Is appearance preference important?

I read your question.
Yes. It's your own personal story, so “appearance doesn't matter.” I'm not denying that, but I think it would be good to put too much value on that.
As you can see, your appearance will deteriorate.

So, when it comes to where to place value, [the other party doesn't try to use/manipulate you]
[Accepting them unconditionally without asking for anything in return]
I think these are the two points.
People like that rarely appear, but I think it's really hard to come by.

A break in money is often called a break in a relationship, and this happens because the other person is in a relationship in return.
It could also be physical appearance.

Why don't you take a close look at it.

I think it is better to make a comprehensive judgment based on appearance, personality, financial strength, etc.
However, in the case of someone who does DV or moral harassment, etc., it is out of the question because they will be unhappy if they are in a relationship.

It may be an animal instinct to worry about a dating partner's appearance.
Among wild birds, females also choose their mates based on the beautiful dance appeal of males.
I've heard that male lions are more popular when their manes are darker.
Even in humans, people with good style, for example, are likely to be healthy and have high athletic ability.
Often, when praising a relative's baby, they say, “You look smart.”
Certainly, children with well-groomed faces look smart.
Looks like they can even be used to judge intelligence, right? (That doesn't mean it's definitely a hit, though.)
If you think of it as choosing a mating partner to give birth to healthy children, appearance (material for judging the partner's genes) is also important.
However, humans do not fall in love simply to have children.
So, in the end, there is no choice but to make a “comprehensive judgment.”

Sora-san

I read your question.
You're being approached by two men, aren't you?

I haven't experienced a drama like that, so to be honest, I can't sympathize with it because it's just frustrating!

I think it's up to each person whether or not they look important, but is it physiologically impossible to keep a distance if you get close to them?

In my opinion, appearance preferences, personality, and financial strength are of course important, but I think the most important thing is comfort.
I think it's important to be with that person, feel safe, and be able to show your true self.

Marriage isn't just a good thing. No matter how good they look, there are times when you get bored. They fight, and all of their worries come one after the other. It really is the rough seas of the Sea of Japan.

I think people who think this person can overcome the rough seas of their lives are the best.

For now, why don't you just focus on either one and just watch the situation like this for a while?

Marriage is a matter of relationship and timing.
I hope Sora won't regret it.

Sora-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is a humble answer to the question.

Well, it's unavoidable that there are places where you don't know much about a person's inner world right away.

Of course, there are times when the inner world appears on the outside, so it is possible that the essence of that person can be judged by an attitude that comes out naturally, even from just trivial matters.

If both of them have good personalities and good vibes, the rest will be one of the decisions about how they are physiologically, and of course, the degree of the other person's feelings will also be one of the judgments.

So, if I had to say something, I wonder if it would still be up to Sora to make a decision...

And that judgment is to decide that you will never regret it in the future. Whether it's an experience, reflection, or study, don't just regret it.

Anyway, when it comes to relationships, it's about valuing once-in-a-lifetime meetings and que-sera-sera.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho