It's tough

It seems like I haven't had any luck since a long time ago, so I'm deceived by people, and my fun memories disappear.
Honestly, I'm serious.
They also call the government office to apologize when they make a mistake in sorting garbage.

I've been engaged in marriage hunting for many years.
Even if you are in a relationship, it will be useless in a short period of time, such as being painful to meet or being abandoned by your partner.
The reason I'm being abandoned doesn't seem to be that I'm being selfish.
There are places where they put up with it without getting angry even when something bad happens to them.
I was in a relationship with someone I met at a marriage agency for close to a year, but it gradually became cold. When I asked if they were doing that because they wanted to get away, they said they wanted to keep a distance because they wanted to avoid getting bogged down, and when they did, they found out that they were in a relationship with a different person, and the sad result was that.
Marriage hunting scams have continued to be difficult in the past.
It usually gets worse to the point where it's funny and goes bad.
Half a year would be enough.
If you don't feel kindness from your partner, you'll be afraid and you won't be able to say anything.

When I was given a spiritual vision by a temple, I was told that no matter how hard I tried, there would be no results due to ancestral causes or something.
I have received suggestions that I can do a memorial service for my ancestors by continuing for at least 3 years for 12,000 yen per month, but I feel like I'm being deceived again, and I'm worried.

4 Zen Responses

Things I want to do before thinking about cause and effect

There is certainly a cause and effect from our ancestors. This is something that everyone, limited to you, has, so it's nothing special.
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It's impossible to just tell serious people to do it. Let's cherish that seriousness.
On top of that, let's have a hobby through lessons such as calligraphy and work to improve your attractiveness.
If attractiveness improves, deceivers will not come close, and good relationships will also increase.
It's not too late to think about the cause and effect of your ancestors.
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By the way, let's stop saying how much it costs to do a memorial service for our ancestors every month.

Don't trust monks who say threatening things

Being serious isn't a bad thing (^-^)
It's also great to be able to truly trust people.

It is said that they have had a difficult experience in the past. I think it's a little different to not trust people because of that. The person you cheated on in the past and the person you will meet in the future are different people. If you compare or try things over and over, you won't really be able to see your opponent.

Please take a look at that person itself without putting your past on it. Then, check it out.

Men think they'll take good care of their partner by being spoiled. If you don't look for perfection in yourself and are a little bit lacking, and you can be spoiled by your partner, I think they'll cherish you too.

Humans are not robots, so they make mistakes. It would be nice if I could say sorry. And it's important that you really care about your partner. Sometimes your opponent might not turn around. That being said, I'm just looking forward to the next encounter.

It's fine for free, so I'll come to my temple

We do zazen sessions every Sunday.
It is extremely effective for people who take too much care and are likely to be crushed by their own delusions.
The fact that I am the one who created such delusions is not this kind of character, and I think the only way to actually notice them is to go out in real life.
If we took a step forward to confront it, we could say that 40 percent of the problems have already been solved.
12,000 yen a month is expensive, isn't it?
At our house, it's 500 yen a week and you'll be able to say goodbye to your problems completely.
It's fine for free from the first time to the 5th session. If it doesn't heal, I don't need any money.
Zazen is also for people like you.
If you want to face yourself, please come.
However, our temple is not a place to learn Buddhism or Zen.
It's a place to learn about yourself.
Like the Buddha, the Buddha did not learn Buddhism or Zen; it means that he realized his own origin, so don't think of it as a place to learn Buddhism.

About “causal relationships”

Masako-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

This time, I would like to explain “causal relationships” in a bit more detail.

Until now, I have mentioned things related to “causality” in each of the following questions, so please refer to this again when you have time.

http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/tag/因縁

First of all, “causation” is simply a “cause and condition,” and honestly, using the causation of an ancestor... or a causal relationship in a previous life... is honestly the wrong way to use it.

No matter what, the word “cause and effect” used in the world has become a bad image, but originally it is neutral and neutral, and I hope you can think that it is simply used when explaining the state of things and things in this world and the state of the world of events and phenomena.

The results, and future results, all depend on “cause and condition.” It is also a mistake to say that a causal relationship cannot be changed or that it is forever immortal.

In Buddhism, something that does not change forever and forever is an independent entity (· self nature, self phase) is denied.

The causal relationship is the result, and the result may also be some kind of causal relationship, it may also cause an outcome, and that result will change in such a way as...

So, if there is a bad trend, it is something that can even be changed if we can adjust good causal relationships, good causes, and good conditions somewhere.

There may be cases where that trend has been carried over at least to some extent from ancestors and previous lives, and there is no denying it, but it is more important than anything else that directly depends on your own causal relationships.

Regarding ancestral memorial services, as the character “memorial service” suggests, “nourish (also),” when it comes to something, it is “good deeds and merits” aimed at enlightenment, and it is important to nurture ancestors, or all sentient beings, towards enlightenment. I would be grateful if you could take this opportunity to think a little bit about acts that are “good deeds and merits.”

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

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