Worries that come from a child's bad years

Hello Shizu-san.

You've entered the bad phase of being a toddler, haven't you? Thank you for your hard work. What's more, it looks like your husband has entered a bad period too (laughs).
As you already know, what you don't like is the growth of your ego. That's proof that it's growing properly. Toddlers probably have their own logic as to why they don't like it, but that's something parents don't understand. You don't need to worry about things you don't understand. It means you don't have to understand it. Trying to understand is exhausting. This is because for young children, it's just a feeling, so they don't understand why they don't like it. That's because I don't like it even if the answers are correct. What's important is that it's also important to make them sick. It means you shouldn't hold back your earbuds. If you don't hate it, you won't grow. That's why you think your parents don't like it and you should touch them. There is no need to stop yay yay. You should dislike it. Once you're tired, you'll be settled. And the bad season will pass at some point, and now we will start to think things rationally. The last thing parents should do is not get swayed because they don't like it. And don't get angry. All you have to do is keep up, hold the crying, and respond.

When it comes to raising children, your heart doesn't get angry, and if you do something bad, it will turn your face off! It's important to make them remember it with their senses. Or, if you make a lot of noise in people, take off the seat for a moment, hug and shake, sing a song, and bring the toddler's feelings to a different place, it will be easier to settle in.

Good luck! Please raise children. Rather than trying to be liked by your husband, help your wife do housework even harder than children! Please tell them that the boy was saying (laughs). Gassho

I read your question.

Men have to be strong.
Shizu-sama doesn't accept her husband.
My husband can ride on his own. I won't be spoiled by my wife and I will grow on my own.
“Raising children does not go according to parents' convenience”
Accepting that reality is also an important process from husband to parent.

There will come a time when I will be separated from my parents.
You may not be able to accept it, but you need to be prepared.
Rehearsals for that...
This isn't a conversation between a married couple; it would be nice if dads were related to each other.
It would be nice if there was someone who could talk about this conversation as if dads lick each other's wounds...

For children, when they're not crying
“There were times when I wanted to cry, but that was awful.”
Make a voice to evaluate your attitude when you're not crying,
I think you'll get tired if you don't know when you don't like it.

I wonder if I'm in a bad season like this? I've overcome it.
I still have a 2 year old child now.
First of all, never use rotten words such as demon's second year or bad age.
Those words are negative words. It works bad for the heart.
Every time I cry, I associate it with “oh, that's because it's a bad period.”
I feel like I'm being victimized.
However, there is one thing I want to do, and since it doesn't go the way I want, “I can only express it by crying,” the person himself is also suffering.
Let's think that mothers are designed to improve motherhood skills, compassion skills, and affection skills through “just being attuned to them and understanding what I want to do” to that suffering.
I don't mind if my husband is Mr. Hotke.
It would be nice to say something like, “It seems like I will naturally fall for my dad after this period.”
The important thing is ❝ not to wear your heart out ❞.
Even if the weather is clear, cloudy, and rainy, there is no such thing as a “loss.”
If there are people who get hurt every time by the weather, then every day becomes bleak.
If there are people who don't like it when it's hot when it's sunny, they don't like being cloudy, and they don't like being wet, that person says, “What a sad way of life suffering from waste!”
You should think about the weather as if it were anything good.
When the weather clears up, the laundry is dry and it's so cool.
If it's raining, the air will be moisturized, vegetables will grow, and it will be great if the water armed conflict is lifted.
You can do whatever you want if the clouds are clear and helpful.
A child's crying doesn't originally mean that it's lost, unhappy, or bad.
I'm just crying and giving an SOS signal.
Certainly, it's tough if it continues every time.
But even so, there must be times when you are in a good mood.
It's about making Fit-chan feel sorry for not being able to understand when it's a pity. Even so, there may be times when you can't stop crying.
At times like that, they search in order from the top in the field of the five senses and six senses.
Maybe it's not dazzling, isn't there an annoying sound, it's not smelly, there's something you want to eat, maybe the position of your clothes or diapers is uncomfortable, or you're lonely...
It's about treating them as “adults who cry a lot.”
It is effective to ask your husband to ask for it in a little while.
There are also aspects where men can do it in a mission-like manner, so it is effective to ask for it.

It's proof that children are growing up as humans, so they should originally be happy.
You need to let your husband understand that place.
I told my husband, “It must have been the same when you were a kid this age over 1 year old. Just ask your parents. Please tell them, “Look at my child with the feeling that I was like this too.”