Why do you think that?

I don't have a mother.

So grandma is doing the housework for me.

I know very well that doing housework is difficult.
That's why I have to help them.

But even if Grandma helps, she says “don't help me” and “don't do anything” when there's even the slightest thing she doesn't like.

That's when I get upset.

Grandma would do anything sweet for dad and older brother.

But when there's something I don't like, they say, “Do the laundry yourself already.”

When I say, “Well, let everyone do it themselves, too,” they say it because everyone is working and do it for them.

My sister was told the same thing as me, but now Grandma is doing it for her.

But I'm the only one who doesn't do it.

I feel like that kind of thing is happening in many situations.

I'm sure it's because I don't match Grandma's personality because I'm willing to keep up with anything, and there are places where I'm being mean.

But I think too much.

I'm the only one who won't do it anyway
I'm the only one anyway what

is that my misunderstanding? are you thinking too much

Or is it intentional

Precisely because I know that there are difficult times
There are times when my heart aches.

But when there's ↑, I think it's a loss just to think about it.

Why do you think so much?
Why can't you be honest?
Why are you comparing them?

Please tell me!

I'm not good at writing sentences and it's a mess, but please.

4 Zen Responses

A woman's enemy is a woman

What does grandma work so hard
I'm a grandmother, but I want to be thought of as the person this family needs.
If you recognize yourself as a young person there, you won't have a place for yourself.

They look at you as an adult woman.

The elderly are weak beings. So I want you to look at it with a little bit of warmth. Please be a kind and attractive woman who cares for the elderly.

It's OK to think, it's OK to think

Why am I the only one against my grandmother? It makes me think. At that time, there's no need to hold back that you shouldn't think about it. Leave it as it is and don't touch that thought. It's just a thought after all.

I'm sure your grandmother is in love with you. Maybe it's the person you can talk to with the most real intentions.
Since ancient times, strangely enough, there are places where grandmothers are kind to men, or rather stand at first sight. It's like taking a step back. In a sense, that may mean that you haven't opened your mind.

You're a woman, and in that sense, your grandmother probably thinks of you as an equal.
No matter how many things I thought about my grandmother, I just let go without pursuing my thoughts. This is the easiest way to live.

Love is love

Good evening, Himawari-chan!
I'm Yuki Shizuku, a monk, a female professional wrestler, and counselor apprentice.

You're having a really hard time right now.
Being kind to your older brother and father, and being treated only by yourself makes you feel lonely, doesn't it?
I think I've been feeling bitter and lonely.

Why do you think that? It's natural to think so.
Please don't think of Himawari-chan as bad or unkind.
And please love yourself.
Himawari-chan isn't bad.
You can say that you don't like what you don't like.
Please say it out loud.

As for my grandmother, I had the same experience.
When my dad wasn't there and my mother wasn't there due to various circumstances, “I don't want to cook you a meal.” “It's hard to cook rice.” l
They say, I'll make the meal for them, and if I make my own bento, I'll remake it and modify it.

My grandmother didn't want to say “it's tough,” nor did she want to reduce the burden of housework.
I wanted to be thought of as a “good grandmother” by using the slightly wrong expression “I'm doing this for you.”

However, people who say “bad things” or can only get involved with people because of “bad things,” can only create relationships with people through “bad things.”
Then, one day, being told bad things turned into joy, and that became commonplace.

You don't want that to happen, do you?
Because sunflowers get the warm light of the sun like sunflowers, absorb clean water, bloom big, and be looked at with a smile by everyone (///ω///) ♪

The first step is to love yourself and take care of yourself.
Then you can take care of your partner.

If you can know people's pain by pinching yourself, can't you also love yourself and know that you love others?

Also, if you have a hard time, please write it here!
The nomination fee for Yuki Shizuku is free, so feel free to nominate a hairdresser!

Maybe it's just mendoku.

Hello.
I'm going with Kakumoto Tange, the editor-in-chief of the information magazine “Ninja,” which targets Ala 80 Ala 90.
Internet distribution also began last month, but Ala 80 can master the internet. Since 90 was scarce, login passwords, monthly publication dates, and bank transfers were forgotten, and all of our subscribers and sponsors left for the other world last year, it was the last issue this month for both our magazine and site. Thank you for reading this far.
Oh, aside from that, we had similar problems last month, and I'll copy and paste the answer from Umeko Tange (89), who lives in Sayama City, who answered.
“I'll make it clear for my grandchildren, though. It's no good to be cocky, angry, or self-centered. I'm going to lose my life from now on. Being a cheeky girl is really going to have a hard time going forward. My grandson has his own blood. So, I know very well where I struggled. So I'm just saying it strongly so as not to spoil them.
My grandson is also a bit too sweet, probably because of his age. I think they can do anything.
It's not like we shouldn't be spoiled. But Grandma has taken care of your parents a lot already. You're not old enough to do housework. I don't listen to the fact that it's the body. I just want them to be honest. Don't look at things in vain. I'm just saying it so I don't get angry.”
In other words, grandma is trying to reprimand your selfishness a little bit.
That was education for the Taisho and Showa generations, but it just feels counterproductive for those of you who were born in Heisei.

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