Why shouldn't we die

I read your question.

There are many answers to the question of why people shouldn't die by themselves.
One point is that I am not alone in my life. This may seem like a realistic way of thinking, but it is true.
There is a lot of followings for a person to live alone. As for myself, there was a time when my self esteem was severely damaged during my junior high school days. There was no time to actually take action, but “I want to die.” I've thought that a few times. What came to mind at that time were the faces of many people, starting with my mother who gave birth to me even though I was weak, and my father, who was strict but protected me with all his might. The kindness and love of such people cannot go back to nothing.
Even if they are not loved by their parents, it is true that they are followed by people other than their parents in no small part. However, if you don't feel like you're being followed, it won't stop. That's why it's so important for people to feel that.
Also, don't forget that when you die alone, your family, friends, and everyone involved with you will be traumatized.
So, when I die myself, I think it would be nice if I could die in a way that people around me would be satisfied with.

The Buddha also suffered a lot because he was alive. But I learned that dying wouldn't solve the problem, and I became a monk and came to enlightenment.
When the Buddha was about to die, the fact that he was told that the towns and scenery he had visited until now were enjoyable gives us courage.
Even mountain climbing, which seems futile at first glance, seems very beneficial if you look at the scenery from the top.
It's something you don't understand when you're climbing a mountain.
Isn't our life the same?

appending
> Since someone gave birth to me and raised me, is there an obligation to continue suffering for decades?
There are no obligations. It's a story about you being turned upside down without eating even though you risked your life to prepare the meal from the opposite standpoint.
People who know what kind of thoughts the person who made it had, and how much effort it took to prepare it will eat the meal no matter how bad it is.
Let me say one more thing,
The Buddha certainly said that living is difficult. But that doesn't mean you can't do anything. “There are things we can do.” I'm saying that. The way to make bad food delicious is to practice Buddhism.

　As I wrote in the title, our lives were inherited from our ancestors, and they are here and now. I think passing on that life (as far as possible) to descendants is one of the important roles in living.

It was over 10 years ago, and I was impressed when I read a book containing notes from children who are hospitalized in children's hospitals.
“Until the battery runs out”
https://www.amazon.co.jp/dp/B00JRU5BX0/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1

It also became a TV drama and was broadcast on TV Asahi.

Shortly after the drama was broadcast, I wrote the following magazine puja in the temple bulletin.

“In the final episode of the drama broadcast on 6/24, a girl named Kaoru, who suffers from leukemia, tells Naomi Zaizen, the following lines after undergoing bone marrow transplantation surgery provided by a donor to her.

“I... got it... my batteries aren't just mine.”

In this line, my battery (life) works thanks to a bone marrow donor. With the help of donors, I have my own life. I think this line comes from a feeling of gratitude. However, this line is a word that applies to all humans. This is because all humans have received the “baton of life,” and have been born and live in this world. Our batteries (life) received the “baton of life” from our parents and ancestors, and are moving here and now. It's not just my thing. And so are other people's lives. They were born by connecting and connecting the “baton of life.” It's alive. So, let's cherish it. My own life, and the lives of others.
https://blogs.yahoo.co.jp/dorinji/folder/42385.html?m=lc&p=22

The poem “Life” written by Yukina Miyakoshi, a fourth grader, that was published in this book was also introduced in the magazine Dharma. Please enjoy this poem too.

If you talk about it as a value, one value is that you must not commit suicide and that you can die by suicide.

If wars continue, killing people will become an honorable society. When wars continue too long and people are exhausted, murderers become an evil society. Then, around the time I was so thirsty that I forgot about the heat again, he said, “It's natural for sacrifices to occur in war. “What are you saying null?” Something like that came out, and eventually we entered an era where murderers were honorable.

Values keep going round and round and round, and continue to disturb people's minds forever.
The Buddha called reincarnation to keep going round and round in this way.
Then, Buddha realized that it wasn't right or left, or up or down which was the correct answer, but that he couldn't be saved unless he got out of the spiral itself of being caught up in the right, left, up, up, up, and down.

Well, at that time, when you break out of logic, what's left is a life you just try to live. My heart is beating on its own. The eye sees with its own eyes. Blood is flowing without permission in blood.
It's not about how you can be refreshed and healed, but when you surrender everything to that natural vitality, you witness a life where there is no way to suffer, and there is no room for suffering.
I have no choice but to feel it, though.

Also, when it comes to suicide, only stopping it at the water's edge comes up as a topic, but in reality, the path leading up to that point must be addressed from the stage of emotion as an individual, and from the stage of the state of society as a public.
Even if the cancer is terminal and you finally go to the hospital, there is a limit to what a doctor can do. There is a limit to what monks can do with people they only meet at funerals.

I'm skipping the story, but have you seen a lot of funerals, and did they all look the same? As a matter of fact, that is unforgiving. After all, the effects of those who lived until 80 or 90 and slowly took their last breath and those who died suddenly were completely different. There are also couples that cause family collapse due to the suicide of their child.

So why do you all seem to bounce back in the same way someday? That's because the person himself is suffering, skips everything that someone has supported, and just watches the results. It's like thinking, “A part-time job at a convenience store is just a cashier job, so it's easy, isn't it?”
Most likely, it's not that your personality or sensitivity is lacking; it's simply a story about how you interact with people being superficial.

appending
Look, looking for answers makes me want to die

Sanako-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

In the case of Buddhism, it is considered difficult to be born as a person who has “free time” as a metaphor for a “blind turtle driftwood,” as a metaphor for a “blind turtle,” to the extent that when an old blind turtle that lives in the ocean floats to the surface once every 100 years, it just so happens to plunge his neck into a hole in a floating tree with a hole that just happened to flow there. Furthermore, it is said that it is still difficult to be born into a world with Buddha's teachings, gain a relationship with the Buddha, and be able to learn and practice the Buddha's teachings.

Since we are such thankful beings, in terms of Buddhism, suicide is still not recommended as long as there is a possibility that we can move forward, even one millimeter, toward enlightenment.

If possible, I would like to make further efforts so that everyone can have a proper Buddhist connection, and so that we can follow a clean flow of good towards enlightenment so that we can follow a clean flow of good towards enlightenment.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

There is no god who scolds meteorites, even if a meteorite falls to Earth and all life dies out. The universe is still in no trouble. In that sense, life has no “absolute” value.
The reason why human life is precious is that human hearts communicate with each other. Obsession is born from getting involved with people, so love people, and it hurts when a connected heart is broken. There are also cases where the death of a pet is sadder than a human being. Conversely, it's cash, and it's not sad when how many people you don't know die. They are adorable because they empathize, and after all, life has only “relative” value. And since everyone has different degrees, people also have different values about life. Therefore, “I'm so sad, why aren't you sad?” Comparing the extent of things like that is nonsense.
Therefore, at the same time, it is selfish for you to arbitrarily interpret someone else's grief as “temporary sadness.” If that person passes away, there are definitely people who will be so sad that they will remain traumatized for the rest of their lives, even if it is temporary for you. Since comparing is nonsense, measuring someone else's inner heart is also nonsense. It is a common mistake to generalize personal experiences that only exist in a small world after all to the world. Can you imagine the diversity of others' values?
Furthermore, it is nonsense to talk about the value of life on the premise that you will continue to suffer. There is also talk of euthanasia after suffering due to an incurable illness, but since basic difficulties in life are born from attachment in Buddhism, there are any number of ways to escape (relieve) them. Bullying in particular is typical of this, but since children have a narrow field of view, schools have become everything in the world. So if you look at it objectively, it makes me think that even though it's just a school, I have no choice but to die. Sufferers usually forget to doubt their environment.
Continuing to live while suffering is nonsense in itself. If so, don't you think it would be a “waste” to think about it normally and bring the curtain down without permission? There might be lots of fun things to do again. People who volunteer to commit suicide are hopeless and unable to imagine the future. I'm not in a state where I can make rational decisions about my life. If you were to ask the person in question the value of life, saying, “It's up to you to die and live,” it's after you let them get out of despair.

Buddhism is a teaching about finding a way of life while living in which it is okay to die and not to die while living.
That's probably what you should be looking for. Don't hold on too much to your own answers, let go of the heavy monster, and move lightly towards a brighter direction.
Sadly, people don't choose death.
Unexpected accidents, illnesses, sudden deaths, and more importantly, we do this for others.
We really need to know that we are going to die someday.
It also affects someone even after death.
A limited finite life.
People will die if either the breath they inhale or exhale is over, even with just one breath now.
Even if a great answer comes up by discussing, thinking, and philosophizing about death, the head that thinks at that time is in a state equal to being dead even though it seems to be alive. why? That's because you deal with your partner in your head, something called death that won't happen to you until you die. That is probably the case for you now. I'm not feeling well. People who really understand this place don't deal with a world that won't die now, and they value a limited life. Then, they shift and change this life in the direction of living the best and best.
Seek a way to live without loss, sorrow, or hesitation in your heart.
It can also be said that it is the greatest purpose of our lives.
That's why we should seek the clarity and peace of enlightenment and nirvana, and find the best relationships with people living today.
The moment North Korea's Kim Jong-un, who once thought he was a bad guy and enemy, joined hands with the South Korean president, it created a sense of relief in people around the world.
Until now, it was thought that we should fight, and even that we should go to war.
That was supposed to be right.
However, history has also turned the world upside down.
Humans sometimes misunderstand that what they are doing right now is correct.
They may be in a state of secret searching in an attempt to come up with a certain answer due to the psychological state they have now fallen into. “Don't die” is a human rule and idea.
If you set up something like that and discuss good and bad, right and wrong, is it OK to eat pandas, koalas, and ibises if there is a food shortage? There's no end to it.
So don't fall into an argument for the sake of argument.
In the meantime, people get older.
You should live more than a world where your ex-boyfriend beckons from another world...
Where do you think it is?
towards the brighter side.
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