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Is being ugly a crime?

Hello. Thank you for taking the time to look at my question.
What I would like to ask you today is about “is it a crime to not look good?”

Actually, I don't have a pretty face at all.
When I was a student, I was bullied by it, and even after I became a member of society, I felt a clear difference in reactions from those around me.
They don't say anything directly like when they were students, but there are many times when they are implicitly called ugly and shown in their attitudes.
Socially, you can do whatever you want if you're ugly. If something happens, let's just go bad with being ugly.
I feel that kind of air.

I'm dividing it into something I can't do in my head, but it's still painful.
Why are they being discriminated against as a matter of course when they have done nothing wrong?
Racial discrimination issues and women's discrimination issues have been taken up in a big way, and even though movements to eliminate discrimination are actively being carried out,
Discrimination against ugly people is taken for granted every day.

Therefore, I'm still afraid to interact with people, and I react sensitively to ugly discrimination that my partner may be unaware of.
It's so hard to live.
What is a good idea to think at a time like this?
I would be happy if you could give me some advice.

4 Zen Responses

People with a clean heart can be happy

There are many people who regard appearance as a weapon for women, but being said to be beautiful often causes a lot of suffering.

By being pampered, if you don't keep spending money on beauty, not being able to maintain your beauty will hurt your pride, and you may also be upset.

People feel more clean than they look. If you don't have a strong personality, you won't be attractive.

We can't choose the parents we are born with, and we can't choose the appearance we are born with.
Now, training the mind and body you have been given and making it a pure mind and body will lead to happiness.

There are always more beautiful people than beautiful people, even when they don't choose words and don't have confidence in their appearance.
The desire to be beautiful is important, but if you are born from a melon, you can become a melon. However, even if you are born a carrot, you cannot become a melon.
When it comes to carrots, bringing out the full flavor of carrots is the pinnacle and appeal.

It looks like a melon, but when you eat it, people get tired of the carrot flavor, and it's just a misunderstanding.

Please bring out your own flavor so that your life, which is still going on, can blossom. I think a surprising amount of human virtue will come in.

Gassho

If you're beautiful or ugly, you can pass away if you're nembutsu

In the Jodo sect, it is said that if anyone calls themselves Namu Amida Buddha or Nembutsu, they will be reborn (can pass away) in the next life as the Pure Land of Paradise.
The Buddha called Amitabha Buddha is a Buddha who will welcome you to the Pure Land of Paradise if you nenbutsu, even if you are a sinner or bad person, or on the contrary, a good person.
Indeed, it is a Buddha that symbolizes the mercy of non-discrimination and equality in Buddhism.
I often
“Whether it's ○○ or not ○○, if you do nembutsu, you can pass away in the Pure Land of Paradise. So it doesn't matter much whether it's ○○ or ○○.”
I think so.
Think about it by applying “beautiful woman” to “○○.”
Of course, values such as being beautiful or ugly also change depending on the times, regions, and individuals.
People who have lost weight are popular in developed countries. This is probably because in a society where food is abundant, people of the opposite sex who have lost weight in search of genes that are less likely to become obese are attracted to people of the opposite sex.
In India and Africa, plump women are considered beautiful, although this may depend on the region.
Even in Japan, old beauty paintings are plump and beautiful, aren't they?
There is a boom in small faces in Japan, but it seems that Westerners find Japanese women with prominent cheekbones beautiful.
Maybe they find it appealing in search of genes that Westerners don't have.
Mongoloid faces that are large and have narrow eyes (lots of eyelid flesh) seem to be suitable for cold regions.
Also, I've heard that faces that people find beautiful are average faces with no characteristics.
Average is probably the majority, that is, those with genes that have successfully reproduced.
If that's the case, it can also be said that beautiful women have uncharacteristic, uninteresting faces, and faces that can be found everywhere.
That's off topic, but whether you're beautiful or not, if you're called Namu Amida Buddha and Nembutsu, then let's laugh it off, thinking that the happy ending (exile paradise) of your life is unwavering.

Being ugly is not a crime; discriminating against someone is a crime.
Other monks have also been mentioned, but there are experimental results that determine that we humans have an average face that is beautiful, and the further we move away from it, the ugly we are.
That's all.
If someone discriminates against you, think that this person is still immature as a human being.
May you meet non-discriminating people who can see the beauty of your heart, words, and actions.

That unstylish idea that dismisses their appearance and personality is ugly.

Hello. Gesu's Gokumisure Surezure Monk's one book is missing.
Rescue is being carried out while walking along the Gesbus Sudogaido Road every day.
First of all, I don't mind being told anything about it because it's ugly.
I think it's hurt somewhere in my heart.
After all, I was hurt by the word ugly somewhere.
Let's start by talking about me.
An ugly, boudey, and missing one of my failed works was picked up under the bridge, under the tan.
I used to be skinny, and there was a time when bean sprouts and skeletons were nicknames, and it seems that my mother thought “this guy is going to die.” (lol)
My parents told me to get bigger, and my dream came true and I had metabolic syndrome. YORTON 🐖
If you lose weight, they say it's ridiculous; if you're fat, they say it's ridiculous that you're fat. Just fat people.
The minds of people in this world are unclean and ugly.
People I meet at class reunions and doyasuikai (boy's reunion) call me fat and fat. fat fat. I don't think I have anything else to say. The person who says that kind of thing is “who?” was it?
Damn it, I think that person's heart is disgusting.
There is something special about you personally.
I think it was a few years ago when I started to gain weight. I went to the doctor.
I wasn't feeling well. I go to Bjoinn once or twice a year.
“What is the name of the disease?” When asked, “You're too fat, aren't you?”
that's not the name of a disease or anything. Just like Mitama. It's nice that being a doctor is easy. But it doesn't hurt. Because that's right. The theme song “Attack No. 1”
Well, now I'm going to teach you a lesson that won't hurt your words.
First, let's start with tongue twisters that make you feel positive.
“Boss Bus Guide's bus gas explosion. Boss bus guide gas explodes and dies.”
Please sing this in order to explode the negative boss in your inner mind.
Brain bosses who label themselves ugly make themselves ugly.
In order not to be hurt by words, it is necessary for the person himself not to add negative consciousness to the words.
Get the ugly boss character that reigns supreme in your mind out of your brain.
The truth is that DIS is not ugly.
Don't paint everything with your own style of varnish.
If you don't diss yourself, you won't make mistakes (losses) in your life.
Please read until you understand the “meaning” of not being fooled by words. You're beautiful. ✨