Being able to do it from people is natural

My name is Kameyama Junshi.
You're not alone in expecting the other person's actions, putting yourself on the shelf when they don't live up to expectations, and feeling dissatisfied. We always say, “I am the only one who is right.” “I wouldn't do that.” But isn't it easy to say and act in an exaggerated way?

There's a story idiom called “stone from another mountain.” When I looked up the meaning of this word, it said, “A boring stone from another mountain. In turn, the wrong words and actions of others help me in my own cultivation.” It has become. For me, the meaning of this phrase is, “There are boring stones in other mountains, but we have the feeling that there are no such stones in our own mountains, and that makes us suffer.” It sounds like that. And I think we usually think “our own stone is not included in the stones from other mountains (the wrong words and actions of others).”

So how can we get away from these thoughts? Unfortunately, I don't think we can completely break away from these thoughts. This is because being self-centered is the essence of human beings.

However, we can live in a world where our self-centered heart is enveloped. That is the nenbutsu called “Namu Amida Buddha.” When you're angry, how about praising Nembutsu as “Namu Amida Buddha and Namu Amida Buddha”? “Namu Amida Buddha” is “leave your self to me (Amida Nyorai).” It's a call from the Buddha. Even if you say “Namu Amida Buddha or Namu Amida Buddha,” it doesn't mean that you will change yourself. It's just that the way you are (being self-centered) is revealed. However, where the state of self is revealed through nembutsu, a world of wishes (original prayer) that “I (Amida Nyorai) will save” opens up, and we can live there.

These are my answers. I would be happy to help you even a little bit.

It's natural for someone to do it for you.
That's not a bad thing.

Everyone was like that when they were babies.
It's natural to do something for the baby.
Are you hungry, sleepy, or painful
Thanks to adults who paid attention to young children and took it for granted, the present exists.

What can I do?
What do people value?
Do people think this way of thinking?

If you take that point of view somewhere in your heart before appreciating or making them happy, I think the path you will naturally follow will change.

Basically, as you gain experience, you'll be able to change your mind little by little.
Humans have three kinds of experiences.
Body work (doing it with the body), oral work (doing it with language), and intention (doing it with the mind).
In addition to consciousness, it may be important to practice giving shape (returning favors, giving thanks, service to others) with the body or words.

I'm kind of perverse, so if I get something from someone else, I feel a sense of burden like “I was able to borrow it.” (Not a virtue such as restraint.)
However, on the contrary, when doing something to others, I feel happy if they are happy, and I'm sorry that people worry about returning the favor.
It's really selfish.

I think people who don't hesitate to accept something when they are asked to do something are characters that the world needs.

It's probably a sad state of exhaustion where the only thing you can rely on is “self-consciousness.”
I try to lay down my own rules for my opponents because I have nothing but my own sense of self. This creates anger and discomfort.
People who feel pleasure in laying down their own rules are called stupid.
The only way to get out of that shabby is to awaken to a higher quality of mental and physical pleasure.
It's not a pleasure; it's something that makes you feel at ease and at ease. In Buddhism, it is called pleasure (pleasure).
It's the serenity of a heart where I've been destroyed.
When I experience the world around that, everything is perceived as just an immaculate fact “because I don't exist.”
You can live your life without only losing your sense of self while remaining your own self.
No matter how egoistic a person is, they have a self before their own rules.
You just don't notice it.
Originally, I wasn't doing my own rules or trying to lay down my own rules from the beginning.
Humans don't take their first zero steps.
The first step is to try to be yourself is “human” and “egotistical = egoistic.”
The first step in living a Buddhist sense of selflessness is to leave it alone.
I'd like to say that zazen meditation is recommended, but try it next time you're sleepy with MAX.
If your head shakes from drowsiness, this is your chance.
There is a moment when my egotistical self disappears due to drowsiness.
This is more valuable than zazen depending on the use.
When you reach zero, try moving your mind without yourself from there.
You can meet your missing self.
To change the depths of your mind is to become aware of your missing self and live your life as you are.