Second year middle school daughter who feels like she is truant

Sumomo
It is said that children tend to be absent from school. I'm very worried. There is probably some kind of anxiety about changes in the environment, relationships, etc.
But the kids are working very hard.
If your child says they don't want to go, please accept it first.
When parents are upset and anxious, children become more and more anxious. If I miss my life, I may be more and more prone to taking a day off.

Think back to when your child was young when he got sick.

Even if the child kicks in, the parents hold it up and say, “It's okay! It's fine!” If I had to say that, kids are nervous too.
Meanwhile, my parents said, “Wow, that's so hard! Wouldn't your child cry too if they were upset and anxious that “blood is coming out”?

It might be a good idea to cooperate with a school teacher or go to counseling with Sumomo alone while being prepared without showing anxiety to your child.

And why don't you take this positively as a good opportunity to look back at home, and review your marital relationship and your own way of dealing with your children.

However, I don't even think “I made a mistake in how to raise them.” If you blame yourself too much, you'll hurt your child.

Sumomo says she cares too much about trivial things. I think that is the reason we rely on fortune telling etc.

Shinran Shonin was told not to be misled by fortune-telling, prayers, and magic tricks.
It is said that if you rely on fortune telling, etc., you will lose sight of that person's original way of life.

If you rely on fortune telling, it will limit that person's life.

It's important to walk your own path without being swayed by fortune telling.
Please don't take care of yourself by yourself and rely on your husband, family, school, or someone you can rely on.

Good evening

My daughter won't be able to go to school, so I'm worried. When I went to talk to my fortune teller, they said a lot of things and made me even more anxious.

In September 2016, the Ministry of Education, Culture, Sports, Science and Technology issued a notification to all schools stating that “truancy is not a problematic behavior.” This probably means that many people, including school teachers, have a prejudice that truancy = problematic behavior. I can imagine that fortune teller also just said fortune telling things under the prejudice that “truancy = problematic behavior.”

For truancy consultations, it is better not to go to a fortune teller, but to go to a city hall or the like. When I talk to the school, they only talk about how to get my daughter to school, but when I go to the city hall, they talk about how to support my daughter without going to school. There are quite a few different support systems right now. I think it would be reassuring just to know that.

Life isn't just about going to school. There are plenty of other ways. Please show my daughter the world that is not bound by school.

The Buddha denies fortune telling.
Let's stop doing such things against Buddhism.
Rather than that, let's have a thorough discussion with the school counselor.
If the school counselor doesn't respond well, take them to a psychological counselor or the like that targets children nearby.
Surprisingly, I'm a stranger, so I think there are things I can talk about.
How are your friend relationships? Do you have any close friends? If so, ask them to be someone to talk to and play with.
If relationships are an issue, ask your daughter who she should go to a different class with when changing classes next year, and ask her teacher to respond.
If you can't keep up with your studies and classes are difficult, you also need to start over at a cram school or private tutor.
If it's because of club activities, etc., I wonder if it's better to leave the club once.
You can also take regular tests at the infirmary, so let's take them.
For now, don't let them go to school, but create an atmosphere at home where it's easy to talk.
If you're into a hobby, please acknowledge it.