About SNS

What do monks think of SNS?

I've always felt lonely. However, I wasn't good at socializing, partly because I had trouble communicating. I started a blog to get away from loneliness. Since then, socializing with people on the internet has become essential. Right now, I'm using Twitter and other social media.

I'm happy when responses come back to the sentences I've posted. I feel relieved when I get a “like” or “applause.” I think I would be happy if I received a lot of them. When someone who always “likes” me “likes,” I feel as close as a friend even though they are people I've hardly spoken to.

There are times when you can't leave your computer until you get a response from the time you post a sentence. At times like that, I feel like I'm wasting my time because of that. But without SNS, I also feel like I'm going to be lazy feeling lonely without doing anything.

Recently, real-life relationships have finally increased, and I really think that reality and the internet are different.

I hardly have any friends in real life, but since I started working, I began to exchange words with people at work in a reasonable way.
Other than that, I am involved with disability support workers, etc.

... It's a disorganized sentence, but I'm forced to put it together with questions.

What do monks think about social media?
How do monks interact with SNS?
After reading the above sentences, do you have any advice for me from the monk?

I would appreciate it if you could answer any one of them.

4 Zen Responses

I took up an SNS account a few years ago due to work reasons, and have been doing it personally ever since. I've never blogged. “You like it,” huh, I'm happy. I also posted a picture of snow the other day, and even foreign monks who usually have no reaction at all “liked” it, so I was happy, and I went along and posted it every day (laughs)

“You can also understand that you can't leave the front of the computer after posting a sentence until there is some response,” and so am I. In particular, I've been in such a state for the past few days at Hasunoha. 3 days ago Yahoo! All the more so now that I know that I can check what kind of tweets are being made in real time. “Huh? Is that where you get that much?” It was a great learning experience with the feeling, “I see, this sentence can be taken that way, it's difficult.”

I'm watching this kind of thing on my tablet. Then you won't be able to leave the front of the computer, and you'll also be able to say to yourself, “I can always watch it later in a short time, so I'm patient now...” Brand new iPads are quite expensive, but if you don't choose one, they are sold relatively cheaply at used general stores, etc., so why not look for them. If you use only your home wifi, there are no monthly usage fees.

If that's still possible, I'd like you to increase the ratio of real-life relationships over internet relationships. Even if it's on the internet, you're connected to people who actually exist, so there's no need to stop it, but if it's the internet, you'll inevitably communicate by letter, right? This is because communicating with these characters sometimes gets out of control.

Typical of this is the fact that you meant to write it as a joke but it doesn't look that way in the other person's eyes. If you've been online for a long time, I think everyone has experienced it at least once. This is because the part that relied on facial expressions and gestures in real life doesn't work. Not only as a writer, but also as a reader, I sometimes think too much. So if possible, I think it's safer for your own mental health if you create relationships in real life.
(There is also a minority group like me that isn't good at real-time conversations, and the internet is safer where you can use time to sort things out and then reply, but I don't know which one Mr. Koishi is)

I hope it's helpful.

SNS is a place for rehabilitation

I read your question

I myself use SNS a lot, but there are a lot of parts where I've been helped a lot.
As a monk, it's not uncommon for me to talk face to face with my partner, but I'm really bad at talking to people in the first place.
In the past, they were people who went beyond their weaknesses and hated them; they should have kept quiet and read only the books they liked without being interfered with by anyone.

However, there was an opportunity, and there were times when I thought that if I didn't get involved with people, I would just feel lonely, so I decided to get involved.
But we didn't have a conversation at all, and I don't know what to talk about with people. No matter how hard I thought about it and tried to say something, that topic was over by that time and I couldn't talk after all.
However, SNS is not rushed, there is plenty of time to think for oneself and send out words, and corrections can be made until they are transmitted. For me, words don't come out without thinking, I think it's a really great place to practice conversation.

I'm sorry I've been talking about me for so long.
There are many SNS that you can log in with your smartphone even if you're not standing still in front of your computer, so use your computer! Why don't you wait while wandering around a bit or doing errands without getting bogged down?
By the time it's over, I think it's okay to set aside the fun just a little bit ahead, and if a comment comes as a notification, I think it's okay to stop and return to work while looking forward to it again.

SNS is a wonderful thing, but if you get too caught up, it may be difficult to use your time, or you may prioritize SNS over real life, and everything, so I think you should just be careful about that.

By the way, it doesn't matter, but it's great that I was fidgety in front of the computer for over 30 minutes when I posted a post on Facebook expecting to get a lot of responses! There was something I didn't even have, what was that time really

Purpose of using “SNS”

Koishi-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

“SNS” (social networking service) is a service for connecting people to people, people to society, and people to the world through the internet, as is a social contact configuration service, and while it is extremely convenient, it can also be scary depending on how you use it.

After all, I think it will be important to be able to use “SNS” well according to the purpose of its use.

Currently, it is “Facebook” that Chusei places the most importance on using.

I wonder if Koishi-san's purpose is to aid communication and reduce loneliness...

Perhaps Mr. Koishi was able to achieve the above goals to some extent, but there is something about the content of the question that the next purpose has not been clarified.

So, let me explain a little bit about what Jusei is aiming for on Facebook, so I hope it will be helpful for something.

1. To check the recent status etc. of old friends and acquaintances, and to check whether they are doing their best

1. To gather industry information, public opinion, etc.

1. For conversation, dialogue, and discussion between people who cannot easily meet

1. To meet like-minded comrades and comrades who can work hard

1. To obtain evaluations and verification of one's own efforts, or to publicize and spread initiatives

In particular, it is a place called “to meet like-minded comrades, comrades who can work hard,” and I feel that getting to know many people without meeting each other is useful for one's own ambition, learning, self-reflection, and growth.

Most of my encounters with Hasunoha's comrades were on Facebook, and there are many people I haven't actually met, and even so, they have exchanged opinions in a friendly manner.

Of course, the problem is that inorganic “words,” “sentences,” and “emoticons” alone cannot be conveyed, so I think it is necessary to take care not to cause misunderstandings or prejudice.

Anyway, I think it would be good if we could adjust it so that it can be used as something useful in reality and real life.

Just for your reference.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

Can it become medicine or poison depending on how you use it

An acquaintance got into trouble with someone he knew through the internet.
Getting into a fight or getting involved with someone you've never met is troublesome, isn't it?
I was also able to get to know Mr. Kawaguchi, the monk who answered here through Facebook, and I also learned about Hasunoha via Facebook.
If you're too obsessed with PCs, your family will smoke, and I think people around you will feel the same way if there are people like that all the time.
What is being asked there is probably the ❝ essence ❞ of “who they are and what they are doing” that they are dealing with via the internet.
What are they essentially doing?
For work, for learning, for people? to gather information? Because of dependency, because you want to be approved and praised?
One more word.
If you go all the way to the point of “well, why do you do that,” I think you'll get a good answer for you.
I think the reason can be any, but I don't think humans should be used for SNS.
How many “likes!” For some reason, I'm not that happy when I get it.
Have the judges already been acquired due to “standing/another person's perspective”? That's because they are there. lol
When humans become great, they seem to have a lot of friends, and they carelessly say “I like it!” You won't even be able to do it.
I'm spreading Buddhism through laughter, but I like it! I'm not coming. If it's a kid story or a safe photo upload, “I like it!” Wansaka is coming. huh? what are you? Were they connected? For the first time in about 3 years from someone who said “I like it!” On the contrary, it's annoying if it only comes at times like that. lol
I also feel the opponent's calculation level.
In other words, the weak point of SNS is that it doesn't spread even if it's really true information or good stuff.
People can truly talk when they don't have other people's eyes or ears.

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