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You will hyperventilate.

I don't want to go to work. I have a colleague at work that I don't like. I don't like just looking at that person.
I moved last week, and that person was in the house across the street. The parking lot is next door. I was so surprised that I hyperventilated. The company is also closed.
Actually, I've been on hiatus many times until now.
I just moved, I don't have any money, and the sense of hopelessness is amazing.

is this medicine for suppressing anxiety after dinner? I'm drinking it.

My head is blank.

5 Zen Responses

Have you been prescribed medication? Let's get a proper examination.

Everyone has difficulties with interpersonal relationships. It's so painful to take a break from work. Once you think it's hard, you'll respond even if you just meet and hear voices. I'm worried that I'll hyperventilate.
Taking time off from work frequently is also a problem because there is a possibility that you will become more and more isolated.

Are you living alone? Ask your parents, friends, and close people to listen to what you're worried about right now, such as talking to them or complaining about. If you don't let up, it's just going to be painful.
Were the medications prescribed at the hospital? If you take it, be sure to get a proper diagnosis.

A monk can't cure you, even if you tell me a story.
First, let's talk to someone who knows you very well. Let's listen to their opinions. That alone will change the way you look at it ◎

It's getting late

Kitty cat. My name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an.
I received your question last night, and I'm sorry for the late reply.
Were you able to take a day off last night? Were you able to go to work today?

Repairing a relationship with someone you've “disliked” is difficult, isn't it?
If that person and the house are opposite each other and the parking lot is next to each other, it may be difficult to even leave the house rather than go to work.

But I think it will be difficult to move or change jobs again. I think it's a really difficult situation, but I have no choice but to persevere and live my life.
However, I think it is necessary not only to hold on, but also to pull out parts. Aroma, bathing, reading, yoga, etc... find a way to relieve stress that suits you, and cherish that time.
I've heard that hyperventilation is extremely painful. I suddenly thought it might be effective to experience zazen, which focuses on breathing.

I'm sorry that it wasn't easy to help. Also, if you have any concerns, please contact us at hasunoha.

“Resentment will cause bitterness”

Kitten-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

In Buddhism, there is the term “grudge, hate, and suffering,” and it is the suffering of having to meet people and bad things to the extent that we hate and grudge, but this time, while being driven into a state of such mental instability, it's very painful... I know it's called “hyperventilation syndrome”...

I wonder if they don't live with their family... I wonder if they don't have anyone nearby to support the kitten, for example, a colleague, friend, partner, or lover... I'm really worried.

I'm in a very unstable state right now, so I think it would be good to be able to consult with close and reliable people as much as possible, help, and obtain cooperation as much as possible without worrying or suffering alone, and furthermore, as Mr. Urakami also said, to be able to do various good things to relieve anxiety.

In the case of an urgent emergency evacuation, it may be a good idea to disturb your parents' house, relatives, or friend's house until they calm down a bit.

Also, if there seems to be a shelter, a so-called “shelter,” nearby for those who urgently need temporary evacuation due to various problems such as DV or domestic violence, etc., I think it is one thing that can be evacuated there. Please feel free to contact the ward office, etc.

Postscript... Iwate Prefecture Gender Equality Center Counseling Office Information
http://www.aiina.jp/danjo/soudan/soudan.html

I am sure that you will be able to respond to the consultation even with the above. Also, please check the consultation desk at your municipality.

Anyway, first of all, I would recommend that you try to keep a little distance from the problem so that it doesn't get any worse.

I sincerely pray that you will be able to spend your days peacefully with peace of mind as soon as possible.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

If you really don't like it, run away.

 I'm not going to talk about the details or the cleanness. If you don't want to be in front of someone you don't like, you should think about running away. I had that experience too. It's unlikely that you'll be able to understand each other in 12 episodes and 3 months like dramas. Unless you're prepared to really spend your whole life sharing, but that's probably not possible right now.
There are various ways to escape; one is to tell your boss at work and have them change your assignment, or if there is another branch office, have them skip you there. I think it's a good idea to move even if you're in debt. At this time, people close to you also said, “There are people like that everywhere, so be patient.” Being told that is a mistake, and the government office basically doesn't deal with it. I have no choice but to protect myself. Even if it takes time to get on track, the only way to work comfortably is to break up with someone you don't like. I've been doing that too. Nowadays, my income is a little low, but I think I'm happy to be surrounded by good people.
However, there may be times when one day you might find yourself in the opposite position. Please live your life keeping in mind that there are people who quit because you don't like it.

What is the difference between Realtime and Self-Image

① When you dislike and hate your partner, negative energy is released and it only makes you suffer, so it's a good idea to stop the act of hating or hating itself.
Even if you blow up the engine you hate in a place where there is no one, the person in question has a cool face, so they just lose in solo sumo wrestling.
↓※This is super important!
② Hating people isn't well known, but in fact, in 90% of cases, people are doing it with a negative image of themselves on their fight partner.
You may not believe it, but most of the people you spend plenty of time suffering with are not real-time personal sama (hereinafter referred to as real-time sama),
Actually, it's about the image of the person within yourself (self-image below).
In fact, there must be a ratio of more time spent struggling with a self-image (shadow) than the time spent repeatedly coming into contact with Realtime.
This is because a fight with Realtime means a fight or fistfight at that scene.
In order to notice this fine line and not be fooled, don't treat him by admiring Self-Image right now.
If you only interact with a real real-time person, it's at most a few minutes a day.
It's about coming to work in order to gradually get used to it, stop your mind, and just take a quick look at Realtime's precious face as if you were worshiping a Buddha statue.
“Terrible, impossible!” Maybe (-_-;) This is exactly what it takes to remove the self-image and look like in true real time.
Other than the actual partner, there is no one in person anywhere. So, get used to it with your eyes and lose your fear. This is surprisingly the most effective.
④ And when you throw away the bad image files that were attached to Realtime, the real thing is surprisingly small.

⑤ I don't know the gender of the other person from the question, but if that person is deliberately harassing, this is a social issue or crime.
“I'm in trouble, it's annoying, please stop it!” Speaking bluntly to my boss, the bully side is chicken, so I won't touch it much.
Let's always record harassment statements with the IC recorder in REC state so they can't be seen, and send them to the HR manager. People who bully or harass come because they think this side won't fight back at all (^o^)