasonable sense of distance in a parent-child relationship.
I almost live together, but my brother is far away.
On the other hand, they appreciate it, and there are times when they want to smoke when they're close like me (laughs).
What is the best form of filial piety a child can do?
I think it's about being independent and reassuring so that your parents recognize that “you're fine now.”
What is a parent's greatest child filial piety? Strength to overcome any difficulties, continuing to give strength, nurturing and sending them out to one person, etc.
So what is the greatest disciple filial piety that a master can make a disciple in Buddhism?
It's about making the disciples be able to fully convey the details of enlightenment so that even if they die, it's okay if they are alone. The best act of recompense is for a disciple to gain proper understanding while the teacher is in the world.
People will die one day. It's too late after death.
It's also possible that you die before your parents.
Reward doesn't have to be complying.
It's about you surviving you.
If you really feel your parents' favor, it will come through properly if you face it properly.
You don't have to read two books at the same time. Humans can't even read two pages at once. Line at a time, even one letter at a time. I want them to grow strong, even if it's just one pack.

When I met my mother, I dedicated myself to my mother, and when I met my father, I dedicated myself to my father.
Being close to anything may not be the only way to be rewarded.
That's right. It's about living the best way you can live your life.
The supreme act of recompense in Buddhism leaves behind patronage as human affection, and is not bound by patronage,
True recompense is for each to live independently, peacefully, and aimlessly.

If I were a parent...

 Shingo, you have a wonderful idea to surpass yourself and do something for someone else. For the sake of global peace, I think it would be possible to contribute even more to global peace by increasing the number of people like this.
If I were your parent, I'd say, “As always, I want you to come back when you can.” Do you think so? Actually, there are many people in the same generation as you who inevitably have to quit their jobs due to parental care, and there are many people who lose their way in life. This isn't just your problem; it's now a social issue. I really went home during the year-end and New Year holidays, and without the help of alcohol, I said, “I can't stop working. “...” and tell them that they will take care of their parents to the extent that they are comfortable with work. I think my father will probably be hospitalized for treatment, but I think it would be better if he went in. Also, I think it's better to prepare for end-of-life care. I hope to return home with a conclusion. So don't drink alcohol.
I don't think the country has enough receptions for you. You must not quit your current job. If money can solve it, choose your own path to solve it. That's because it could also be your illness.
If you really think about the future, you should make effective use of everything as soon as you enroll in insurance or anything you can use.
I always think about death as a monk. My teacher passed away in the summer, and on the other hand, I'm sad, but it's also true that I felt relieved that I didn't have to visit him. What matters is how we live after that. Even now, my teacher's teachings come back to my head once in a while. When you stumble in your life, you always come back to life. I want them to look at their parents with that in mind.
It's up to you to decide whether to use it as a reference or not.

Two ways to return the favor

To Shingo-sama

From this sentence, I was able to tell you that he is really that kind person.
Two ways to return the favor.
Staying with the company as it is, isn't returning the favor to the company's president a return to the parents?
Show children who are active in society.
Isn't that also a way to return the favor?

Also, on the contrary, I went back to my parents' house and got a job again.
I think this means that returning the favor to the parents is returning the favor to the president of the company.
Show children helping their parents with assistance, etc.
That is also a way to return the favor.

Whichever one you decide on, I think everyone will return the favor.
What is surely important is the feelings each has for their parents and the president of the company
I think that's it.

It seemed like they realized that I was blessed
First of all, thanks for that.
And consider the way forward.
I'm rooting for you. Gassho