I don't like my friends

I have made Chinese friends at my current workplace.

That friend is younger than me, but he is very solid, works fast, and is excited. It's simple Japanese, and I speak to everyone with the same attitude. It's very bright and positive. It's kind.

I'm so envious of her. They are relied upon by people around them, they seem to have fun talking to anyone, they are smart, and I always think it's amazing. I know it can be difficult, but I can do a lot of things that I can't.

She always talks to me with a smile, and I don't feel so alone in my current workplace.

She doesn't have a car, so on her days off, we sometimes go shopping together, eat meals, and go to hot springs.

But sometimes, for some reason, I get frustrated with her. Is it because I'm selfish?

I want to take good care of my friends. I get help from her a lot at work, and I'm really grateful because it helps me learn how to think and how to shop.

But I feel like I really don't like it. Is it because of jealousy or jealousy? I don't like myself thinking a lot about whether it's fun to play with me, or whether they're using me as the driver because I don't have a car.

3 Zen Responses

If it's fun, that's fine too

I read it

Maybe they are using it because they don't have a car...
Even if it's being used
If you enjoy going to various places
that's enough, don't you think?

I made a wonderful friend
It causes burning in the nice part
Isn't it fine to use Otama Sun

You have to love it from the bottom of your heart
Where does this restriction come from?
Liking everything and accepting everything unconditionally
It's difficult against anyone
First, please unconditionally acknowledge yourself like that

I'm sure a wonderful friendship will develop

Gassho

Being able to rely on someone without hesitation is a wonderful friendship!

I read your question!

First of all, I would like to thank you for having such wonderful friends! There aren't many opportunities to meet wonderful friends in life.

Now, as Otama-san himself says “jealousy or jealousy,” I think you feel a big disadvantage for that friend.
People have strengths and weaknesses. There are times when my friends are good at it but my friends are good at it, and conversely, there are times when my friends aren't good at it but my ladyboy is good at it. So is driving the car you mentioned this time.
There are scenes where you can be helped by your opponent, but there are also scenes where you help your opponent. This is how healthy relationships and friendships are created. You're not on an equal footing just by being helped or relied on by your opponent.

So, while there are parts where I can help my opponent, there are also places where I can help! If you think about it, there won't be any disadvantages, right? And that way of thinking will further deepen our friendship.

Also, the fact that they rely on otamasan without hesitation is probably proof that they are trusted. Above all, we enjoy being together, so we spend our holidays together. If it were me, I would never want to go to a hot spring with someone I don't enjoy or dislike.

Please be on an equal footing as much as possible and deepen your relationships with your wonderful friends!

Maybe it's because we're friends with different cultures?

Hello. My name is Kameyama Junshi.

If I were to judge my friends based on profit and loss accounts, I think I would move away from my friends over time. If she's counting on you, your friend is probably the one who will respond to it to the extent possible.
By the way, the reason you're feeling frustrated with her right now is probably because somewhere the wavelength between her and yourself doesn't match. I usually teach English in high school, so I also interact with foreign teachers. I'm a foreigner, so if my culture and customs are different, my way of looking at things will be different. If we have someone with a different background than our own, we may get frustrated with that person. Therefore, when we interact with foreigners, it is important to recognize that they and we have different backgrounds. Of course, they also care about us and are willing to think and act. For example, when they attend an entrance ceremony or graduation ceremony as an employee of our school, the standard question they are asked is “What kind of clothes should I wear at the ceremony?” This is a question about the so-called dress code. They too are trying to fit in with Japanese customs. Therefore, I'm also trying to understand that they sometimes acted in a way that was surprising.

These are my answers. If, “No, there's no cause in that place.” If that's the case, please forgive me for saying that there are also views like this.

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