How to deal with abusive language

“Why do these people go out of their way to make statements that increase the number of enemies?”
that's absolutely not it

“How should we deal with these people?”
First, let's consider whether it's someone worth fighting with, and whether it's a case worth worrying about.
Of course, there are some unforgivable things that cannot be overlooked. However, in my experience, even if it's a little annoying, most of it actually isn't worth fighting over (laughs). Conversely, if you poke a corner of a heavy box from one end at a time and make a fuss about power harassment, sexual harassment, or moral harassment, maybe you can win in court, but you'll just be labeled a troublesome person by God who doesn't touch him and is just a nuisance.

“I would gladly absorb honest advice.”
As you said, you should honestly listen to and absorb advice and advice that is nutritious for you. However, not everyone always has the ability to express themselves accurately, nor does it necessarily mean that they have time to thoroughly explain until you can really nod.

Both rants and disgust,
Try eating it for now without saying anything like it or not, and if you absorb only the nutrients you need,

After that, let's excrete it as poop.

I think there are various ways to deal with it.
One way is to think that your partner is far from the Buddha. It is the Buddha (state of enlightenment) that can see oneself and others without distinction, and it is the Buddha's way of looking at things, and the Buddha doesn't have the worry of being arrogant. However, that person is bothered by arrogance, and since they go on rants at others, it means that they are in a position very far from the Buddha. You are in a position much closer to the Buddha. Therefore, this person still doesn't have enough Buddhist training, thinking that they are far from the Buddha, and they listen to it with pity.
The second method is to interpret the other person's words in a positive way.
“You can't do anything!”
When I was told, in my heart, “This person is worried about me, and if I don't create even one field I'm good at, I won't be able to do it from now on. Let's interpret it as “I thought, and I must have just said such harsh words.”
“Your parents' upbringing was bad, wasn't it?”
When I was told, in my heart, “My parents must have worked hard to raise me with love. I'm going to do my best in my studies and work to repay those parents. Let's interpret it as “I thought, and ended up saying such harsh words.”
“Human scum”
When I was told, “I know you can do it if you do it. However, the public eye is tough. If you make a slight mistake, you'll be treated as scum. But don't let that discourage you. I want them to use that failure as food for further growth. I dare say it's a scum right now, but that is the opposite of the feeling that I want them to become great human resources. Let's interpret it as “I thought so I just said it,” and listen to it.
The third method is to return it exactly as it is in your heart.
When someone rants you, think in your heart, “That's about you, isn't it?”
Or think, “I'll give it back to you.”

There are probably other ways. Please learn how to listen to meaningless rants in a way that suits you, and for the future.
Please don't lose.

　I think both sincere opinions and yelled opinions are the same. There are also people who often say things that don't hurt their partner as much as possible by saying tea in a muddy way or in a roundabout way, but I think the feelings they have in their hearts are the same.
(harsh words) (kind words)
“You can't do anything!” → “You're a kid who can do it.”
“Your parenting was bad, wasn't it?” → “It's not your fault. Don't worry about it.”
“Human scum” → “If you can't do it, you should do it until you can. Go for it.”
What do you think. To put it bluntly, what you did is powerful harassment. However, it was violent. That's a tough word. Then, power harassment and praise to death by changing the shape and praising await this time. Also, subordinates who are praised by their superiors only do what they have been praised for, work hard because they want to be praised, and before they know it, they die from overwork... Since they were praising them, they weren't actually certified as power harassment... and left unattended.
It may also be important not to be fooled by words and to receive the thoughts hidden in the depths of words. It's also important for bosses to pay attention according to their individual personalities. But the most important thing is not to do to others what you don't like being done to yourself. They seem to understand themselves, but they don't understand it.

The taunts affixed deep in the mountains are safe taunts because they don't reach anyone even if taunts exist there.
The same goes for bad words written in the back of the internet.
No matter who the taunts people say to themselves are directed at, no one will get hurt if they don't pick it up.
At the same time, who also said the taunts that person uttered?
It's just that you were there.
You don't have to do everything to yourself.
The bad words and taunts only came from there.
No human being is a perfect person, nor is he a saint.
You're not perfect either.
That person isn't perfect either.
It's not perfect, so you don't need to demand high humanity from your partner.
It's not perfect. It's not fixed. It's not absolute, so you don't have to be yourself or anything like yourself.
Thoughts that acknowledge myself that this is me, I am me, and that kind of thinking becomes a cover for the ego. If you have an ego trap, your opponent's words will also clash.
So we need to be more flexible.
It's better not to have something fixed and stiff called “this is me.” When my head gets stiff, my posture, stance, and way of life become tight.
Be more flexible.
How supple should I be?
Let's be as supple as bullet repeller and Ina Bauer from the movie “The Matrix.”
If your opponent's words are bullets, don't take them in.
The bullets have already passed.
It's about reversing and dodging with a scaly Inabauer.
Let's remember “it's useless” even when something is being said.
However, let's just listen carefully to the purpose of what is being said. If you don't listen, don't listen, it's just an escape. It makes words work to the point where they don't work.
In Zen, there is something called a public plan.
“You really are an idiot.”
People get caught up in words like this.
The Bali Zogon you were told doesn't hold on there either. Don't get carried away.
When a self-styled view of self and self-opinion arises there, life collapses with just one word. It shouldn't be such a crumbling sand castle. A married partner may utter outrageous words after marriage.
So I didn't overreact and laughed and said, “Hi Hi. I'm not saying that. The best thing is to be able to play it to the extent of “(laughs).”
People who are strong when it comes to scolding are weak people.