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Are you in a state of practicing Buddhism? That's a very difficult question. There are a lot of things written in the sutras, and it's probably different for each person.
For me, is it about living cheerfully, correctly, and being good friends?
Regarding marriage, when interpreted privately based on what was said by Honen Shonin, the founder of the Jodo sect, it means that if those who get married can live well together cheerfully and correctly, it is better to get married, and if those who don't get married can live well and well together, it is better not to get married.

I think it doesn't matter whether you get married or not to practice Buddhism. Of course, depending on your way of thinking, it depends on how you stick to the so-called monastic style, and how you grasp the precepts and put them into practice...

But privately,

Instead of trying to gain something or become something

Clarifying yourself (in light of the Buddha's teachings)

I think it's Buddhism, so I also feel that marriage is rather a good Buddhist relationship where one's appearance is exposed and made known.

Buddhism is called the Eighty-Four Thousand Dharma. There are eighty-four thousand (about many) streets at the entrance alone. There are probably as many Buddhists on the branching road behind it.

But all of these paths have something important in common. This is Mikiyori.
Live by learning from your teacher.
Live through teaching as medicine for life.
Live with good friends.
If you have Mikiyori, not everything is called Buddhism. But nothing without Mikiyori is not Buddhism.

Also, Buddhism is not a performance-based approach. It's a vow principle. I read it as oath → Sagan.
“Hopefully, with this merit, we will spread all over the world, and that we and all sentient beings will practice Buddhism.”
→ “Each one of these actions connects us to everyone around the world in the past, present, and future. May we all be connected by mercy.”

Let's live our days with wishes like that. Instead of doing Buddhism in a fixed way, they do it as Buddhism based on that wish.

If you get married, let's accumulate merits with the intention of borrowing your partner's heart. If we have such respect and appreciation for each other, we will surely have a good relationship. Also, just as you love your family, take care of people and things other than your family as much as possible.
It's the same whether you don't get married or not.

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

Dogen Zenji of Soto Zen said, in the volume of Gensei Kōban by Shohōgenzō, “To follow the path of Buddhism is to nod oneself.” It has been said.

Also, Daitokokushi of Rinzai Zen said, “The bottom of investigating one's affairs is an old monk and a person who sees each other on a daily basis.” It has been said.

Buddhism is about gaining deep insight into oneself and adjusting one's own mind and actions better and more clearly.

Then, eventually, the purpose is to achieve enlightenment and nirvana, and Shakyamuni has explained various methodologies for this.

I want to walk forward step by step on the path to enlightenment that Shakyamuni walked, relying on the compass and map left by Shakyamuni, with a sense of bodhi in my heart.

After all, otherself (octopus) is otherself, self is self. Whether you have a partner or not, whether you get married or not, I don't think it's necessary to be trapped by that.

I can't say it unequivocally, but as Yoshitake Grammo also said, I think marriage is useful for exposing one's own humanity and getting to know oneself better.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho