Is it OK to invite a married man out for tea?

A long time ago, I liked the guy in the same group as Ganbari
I still respect you
We bumped into each other on the street after a long absence
As you can see, it's a happy family

How has he lived until now
How are we living now
How will we live from now on
I want to know
Seeing him doing his best, I think I want to get excited too
I don't have any more feelings than that,
It's not like I want to be like him
The man I fell in love with isn't such a sloppy guy
I would be disappointed if he were like that
Besides, I have experienced firsthand that nothing is as barren as a married person's love
I just want to stay connected to him loosely, for a long time
I just want to talk to him as a close syndicate,
The fact that a married woman sucks a married man into tea could be taken as ulterior motive, right
But right now, I want something to cheer up
I was so depressed that I went to psychosomatic medicine for the first time, but the side effects of the medicine were severe, and I thought if I had a hard time paying such a high fee, I would be better off having tea with him ‼ (laughs)

Monk, I want to talk to him, what do you think ⁉

※From my account (only open to monks), I think monks can understand my current state of mind and what kind of person synchrony is for me　

4 Zen Responses

in a way that doesn't hurt anyone

If they're old friends, I don't think tea would matter much.
However, if you have a boyfriend or husband, and if he has a wife, you will need to be careful not to be misunderstood by people around you.
It would be nice if there were only people who thought “it's just tea.”

Also, if you are in a state of mental instability, it would be better to meet in a place where people can see you so that there is no “devil” by any chance when the two of you are alone.

prudently

If you don't hide it from your partner, and it feels like tea in a place where people can see it during the daytime, don't worry.
However, it's probably up to your partner whether or not to turn that into an issue, so only you can understand that.

Yes, I totally understand that.

I want to cheer them on. However, in our case, fortunately or unlucky, there are no people of the opposite sex in the same period (laughs)

As all the other monks have said about this question, I think it's all about what people around you think, not ants or pears. So to speak, are you addicted to it or not? if you don't observe the situation, whatever...

Also, I hear that psychosomatic medicine also has a huge amount of hits and misses. I'm an amateur, but suddenly being prescribed a drug with strong side effects has a question mark, so it might be a good idea to search for detailed Q&A and communities there.

A variety of ways to get involved.

Even if you don't meet in person, you can communicate via email, letter, etc.
By meeting three people, including the husband, you can get to know a different side of ★★★.

I think there are many ways to get involved.

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