The pain of being a man

is that so... If you have such an experience, you won't like it. I don't like women like that.

Regardless of gender, there are preferences and conditions you look for in a partner. However, that doesn't mean it's okay to lack consideration or hurt your partner. I don't want to have a romantic relationship without compassion for each other.
Women are also weak, so it is women who get involved in sexual crimes.
It's not about which one, I just want to love and be loved properly.

It's already a classic, but there used to be something called a vagrant cloud (haguregumo).
In the Edo period, the main character was a handsome guy.
The main character's lines were all Zen-like, and it was a comic I liked. (I was still a college student around that time, and I read it without thinking it would become Osho)

“You can trust a man who married a woman who is ugly but kind-hearted.”
The main character, who has seen his whole life, was commenting on himself.

Take your free time and read it! Because it's interesting.

I read it, including past questions!

Now all of a sudden, how is Kanikama-san self-analyzing herself?
Do you have above average intelligence and reason, have a decent educational background and good looks, and are you honest and kind?
Apparently, I feel like I'm “above average...” by comparing myself to others and ranking myself. Ranking yourself means, in other words, looking down on others who look below you.
That kind of mentality can be seen through the other person through various words and actions. That's probably why the “woman who has a low level and doesn't have a good personality” mentioned by Kani Kama-san will stop by.

It's easy to blame everything around you and get stingy, but that doesn't solve anything. Rather, my heart is filled more and more with anger, jealousy, etc., and my suffering only increases.
Others are called mirrors reflecting oneself. It may be difficult, but isn't it necessary to look back at yourself, which you thought was right, and then look back again?

Also, there are people on the female side who have various complaints. There are also people who have various complaints against men, such as “even though they work together, leave all housework and childcare to women,” or “if you have even the slightest dissatisfaction, you can complain to your colleagues at the company saying, “My wife...” and you can look at them with that kind of eyes.”
When Kani Kama-san heard that, she said, “I wouldn't do that. You might think, “I'll help my wife properly and make her happy.”
That's exactly the answer. Men also have various ideas and personalities. Conversely, women also have various ideas and personalities.
I have seen countless couples due to their occupations. Of course, there are people whose marital relationships aren't going well, but even more than that, there are many couples who respect and cherish each other.

I don't know how many women Kani Kama-san has seen. However, he is still young in terms of age. I don't think I've seen enough people to say, “Women in the world...” There are more people than you might think.
Don't worry, by looking back and refining yourself calmly, you will surely become an even more wonderful self. And if you become a wonderful self, Kani Kama-san will always say, “If it were this person!” You'll meet people you think like.

Please use it as a reference even a little bit!

Maybe that's just because the woman I've been in a relationship with until now was unlucky and had a bad personality.
Why don't you try a different approach than before?
At meeting places such as joint parties, matchmaking, street parties, or shared seat izakayas, don't use fancy parentheses at all. My job is in a small business and my annual income is low. Let's say the car is a light car.
There are times when they buy meals, but they basically split the bill, and even though they are careful about the other person, they try to express their own opinions clearly.
You may be overtaken by many women, but even so, if there are people who turn around, that person may have a good personality.
Also, I think women also have hardships that we men don't understand. That's because many women have written their concerns about their husbands, boyfriends, and men in this Hasunoha. Please keep that in the corner of your head too.

appending
I think it's probably my support for you, so I'll let you know.
https://hasunoha.jp/questions/32560

“Darwin Has Arrived!” which is broadcast every Sunday night on NHK Do you know the program called?
This is a documentary that follows the ecology of wild animals.
Please watch that program how many times.
In the animal world, after all, it is royal to search for a strong person of the opposite sex in order to have strong children in love.
For example, there are birds that have developed into being popular when they are good at building nests, and popular when they are good at dancing.
Isn't human love fundamentally the same as animal love?
It is important for men and women to have the same interests.
People who respond to the needs of the opposite sex are popular.
body, intelligence, spirit.
If you have a weakness somewhere, it's going to be hard to get popular, right?
On the other hand, few people are perfect.
If you chase your ideals too much, it won't be realistic.
It would be nice if you could meet a good partner.

That's tough... you did your best. I'm not asking you to try harder. just...
Master Miyake has posted a link, but there are people who change by showing weakness in this way, and there is a world that changes. I hope you notice that. It's okay to be weak.

Now I dare to post past answers for other questioners. I feel like it's okay if the content is weak, and that it doesn't have to be correct. Please take a look if you like.
https://hasunoha.jp/questions/31666
https://hasunoha.jp/questions/31131

Ah, that's right. You don't have to keep up with your everyday life. There were times when I just couldn't move on my bed, but now I'm in such a state that I can respond to people like this. You don't need to be impatient. Shall I post a story from that time too? If it's tough, don't force yourself to read it.
https://hasunoha.jp/questions/2961

From my point of view as a Buddhist practitioner, I don't think they are arrogant. However, I think they have been misled. As a Zen monk, I've always fought against a society that imposes things like “discipline yourself,” “if you make an effort,” “have a dream,” “refine yourself,” and “good sex theory.” I wanted to reduce the number of victims like you. At the same time, I don't like myself. That's where “monks should be like this!” That's because almost all of them are gross.
I hope to speak with you again sometime.