My son's rebellious period in high 2

When Taka was struggling with her divorce, my son was probably just in the middle of studying for the entrance exam. I think most boys will be in a rebellious period around that time, but I'm sure they were careful about their parents in their own way and weren't able to rebel. The reason I thought “something will work out” probably meant that I wanted to run away from my life back then, so I think it was unavoidable.

It is also said that boys rebel against their mother in preparation for leaving the nest, and it is also said that it is an instinct to avoid looking at their mother as the opposite sex, so they say, “Maybe I'm being too kind (too pampering) to my son? “No way, did it make me feel like a woman too much?” It would be nice if you could think positively about it.

Even so, even though they are trying their best to somehow rebuild their lives while they can't afford it financially, it's painful to be denied themselves by only one family. Do you have any rewards for doing your best? I watched movies, ate sweets, and drank alcohol. Once in a while, I think it's okay to secretly give yourself a reward, as long as you get the hang of it.

Before the shock of the divorce cooled down,
It's tough during my son's rebellious period, isn't it?
Is it just a normal rebellious period for everyone
Or is there something due to divorce?
Maybe my son himself doesn't really understand it either.
Wouldn't it be nice to have a sense of distance without sticking to it and not leaving?
How was Taka's own rebellious period?
Please take yourself back to who you were back then and think about it.
If you still don't understand, why don't you talk to someone the same age as your son?
It's probably unavoidable to worry and worry,
It's a passing point for becoming an adult that everyone has experienced at least once.
Take good care of yourself and watch over your son's growth.

Please leave them alone first. (^o^)
If you get involved poorly, excessive taunts will fly in.
Please think that cooking meals has given you more time to do things for yourself.
It's not a time to think rationally, and they don't even teach the character for gratitude.
Please think of it as a physiological thing. (^o^)
The person himself isn't that aware either.
“Ah, boys are like that, aren't they?”
“That's how you form a boy's personality, isn't it?”
“On the contrary, it's rare for a mother and child to be sticky at this age, isn't it?”
The interference is moderate, but it's a bit appealing that I'm on your side. It's annoying, but it stabs me in the back 💛
For him, he is now in a situation where he is on the battlefield.
This period for schools and boys is an important period for protecting one's self-esteem and establishing one's own position, and a time when one cannot relax. There are also things like that, and it's just being eaten by my mom who is the only one who can be spoiled.
You may be thinking that your Corinstar (divorce) may be the cause, but it's at most 30%.
My father, who suppresses me, is no longer there, so there are places where I am somewhat open. Please step back a bit from the stance of treating them as a mother, and think that the time has come when I have to remove this child's subjectivity, no, my “of.”
In a sense, it's a step up for mom.
Congrats. It's probably uneasy, so please feel free to contact us. That's because it's a group of naughty boys, including me, and Bowes.

My parents separated when I was in the second year of middle school and got divorced 2 years later. From then on, I lived with my mother until I got married.
What was it like when I was in my second year of high school? Looking back... I didn't go home very often (^^;)
I stayed at my friend's house and walked, and I went to school from my friend's house.
But my mother didn't say anything. When I think about it now, I think they tried so hard to believe in me, and I'm grateful m (_ _) m
A high school boy is standing at the entrance of an adult. Please keep a little distance and watch over them (^_^)

To Taka-san

Nice to meet you. I'm close to my son's age, so I'd like to be able to convey a little bit of my kids' thoughts. It's just my opinion.

It may be slightly different between girls and boys, but I was in a rebellious period from the upper grades of elementary school until I graduated from high school. At first, it was triggered by the school I wanted to apply to for the junior high school entrance exam. The school I wanted my parents to attend didn't match the school I wanted to go to, and at the time I said, “It's my parents' ego!!” I thought so. Eventually, even though I passed the school I wanted to go to, I went to the school my parents said, and if things didn't go well at school, I said “I didn't want to go to this school” over and over again.
The end of the rebellious period was when I was preparing to enter college. When I calculated admission fees, tuition fees, etc., it was a tremendous amount of money, and what I thought “I passed” changed to “it was thanks to my parents that I was able to pass and enroll.”

During the rebellious period, you can't believe what your parents or the adults around you say. It's probably an important time for self-determination, but I just want to refute my opponent. Maybe that's why they start denying it.
During the rebellious period, there are times when I regret “why did I say such a thing,” but it's kind of frustrating that I seem to have acknowledged my own fault. That's why it's hard to say “I'm sorry.”

It may be difficult for Taka-san, but why don't you make a day to talk? There may be arguments, but I think what children are most afraid of during the rebellious period is being thrown out. The results that can only be said to parents, and that only parents can say, may become rants.

I think the relationship between parents and children will become stronger as they collide during the rebellious period. (That's me.)

　I don't think there's anything to worry about high school students being rebellious. The other monks are already right.
I'm worried that the mother will rebel against her son. Critics and experts say, “Treat them with love.” They say things like that, but I'm worried about Taka, who is dependent on children. Do you want to be loved by your son? Do you want to overprotect your son? Do you want him to be a strong-willed son? Do you want him to be a kind son? Aren't you thinking about the opposite? For the most part, what is raising children. I raised it myself. I put up with a lot of things thinking about you. that's selfish. There's a difference between hardship and misfortune. Taka-san is happy. That's because I'm trying to communicate with my son using his rebellious period as material. This is not even a conversation. If you don't meet face to face, retreat to your room, or run away from home (at best, be a monk), there's nothing you can do about it anymore. My life has already been rebuilt. Isn't there something to be done?
This is a time for children to grow up watching their parents' backs. Please enjoy your life. Once in a while, I go to a drinking party with my colleagues at work and come home drunk. Show me that adults are fun. Don't depend on your son. Instead of using the rebellious period as an issue, stand up as a parent when there are specific issues such as refusal to go to school, bullying, or poor grades. Overinterference, overprotection, and love are different things. It's not the Lion King, is it? Wouldn't it be okay to drop the lion cub? don't worry!