People at the company I worked for in the past are blessed with jobs, and I get jealous when my friend's husband has a better salary or job description than my husband.
Then, my heart becomes heavy, and I wonder if it would be easier if I died if it continued to be this painful...
What should I do to stop worrying about people and feel happy with my life?
There is also a house where you can keep away the rain and dew without having to worry about eating.
You can get jealous and complain in such situations. That is happiness.
It means that there are people in the world who envy you like that.
Thank you so much for your question, Darbara.
Other people are better off than me.
Why am I not blessed?
If you were a human being, I'm sure many people would worry about that kind of thing, and it bothers their hearts.
But it can also be said that it happens because of comparison.
It seems that no matter what, humans make judgments by measuring value with money or replacing it with some numerical value.
It may be unavoidable, but why not get away from that for a moment?
The Buddha's yardstick is said to have no memory.
It is also said that the size far exceeds human memory.
Why don't you change your memory to a larger memory, even just a little bit?
Humans are really weak and useless creatures. If you give them a compliment, they'll compliment you. If you scold them, they'll twist you.
I'm happy at the moment when “I achieved my goal” and “my wish came true.” But after all, I only temporarily satisfied my desires, so soon more desires usually spring up. As a countermeasure against such things, the teaching of “contentment” is explained in Buddhism. In the past, I have shamelessly spoken a puja with such a title in front of people. Furthermore, I have written it into a document and posted it on my blog.
Before I know enough about the Dharma dialect http://blogs.yahoo.co.jp/dorinji/19674236.html
After getting to know enough Dharma stories http://blogs.yahoo.co.jp/dorinji/19688865.html
Well then, am I speaking the law with a face that makes me understand in front of people, and I spend my days “knowing enough” without arousing jealousy? Unfortunately, the answer is no. As long as I'm alive, it's a repetition of “hesitation” and “awareness.” They are arrogant compared to others, and they are depressed compared to others. I'm also depressed by the lack of progress of the person I am. But let's cherish that kind of awareness and increase the number of peaceful days of “knowing enough” even a little bit. With that in mind, I serve the Buddha.
I think Darbara is a person who can look at her “jealousy” with a calm eye. I think that's why I'm getting disgusted by my own sense of jealousy. In other words, I think they are repeating “wonderful awareness.” Even if you don't have a perfect “knowing enough” days, you can gradually increase the number of “knowing enough” days.
My name is Kameyama Junshi.
Jealousy is anger towards others. “How can that person live a life they can't do for themselves?” “Why can't I get ahead in my career, but that person can get ahead in my career?” and so on. Jealousy is not mainly about “things I can't do.” “What the other person is capable of” is the main thing. It's infuriating about “what the other person is capable of.”
Why do you feel angry when it's not about yourself? This is because there is an affliction, the “self-centered feeling (self-centered)” that we always have. “I want to be like this.” The thought “I wouldn't be able to stop feeling if I wasn't like this.” That's what it feels like. So, for example, isn't your child's successful experience something to be proud of as a parent? Never say, “I couldn't do it when I was a kid, so why can my own child do it?” I don't think any parents think that. It says, “If I'm not like this, I won't be able to stop feeling.” Probably because I don't have that feeling. On the other hand, how about a successful experience not of your own child, but of someone else's child? Maybe, “I can't have my own child, so why can that person's child do it?” That feeling of jealousy may arise. There it says, “I can't stop feeling my kids unless they're like this.” I think it's because I have that feeling.
In other words, even though we are talking about others, we are incorporating it into our self-centered thoughts. “Others are others, not ourselves.” “I can only cherish my way of life and my own life.” If you stand in that situation, you won't be jealous. However, this is not that easy to do. That's because our “self-centered feelings (selfishness)” are extremely deep-seated.
So what should we do? “I wouldn't be able to stop feeling like this. It was an egocentric feeling.” Being aware of this, and having someone who accepts such feelings of awareness, I think that by doing so, I can live a positive life while being jealous. And for me, it is Amida Nyorai (in my denomination) who accepts such feelings of awareness.
These are my answers. I hope it helps even a little bit.