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I wanted to try to be popular

I wanted to be popular (laughs)

I'm a 33-year-old woman.
I'm getting married soon. (Naturalization only, no ceremony)
I'm looking forward to getting married to the guy I've been in a relationship with for 9 years, including long distance, and I'm not particularly anxious,
What I feel strongly about when I came here
It means “Oh, once is enough, so I tried to be popular.”
What on earth should I do about this feeling?!

▪️ Below is my poor career

◎ Spend middle and high school at a strict girls' school.
I haven't talked to men for 6 years.
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◎ I'm going to a co-educational university, but I'm so excited I can't talk to men (°_°)
Also, since they can't drink alcohol, they are reluctant to have drinking parties.
As a result, I wasn't able to get a rough boyfriend with only girls. (Being confessed only once → refused. (About 3 people have unrequited love with my senior or the person I work at, but they didn't do anything)
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◎ Years 1 to 2 years as a member of society
It's a workplace where there are a lot of men, and I experienced being cheated on for the first time since I was young (laughs)
(That being said, about half are married)
I also had a big heartbreak once, but I ended up dating the closest person who confessed there, and that is my current husband (planned person).
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◎ 25-33 years old
The new employee fever has passed, and since he is there, they don't go to drinking parties more and more, and they start to feel like they're at the office, and they can't make a sound (^_^;)
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◎ Currently
I was prepared to enroll after 2 weeks, and I left the company.

Most of my friends are already married, and seeing that they have built a happy family with 2.3 children, and of course I feel very envious that it's nice ~ (*^^*).
BUT!!
Just now, he said, “Oh, the chances of dating someone else will be zero... (apart from whether or not you can get along)
I wanted to be popular!! It makes me think strongly “(lol)” (^_^;)

Recently, I've been empathizing with solid romance dramas that I haven't really been interested in until now.

I love him, and of course I don't want to have an affair, and I don't intend to do it,
I wanted to be hugged by a strong physical man even once!

Entire, what should I do about this feeling?

5 Zen Responses

Husband body modification theory

I'm sending my husband to the gym
→ muscle tightness

Macho dreams come true with this
Incidentally, it would be a good idea to take care of your health as well.
Be happy.

Mutual popularity plans

First, plan to make your husband a handsome guy.
The visuals are your favorite fashion. The wording is imitated by the voice actor of the handsome app, scrunch-up with your favorite perfume, and administer protein to meals every day. Incidentally, I recommend meals that enhance beautiful skin and femininity to my husband for smooth skin. I take them to the gym and do homesickness every day. It's about making your husband a good-looking macho and popular enough to make you jealous.
The investment amount is one-tenth of my monthly salary. Assuming that you would have had an affair (don't do it), you donate the money that was planned to be invested there to your husband. If that's the case, you won't be Flynn, and you won't be Colin (divorce). My husband may be Taryn, but rather than being loved by 1 million people, he is a handsome guy of my choice next door.
A plan to make a handsome husband start at 240,000 to 360,000 yen per year, assuming 20,000 to 30,000 per month. It's cheaper than going to a host club. You're the producer. The overpayment is up to you.
This is because creating an environment where you can love your husband is hundreds of times more valuable than being popular.
Today's quote “If you say you want to be popular, even if you can't help but be popular, what will it become?”
That kind of desire to “be popular” is a flickering desire.
When you've already forgotten, try learning where you don't need that kind of thing.
My husband's excitement is fine, but I don't care about that kind of thing anymore, I don't care about that kind of thing, and I'm also careless.
Well, more than that, I think wives and women who are really touted are people who are full of love.
A wife who only wants change from her partner is a bad wife.
I felt it when I was watching the AKB general election before (are you watching), but no matter how high they rank and have a pretty face, when I see how they respond with that crying or feeling cool when the ranking wasn't something they wanted, the humanity of Ma herself was revealed.
No matter how high the ranking is, the ultimate human aspect is humanity that appears at such times. Good quality in the true sense of the word.
It is at such times that human dignity is revealed.
In other words, it's about you refine yourself. As a result, Danna also resonates and upgrades.
Looking at others and how they are reflected is also my own humanity.

Not everyone has brought it

The term “motegi” is often used, but I think that person has their own personality. More than anything else, I was able to meet a man I wanted to get married to, even if I wasn't popular.

If you do it even more now, it will become an affair (^-^) then it's a big problem. Please aim for a lovey-dovey life with your husband and become a married couple that is envied by those around you.

Accept “old age”

It's a blessing to move up the life stage in accordance with age.
Being over 30 is stupid enough, isn't it disappointing for Jiji Baba to be crazy about love forever?

Maybe I should have played more when I was young, but that's where I am now because I was able to use my time for other things.
There's nothing good about life.

It seems that in India in the old days, many people became monks once they got married and raised children.
There must still be a stage ahead in life.
Rather than regretting something you missed in your 20s, let's enjoy your middle age life to the fullest so that the same regrets don't remain in your 30s and 40s.

I'm sure they're happy right now.

At times like that,
It makes me imagine happiness that is different from what it is now.

I also had that kind of imagination, or rather delusion
I do it all the time.

Well, if it's about that level,
Isn't that healthy?