he was diagnosed with an intractable disease

Tell him all about your feelings
Let's check how he feels.
I think it would be better if we both don't have any regrets.

Hanako-sama.
My name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an, thank you for your support.

It is said that he, who was thinking about getting married, became an intractable illness with no cure. I think he, Hanako, and his family are having a very hard time.

If I were in Hanako-san's position, I think I would make up my mind to support him for the rest of my life.
Conversely, if I were in his position, I would think of Hanako-san and try to retreat.
I feel like I understand both of those feelings. For that reason, I can't say “Please support him for the rest of his life” or “I should break up with him.”

By the way, is the hope you found a new treatment or a new drug?
He's also talking about himself, so he probably already knows that information. But if you have any hope, I definitely want to let them know.

If that means you might not have read the email, and you're afraid of meeting him and disrupting his rhythm of mind, why not keep a memo in the mailbox. If it's a sealed letter, there is a possibility that it won't be opened, so write it on a postcard or the like. If it's mail, you may be able to see the delivery person, so if it's not far away, I think it's a good idea to put it in directly.

Michael J. Fox, the leading actor in the film series “Back to the Future,” developed Parkinson's disease at the young age of 30 in the middle of his career.
For a period of time, they became desperate and lived a life where they were addicted to alcohol, but they gradually accepted their illness. In his autobiography “Lucky Man,” it is written, “I thought getting sick was about losing something, but in reality it was just adding 'Parkinson's disease' to myself.” As shown in the title of the book, he even refers to himself as a “lucky man,” who has suffered from an intractable illness.

First of all, I would like to remember that his illness will not be cured or progressed.
If it doesn't heal or progresses, I hope you can accept the illness like Michael J. Fox and live positively.

It must be a very difficult situation right now. Being able to decide to live together even after worrying and suffering is probably a huge decision.
I can't believe he thought more about your future than about himself, and there were times when he thought about breaking up. They are important people who can feel for each other.

I think anxiety has struck him over and over again.
I want to somehow tell him that we're always together ~ Your strong feelings will surely be a great strength to support him.

To the extent that it doesn't burden him, so that it's short and conveyed, “The two of us want to talk! Why don't you keep calling and emailing regularly a little longer?”
Once he's in a position where he can listen, if the two of you have time to talk, tell him properly.
I hope your unchanging feelings reach him properly ◎

You are also free to live your life snuggling up to him.
You are also free to choose his deep love of living away from him.
Each human being is completely free and completely independent.
Whether they are parents and children, or twins, they are completely independent.
I can't experience his pain, and the trouble in his heart is his.
You're so kind that he has become my thing too.
It's love in a good sense, and obsession and restraints in a bad sense.
I'm sure he thought about the child that will be born even if he were to marry you.
There is a story about a girl with a deaf father in a Thai insurance commercial.
Please take a look at it.
http://dout.jp/346
One of my friends has a father who has lived his whole life, but as a child, it is actually an unmistakable truth that he has a very painful side.
If there is something you would like to be useful to this person in their lives, you can do everything you can, but that will continue in the future, and if you can put yourself in the position of the parent of the child being born, you must think about it carefully.
That is a parent's responsibility.
If I were in his position, I don't think it would be possible to make children born by choosing a moment's feelings feel as painful as children in Thai commercials.
Are you calmly devoting yourself to the nursing relationship? Love is a beautiful thing, but I'm sorry for raising children when it's beautiful.
Please also keep in mind that if he actually needs nursing care, the child that will be born will cause him to experience painful feelings.
That means you are responsible for him and for the child that will be born.
All I want to say is that you are inherently free.
I said this from your parents' point of view.
Since you are straight forward in love, I think you can go whatever you believe in, so I told you a different reality.
“You don't have to be bound by love”
I'm sorry.

Hanako-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

I've reread the content of your question over and over again over the past month...

How are you doing after that?

Have you been able to get in touch with him?

Were you able to convey Hanako-sama's feelings to him?

As the two of you think about their respective feelings, it's painful, honestly...

I sincerely understand the feelings of his intractable illness... and the feelings of Hanako trying to be close to him... But at the end of the day, my poor life has gone so far... I can only pray that the two of you will be happy now and in the future...

I hope you can look at yourself and each other with even a little room in your heart without thinking too much about each other.

I can feel nature... that's right... I pray for the happiness of the two of you, while imagining how cherry blossoms bloom and the two of them are chatting while having a friendly and serious conversation even on the bank of a riverbank full of flowers... I pray for the happiness of the two of you.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

Life is by Hiroshi Yoshino

Life
So that I can't complete it on my own
It seems to have been made
Flowers too
Just having the stamens and stamens together
It's insufficient
Bugs and wind are visiting
Interact between meshibe and stamens

Life is everything
Embracing a lack in it
Get it satisfied from others

Maybe the world
The sum of others
though
mutually
What is satisfying a lack, etc.
without even knowing
without even being informed
People who are scattered
A relationship where people can remain indifferent
At times
A relationship where people are allowed to even be careless
Just like that
What makes the world loosely structured
why?

Flowers are blooming
Right around the corner
Another person in the form of a tabby
It's flying in the light

When I'm there too
It must have been a tabby for someone

When You're Too
Maybe it was the wind for me