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Should I quit smoking

I live in Canada with my husband and son.
This time, I was a little concerned about my husband's marijuana addiction, and I posted it because I wanted to hear your opinions.

For some reason, I lived apart from my husband for 3 years, but I finally started living with my family of 3 the other day.
Originally, I knew that I was a marijuana addict even before my child was born, but I had heard that she had already quit a long time ago.
However, on the day we started living together, “We haven't smoked even once in half a year. They said, “I bought it once in a while because I thought it would be good once in a while,” and it's only been about 1 week, but it seems like they smoke quite a bit every day.
Of course I'd like to quit if possible.
However, marijuana is now legal in Canada, and they insist that there is no addiction like alcoholic tobacco, and marijuana is not dangerous.
My husband's parents are both opponents of marijuana, and he has hidden that he is an addict, and I don't really understand that feeling, but in Canada, marijuana itself feels like tobacco in Japan.
Originally, my husband has a personality that makes it easy to feel stressed, and he is also busy with work, and I know that he is quite stressed and relaxed with marijuana.
So I think the truth is that even though I think it would be better to quit someday, it's hard to quit.

I would be happy if you could think of it as a cigarette with the closest sense in Japan, rather than from the viewpoint that marijuana = cannabis is illegal.

As long as the person himself doesn't quit, it won't change no matter what I or those around me say, so I'm not saying anything now, but should I say something so that the person himself will do his best to quit?
Or can't I change a person, and should I be forgiving and trying to accept him just the way he is?

4 Zen Responses

I don't know the details, but when I looked it up on the internet earlier, I think it's different from cigarettes. I think it's rather close to alcohol.
After using it, intelligence declines, and it seems dangerous to drive a car.
I think there are many people who decide the amount of alcohol to some extent, so why not let your husband decide the amount of alcohol for the day himself in the same way.
Also, it is prohibited before going out to work, or before driving a car.
Also, it seems that the concentration of what is being used is low to high, so even if the amount is small, the concentration may have increased, so please be careful about that area as well.
Also, be careful not to place it within reach of children.
Have a nice time with your family.

What is the impact on the surroundings?

What are the problems with cigarettes
Not only the health of the person in question
It's a problem because it also harms the health of those around you.
Marijuana
Isn't that not the case?

If so,
I think the adverse effects on families will be persuasive.
If not,
I have no choice but to accept it if it's a personal preference.

Medication for the heart

Japanese people eat pork, but people in the Muslim world don't.
Japanese people eat whales, but people in Christian countries don't.
Marijuana is legal in Canada, but illegal in Japan.
If you try arranging them like this, doesn't it look a little different? If you whistle too much due to these “differences in culture and beliefs,” you will gradually say “Fah! Kin Jap!” “Prince Ame's hat is awesome!” It becomes the target. That kind of forgiveness is certainly necessary.

I'm going to talk about Buddhism based on that premise. I don't know much about marijuana either, so if I take advantage of the Holy Shepherd's answer, it's the Buddhist commandment of not drinking alcohol. This is not only alcohol, but also a way of life that doesn't rely on “things that mislead intelligence and take away judgment ability.”
Commandments are not rules like laws. It's a guideline for how to live, saying, “After all, it's easier to learn how to live without having to rely on alcohol or drugs.”

So what do we do?
Review your lifestyle and environment. Of course, that is also a countermeasure. As an example, my blood pressure seems to rise abnormally because the workplace is too painful due to being patient and patient every day. So I decided to take medicine to lower my blood pressure. Now, is taking that medication the right decision? Even if you ask, the essence of the problem isn't the pros and cons of the medicine, it's the workplace, isn't it?

Also, there is a mental lifestyle. I took a seat. My foot started hurting. Therefore, there is a big difference between people who notice the “habit of rejecting pain” and people who aren't aware of it. People who haven't noticed say, “Wow ah ah, that hurts!!! I don't like it anymore!!! I've already exceeded my limit wow!!! Why am I being made to do this!!!” It goes on a rampage in my heart. Then, originally, the leg pain is 1 times as it is, but as my mind goes wild, the pain I feel increases 2 times 3 times... That increase is just pain created by my own mind, isn't it? If you notice that, it's just double the pain in my leg. “Ahhh... it hurts. Yep, it hurts.” and so on.

Marijuana is a hindrance to regulating such mental habits. However, you probably don't have to ask for zero all of a sudden.
In English, teacher Thich Nhat Hanh is a good way to learn proper mental habits. There are lots of Dharma talks and retreats on YouTube. Why don't you watch it together?

Isn't medical treatment necessary?

Nice to meet you, Mayonnaise. I read your question.

My husband, who was addicted to marijuana, said, “I haven't smoked even once in half a year. They said, “I bought it once in a while because I thought it would be good once in a while,” and they started smoking, and they smoked quite a bit.

I'm guessing there may be a slight dependency trend.
I think the truth or falsehood of “I haven't smoked even once in half a year” is doubtful. I felt like I was making up an excuse.

There are two types of addiction: mental dependency and physical dependence.

Mental dependency is an addiction linked to some mental reason, such as liking coffee and not being able to stop. Physical dependency causes mental instability and interferes with life without it. For example, in alcohol addiction, if you don't drink alcohol, your personality may change due to violence.

There is no way to determine which one your husband falls under, but marijuana is physically dependent. If the amount is increasing, specialized treatment may be necessary.

For reference only.