About getting married to a monk from a high-ranking temple

My boyfriend who I've been dating for a year and a half is someone who becomes a high-ranking temple monk.

I loved that person, and since I thought about getting married, I was prepared to become an otter.

However, my boyfriend told me that I am not an old woman.
I was told that I was far from what that person was ideal for, such as the life, lifestyle, values, sense of money, human relationships, environment I grew up in, and good procedures, etc., and I was told goodbye to them.
However, it seems that he still has feelings for me.

I don't know about temples, so I said I'd like to get to know them again from now on, but since he wasn't able to do it at this point, he said he wanted to find the ideal person.
Even though I can change, he said it's not a matter of constant change; it's a matter of human nature.

How can I get married to him and become the right person for Okuri?

I'm very sorry for your busy schedule, but I'm very worried, so thank you for your support.

4 Zen Responses

I read it. I think there is a problem with his own humanity when he says that. That's because people who say it's impossible from the beginning won't be able to easily change their opinions or way of life.

No matter how high or low your rank is, that doesn't matter anymore.
That's because it's not impossible to marry the Emperor or the President and live together.

Why don't you have another thorough conversation with him about how you think about human nature?
Even so, if his way of thinking doesn't change, it's difficult, and you just have a hard time.
If so, I think I'll say goodbye to him firmly and choose our own path.

Personally, I don't think people with such prejudice are qualified to stand above the Order. The prejudice of top management is also reflected in the people they work with. And discrimination will spread.

I sincerely pray to Buddha and your ancestors that you will overcome such things from now on and that you will sincerely respect each other and live a good and happy life with people you can trust.

You will definitely be blessed with a wonderful encounter.

I want a reason I'm convinced

You're not convinced by his explanation, are you?
I want him to be more specific about what kind of woman he is looking for.
However, there is also a possibility that listening to it will hurt you even more.
Either way, marriage is something you can only do if you have a partner.
Whatever the reason, if he just refuses because he doesn't want to marry you, I think you'll feel better about letting go of your obsession with him.

I think everyone has their own way of thinking about what kind of person would be appropriate as a temple wife.
The most helpful thing is what kind of character his mother is, and whether that mother is doing well.

It's probably a factual farewell word from him.

Higher and lower ranks are probably convenient for him, as another problem.
Also, it will be convenient for you. Including the fact that I like it, of course.
Marriage is probably over now, but of course between themselves, there is a background of a house and a house, and this time, a temple.
As he says, there are probably various reasons why he can't get married to you, but at the moment, it's not going to go ahead as it is unless there's too much going on. The suffering will only increase.
In conclusion, I think it's better to say goodbye to this guy and find a man who makes you happy in the true sense of the word.

Somehow infuriating (laughs)

Tsu-chan

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

This was also denied quite a bit by looking at it from above...

Even about human nature... it's kind of infuriating (laughs)

I wonder what they mean...

As a monk, I felt quite hesitant and embarrassed about dating women and getting married, as a monk.

If we didn't have a relationship, we could just leave it as is, but luckily we got a relationship.

Anyway, even if there's just a woman who thinks it's okay to get married, I don't think it's something to be thankful for. If you're prepared to become an otter, it's even more so. Really, there are wasteful ghosts...

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

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