Is it OK to continue like this

I have a boyfriend who I've been dating for 1 year now.
My boyfriend was 2 years younger and we started dating at work together.

My boyfriend is a first-year college student, but he didn't go to school very often, and when it was bad, there were times when he only went to school one day a week. Almost all of the causes are sleepless nights. I go to my distant cousin's college, so I wake up early at 6:00 in the morning. However, since he lives at home, his mother seems to wake him up, but even when he wakes up, it's only a moment, and it seems like he immediately falls back asleep.

Even though they know the next day is school, they play until morning, watch dramas and anime on their cell phones without sleeping, and eventually go to bed at 6:00 the time they wake up.

I also speak harshly about that, but no matter how many times I said it, it didn't change, and he started lying to me that he was annoyed by being told too much, and that he went to school today even though he didn't go to school.

Also, if it's just school, I've recently been absent without permission due to oversleeping part-time work. I stopped working at the same place as the other part-time workers because it would cause trouble for them.

He is laid-back, but he also has a serious side and is kind and interesting, so I was attracted to that and we went out with him.

I like them now, so it's fun to be with them. However, I'm about to start job hunting and become a member of society. He has reached the age of 20, so sometimes he says that it would be nice if we could live together next year. However, he has a sloppy side, so I don't want to live together. I'm not even thinking about marrying him.

To be honest, I think that would be fine if I enjoyed the present, and I'm in a relationship, but we're entering an important period called job hunting, and I think it would be depressing if he was lazy again during that period. I don't even feel like he's changing when he's in second grade.

I'm still young, and I know that if I go out into society, I can still meet people.

Is it ok for me to stay with him like this?

4 Zen Responses

Depends on your measurements

Getting a job is a major milestone in life.
If you don't pull your leg, keep going.
If it gets in the way, cut it off.
Whichever you choose, you're not to blame.
The rest is up to you.

You know it's not good to be in a relationship.

It's just that there are still feelings left,
It's probably impossible to break through.
But eventually, rationality will be reversed.

List his good and bad points
One method is to decide by majority vote.

If you want to sleep and live together

Let's say he proposes to you and you're OK.
I'm sleeping, the next day. that's right.
Let's say you have a wedding. I'm sleeping the next day.
Raise the pillow and make it longer than you. Kooka
And when you wake up, you notice.
“I'm sleeping... really.”
I'll try pinching my cheeks. Ow. It's not a dream.
If that's OK, the two of us can sleep for the rest of our lives. ('-ω-` ('-ω-`) zzz speed
Therefore, he puts his pillow on HIGHH, packs up his luggage while sleeping, leaves a farewell letter at his bedside, and leaves.
The solution is “Don't Remember Spring Sleep Dawn, Meng Haoran's Place (he hasn't come anymore).”
He can continue to wait and live, but he is in a state where he sleeps and waits for the karma. But children who sleep grow up. But I'm not a kid, so growing up is the max.
What's more, we have already attained humanity's last dream, a “life of sleeping and living.”
Therefore, it is expected that they will continue to live an idle life without greed in the future.
You get up early with the three sentence virtue, and even if you get up early, one day you'll end up disgusted that he's cooking meals for sleeping, and you'll get sick of it.
If the environment changes, it will become serious, but I think it will stay the same.
I think you just have to take on the role of waking up your mother.
Your concerns are probably right. I think you're watching things more calmly.
People change depending on the environment, but even if such an unreliable bad man is temporarily solid, I don't think he will continue to be solid long after that.

Older sister's condition

　Good evening. This is an answer from an old man close to 50 years old.
If “I thought it would be nice if I had fun now,” I think it's a good idea to try it out just like that. In other words, if it doesn't get stuck, it will pop up. However, it is doubtful that such a thing can be done. Until then, we can accumulate various experiences together and make memories. In other words, it means “I'm sure my current thoughts will go to waste, but I don't mind.”
I'm young, so I think that will fertilize my life. However, when I read it, I was looking at it with an “older sister” kind of gaze, and I feel that he is also at ease there. They don't seem to help you when you're in a pinch. Well, at that time, it became “not fun,” so I should leave.
So... it doesn't look like they're dating, from my point of view.

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