Please tell me what living is

Good evening. My name is Kameyama Junshi.

In Ei Rokusuke's words, “Being alive means making a debt to someone. To live is to pay off those debts.” There is a word. “Making a debt to someone” in this phrase means “causing trouble to someone.” For example, if you're alive, everyone will complain. But the complaints are bothering someone. Is complaining really a good thing for people who listen to complaints and sympathize with them? Having said that, we are the ones who complain. So, “being alive means causing trouble to someone.”

Also, for me, “paying back debts” means “living according to the teachings of the Buddha.” There is a saying “the human body (carrot) is difficult, I have already received it now, the Buddhism is difficult to hear, I have already heard it now.” They say, “I was able to be born in this way to a hard-to-be born person, and furthermore, I was able to encounter the teachings of the Buddha, who are hard to meet now.” Encountering the Buddha's teachings leads me to living for people, who have caused me trouble.

Finally, the Buddha taught me the idea that “I wake up every day to places I don't want to go to at times when I don't want to, and do things I don't want to do with people I don't want to be with.” The fact that “our lives will not turn out the way we want them to.”

These are my answers. I would be happy if there are any helpful points.

For example, changing jobs, falling in love, and getting married.
A new family was formed.
I needed parental care, and I became an elderly person being cared for.
Life is constantly changing.
As it is now, nothing has changed, and I don't think it's going to get too boring.
Also, in line with such changes in the situation, the mind also changes.
If the spice of Buddhism is added to that, the mind will grow.

Personally, I feel like my life is getting better as an adult and as I get older.
I have a feeling that happiness is increasing.
I think this is because of Buddhism.

When I was a kid, I was pessimistic that becoming an adult would be a hassle, and I didn't think I could go on to college or get a job.
I didn't think we could have a proper relationship.
But now, I'm employed, married, and have children.
My kids are doing lessons in genres I never thought of when I was a kid.
It's a strange feeling.
Do you know the manga “Dokaben”?
When I was a kid, I used to do reruns of anime.
At first I thought it was a judo comic, then the main character joined the baseball club halfway through, and it became a baseball comic.
Life changes that much too.

Apart from getting married or not, life changes more and more.
You can also intentionally encourage change yourself.
Why don't you try anything, even if you're traveling alone?
Why don't you try various things, such as going to live shows of artists you haven't been to before?
There are ways to use time that you can do since you're single, and there are plenty of fun things to do just by being in Japan.

I read your question.
The scale of pain and suffering changes depending on the environment in which the person is placed, so it is impossible to compare them with others.
Even if the suffering of a child who feels it is painful not being able to get the toys they want and a person who is about to run out of life is different when viewed from the side, there is no difference in the pain of their own heart.
However, when that child knows that there are people who have a harder time than themselves, their own pain may become lighter.
At any rate, the fact that you are feeling very difficult right now is true, not indulgence.

Shakyamuni thought life was about Dukka.
Dukka is translated as “bitter” and “not going the way you want” in Japanese in the Indian Pali language.
Don't you think that's true?
That's because they get old, get sick, and die even though they haven't done anything wrong.

But this is where it all starts.
In response to Dukka's life, “I can't do anything.” I didn't say that.
“There are things we can do.”
“I'm going to lose Duca.” I said I could do things.
However, this does not mean that you can do whatever you want.
Maybe it's better to say that you can live an easy life without things going the way you want them to.

There are always things you can do in life that you feel is difficult.
You mean you can turn things around.
If you just lament without making an effort to turn it around, that would be spoiled.
However, you have doubts about your own life and are wondering if you can do something about it.
This attitude is very important.
Please try to find out what you can do.