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I was bullied and decided to quit...

I was bullied at my part-time job.
My opponent is a person (one person) who is in the same part-time job and entered the same period 2 years ago.

If you also talk to the store manager,
“It's not like you did anything. I want you to do your best at work because I'll do something about it.”
I was told that, and I believed it.

But it just escalates.
I had no choice but to go to the headquarters consultation desk of my part-time job (major chain store).

As a result of interviewing the store manager,
It seems that they haven't handled anything until now.

Afterwards, the person at the head office and the store manager had a discussion.
I pay the hourly wage for the scheduled shift,
(There are times when things can be thrown at me)
I was told that I might get hurt if I stayed like this, and I should quit.

I was exhausted both mentally and physically, and I accepted it.

I have no regrets.
I'm sure I'll be able to work under better conditions next time! or,
Let's do things we haven't been able to do until now in our free time! or
Remembering new things is a hassle, but you can meet new places and people! I think so.

though.
The manager did nothing, and the perpetrator remained at the part-time job,
That I, the victim, had to quit.

This result is unreasonable, sad, and painful.

If I don't decide on my next job and end up breaking my neck like this...
I am struck by so much anxiety.

I would be grateful if you could say something.

6 Zen Responses

The company took the wrong action

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you.
I'm glad I broke ties with a company that can only handle unreasonable things.
Maybe someday they'll do the same thing again.

Will you give up on the company or fight against the company

 You must have had a hard time. Also, when I read Miya's question, I feel angry at the company's response. Well, I think it was painful.

Consultation desks for labor issues include the Labor Standards Inspection Office, the Tokyo Labor Consultation Information Center, and Law Terrace. Also, I think there are NPO corporations in the private sector that can respond to labor consultations. However, even if you consult at such a place, I think it would be necessary to prove that they were bullied by Miya and that the company acted unfairly. In this day and age, it may be necessary to record videos with a smartphone, record with a voice recorder, or record the actual situation of bullying by colleagues or unfair responses on the company side.
If there is no very objective evidence, I don't think the government office will move. For actual specific consultation cases and responses, it may be helpful to search for “Yahoo wisdom bag” or “tell me go”.

There may be ways to fight against companies that only treated you unfairly, but I think it will take quite a bit of energy and time for you to fight alone. Even if Miya had persevered and remained at work, it might have run into an even worse situation since it is a company that only responds to that level after all. Please take your retirement positively and do your best in your job search so that you can find a better place to work.

Furthermore, there are more than a few black companies in the world, and I think there are many workplaces with bosses and colleagues who are powerfully harassing and sexually harassing. I think there are companies that respond properly to such issues, and there are also companies that just ignore or eliminate them. Using this case as a lesson, we will acquire know-how to not succumb to bullying and harassment. I'm going to make myself capable of fighting bullying. Please accept that it was an opportunity to study for that.

It looks like you've gone through a lot of trouble.
Maybe I'm glad I quit such a company.
It means that I've already quit my job, so now I don't need to worry anymore.
It may be frustrating when you remember and think about a lot of things, but I don't need to do that anymore.
You should have felt lighter and refreshed, and after that, your memories will disappear over time. Don't try to remember them one by one; even if you do, leave them alone. Think of it as a waste of time, and let's enrich the refreshed life we've been freed up ^_^

Sincerity as a person

Bullying is something you shouldn't do.
That person still doesn't realize what they're doing.
First of all, they were able to do their best in a very difficult situation.
I'm glad you haven't reached the worst and are safe.
It means that people who bully don't have decent personalities.
There is trouble and deficiency in my heart.
Who are you looking for sincerity with?
Identify whether it's the store manager or the person who bullied you.
As for me, I was flustered with the birth of my third child the other day.
A female scar of about 3 centimeters was made on the face of a newborn girl and on the baby Hoppe with a scalpel.
It was right under my eyes. (It's dangerous)
Sorry for the “common occurrence.” The baby can't say anything.
A few days have passed without any explanation from the surgeon's director.
I was dissatisfied, and today I would like to ask you exactly how that wound was formed, and ask what should be done.
If that doctor isn't sincere, I won't just file a lawsuit, but I'm also considering making a public statement.
“The question is whether the other party is sincere or not.” You should ask that too.
In the case of my child, I'm glad it just didn't stick in the eye because it was a cheek (^<^). Unnecessary antibiotics have been given, and antibiotics that would otherwise be unnecessary must be administered to newborn babies. It was the surgeon who hurt him, so a mistake is a mistake.
However, there was no explanation or apology for the mistake.
It's probably the same for you. It's a problem where you were safe, but even though you were bullied, it's not enough that you're glad you were safe.
That's it. this is it.
I think we should hand over a letter and insist that we apologize and not cause victims in the future.
The fault I should cure today is “the attitude of doctors who are trying to get rid of medical mistakes even though they have made them.”
What you should correct is “two people who don't acknowledge bullying even though they have been bullied”, isn't it?
We must stand up against tyranny.
You should tell the person in question that you felt very sad to have been bullied in a letter.
“It was very painful for me to be bullied by you. I won't forgive you for the rest of my life until you really sincerely apologize.” By conveying it roughly, sincerity will one day be born within that person.

There is always a workplace that suits you.

 I was also bullied at work, and I quit. People around me ask, “Why did you quit?” “That kind of thing is everywhere.” I was told, and for some reason I was blamed. Right now, hourly wages are low, but I have found a job that suits me and am living a meaningful life. (Incidentally, it's a side job...) Someday I'll find a workplace that suits me. You might have a bit of a hard time right now, but please be patient and look for it.
“There is only one branch of plum blossom behind snow” (I thought it would be a harsh winter with only snow, but plum blossom buds are attached to plum branches. It's different from the original meaning (spring comes in any harsh winter), but I translate it like this. The deeper meaning takes longer, so think about it for yourself. Find your own answers.
I was bullied, but at my time, according to rumors in the wind, after that, they were blamed for bullying, made to quit, and now they seem to be missing. When I think about it now, I think what's really painful is the person who bullied me. I think there is always something called compensation waiting for people who have been bullied in a certain way at your workplace. Whether or not they can overcome it is up to that person...
It is said that being bullied “memories disappear over time,” but they don't go away. I still come up in my dreams. How about that? If you do poorly, it will remain a scar for a lifetime. Memories don't go away. Please live with that on your back. That is, for some reason, as someone who isn't in a position to bully myself. Because even if you were in a position to bully you, you would be reminded of that. There are times when people unknowingly are in a position to bully people. In order not to do that, it is necessary to imagine the other person's feelings on a regular basis.
Please think and act for yourself about what to do next. Maybe it's important not to create people like yourself.
If you're good with yourself, that's fine, then there's nothing different from someone who bullies you.

Added on 1.11. Why did the company choose the offender?

For the time being, I would like to say that it is tough.
Normally, it would be a good idea for the company to fire the offender.
If either the perpetrator or the victim quits, the trouble will go away.
However, the offender remained in the company.
The company chose the other party.

In other words, they lost to their opponents due to their ability to work as employees (at least the evaluation from the company side was higher over there).
Salaried workers and part-time workers are professional workers who sell their labor power to companies, etc.
Promoting yourself to customers (companies that buy your labor) is also an important job for professionals.
Also, team play with other employees is important.
If you were overwhelmingly more competent than the perpetrator, the company would have fired the perpetrator.
I lost the professional competition.
My opponent was one card better.
Why don't you think carefully about how you do your own work for the future?
Postscript 1/11
I see, since companies are required to hire a fixed rate of people with disabilities, the company probably didn't want to fire the perpetrators.