What is a married couple?

that's right... Raising children is lonely, and children cannot be raised just by being cute. It's also stressful, isn't it? Follow-up from a husband is also a necessary balance of mind for a wife.
And yet, when you're indifferent or blamed at work, it becomes more and more painful, doesn't it?

I'm sure what happened before has become a gap between the two.

I wonder what a married couple is.
A relationship where we respect and enhance each other.
Well, this is ideal, isn't it?
That's because we're going to live together. We can see various parts, understand, forgive each other, and pretend not to see. Even so, I feel lonely when I'm alone, and maybe I want to be with someone... I'm sure it would be nice to have a variety of marriage shapes.

Put your feelings into proper words and discuss them.

“I had an affair twice in the past”
“Satisfy your desire for approval by posting indecent photos of yourself, or write complaints about your husband”
Well, well, they're doing a mess.

“My husband found out about it last year”
the point is, they found out?
I apologized because I found out.

” They say, “If it's hard for me to keep you, you should look for someone else,” so it's not easy to complain.”
In other words, in real terms, your husband probably doesn't like you anymore.

“I've been wondering more and more what a married couple is”
That's not what you said, is it? You all mentioned painful things, but you are unmistakably the person who destroyed the dream of a warm family that your husband would have imagined. The person who did the cruelest thing to your husband and child was yourself.

“Is it no good anymore?”
My husband will decide that in due time.

“How should I tell you?”
What are you trying to tell me? Are you dissatisfied?
Instead of trying to somehow communicate your dissatisfaction, shouldn't you just keep quiet and endure it? Rather, my husband, who didn't get divorced right away, is really calm and unfortunate.

Anyway, I'm glad. so they've been living together until at least today? You should sincerely appreciate that you were able to live with your whole family today, day by day tomorrow... instead of trying to make an order somehow.

While living together and raising children are extremely stressful, they are currently pregnant and emotionally unstable, and I'm guessing that they are both mentally and physically tired.

Since it's a married couple, there are probably mutual factors when it comes to things that don't go well, and there are times when we can't judge just what we've heard from you here. However, since you have come to rely on this, I would like to think about it together.

You think “we want to continue walking together,” so it would be nice if this feeling could be conveyed to your husband...

Even though you acknowledge your own faults, you are also dissatisfied with your husband, and if you tell him about it, he will get angry.

The parts where they don't reach each other are noticeable.

“I'm like this, but I'll fix that, and so you're like this, fix that!”

They don't really communicate well even when they bump into each other. If you do that, it becomes a fight over which one is right, and you focus only on your opponent's shortcomings rather than your own imperfections when you should have looked at each other.

As written here, “I think my father's existence is huge,” “I want him to do this, I want him to say I want him to do it, I want him to do that,” and above all else, I want to convey the feeling that “I want to continue walking together”, and above all else, I want to convey these with soft words and expressions.

Even so, if you tell them directly, if the corner stands, consider setting up another person between the couple. Since they live together, they probably feel like their husband is in a strong position. However, there is also a hearsay strategy using cohabitation here.

Other than that, I talked to my mother-in-law, “I'm really grateful to my husband...” “it was really helpful that you did me a little bit...”, “I'd be happy if you did this a little bit, but I couldn't say anything...”, etc., and if it is transmitted from the mother-in-law to the husband, the husband may take it with a sense of emptiness.

Men are troublesome, aren't they? But I'm sure they have pride. While acknowledging that pride, if you can roll around well with the palm of your hand... the couple might be safe too.

Instead of fighting over each other's correctness, take the stance of asking the other party while acknowledging your own faults. Don't forget to thank them.
After that, it would be nice if we could find a place other than a married couple where they can take a break.

I'm rooting for you.

It's a lot of trouble.
I read the text, but it's kind of sad.

Maybe I was able to spend a little more peaceful time raising children if someone had a nice remark.
Would Yukina's attitude change if her husband had taken more care of her?
I can't even see the support of my husband's parents, who live with me, from the text.
If there was a saying “people grow” rather than “never change,” was there hope?

The question “What is a married couple”
Before thinking about it, I think we should think about “what is a family.”
If people just blame you for right and wrong, you're headed straight to the path of Shura.
If the person you are protecting doesn't have mercy or compassion, then you don't know what to believe.

If you're still heavy, put your own health first.
If you don't have friends in the house, one way is to ask them to listen to you at a women-related organization.

I don't think a child's life is a weight that only a married couple can carry.
So, it's not an unchanging argument, and if you can't talk about how to arrange and make up for what's lacking,
I feel sorry for the mother and her children.
This is an age where if you want to be your husband Kanpaku, you need that much courage and worth.

I like it but it's sad..

Hello, Yukina.

It's hard. Even if they want to be a good couple themselves, they are swept away by the relaxation of their heart. I think it's a human weakness. Even if they are married, they are both immature people. There is no choice but to live while facing various problems and reflecting on them each time. I think the couple's divorce is just like each other. I think I'm aware that you have the cause, but I don't think he doesn't have it at all. I understand that you have had your own hardships.

However, if you really want to get along with your husband without getting divorced, you must have bigger vessels than your husband. Instead of being dissatisfied with your husband's attitude, if you don't have the feeling or measure to accept your husband's complaints, you won't be able to beat your husband's ability to forgive an affair. Being able to do that said, “I'm glad my husband is my wife. I have to make enough effort to make my wife think, “Even though my wife was at fault, it was my fault too.” It's difficult, but it's the only way for a happy couple.

But if your husband wants to get divorced, you also need to be prepared to accept it. If it's for the sake of children, there are cases where it is better to show parents who are single and working hard rather than the couple getting along. Don't just let your kids out and run away from yourself.

If you become alone and, conversely, live your life powerfully, and live a lively and happy life, your children will grow up well, and I think a new man who loves you will also appear. More than that, you'll think that the husband you broke up with “made a mistake.” That's your goal.

Please be firm about yourself and make up your mind to live without getting caught up in a divorce or not. Your husband doesn't create happiness in your life. Yukina, you make it. You're still in your 20s, and even if your marriage fails, your life is still long. Please don't worry about it, accept your current real suffering and do your best.

Please feel free to contact us anytime. I'm rooting for you. Gassho