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She was working in the sex industry.

It was discovered the other day that she was working as a sex worker. The two of us had a discussion at that time. It seems that they were in trouble with money, so I gave them money and decided to quit the sex shop there. Then a little friend told me this picture isn't your girlfriend? When I got in touch with her and took a look, she was definitely my girlfriend. I was really upset, but after all, I went to a sex shop to nominate her because I was still in trouble with money, or if there was some reason, even if I stood up.
We met up in front of the hotel, so she came to the place where I was waiting, and she cried when she saw my face. Anyway, when I entered the hotel and asked about the situation, they said they weren't in as much trouble with money as before, but it still seemed difficult to think about monthly payments, and they were thinking about getting married, so they wanted to save money. It's not like I want to have sex, it's just for money.
They said it's okay to rely on me, but they don't seem to be good at relying on people, and it seems like they think about trying to do something about it themselves.
Currently, she is job-hunting and she said before that she would quit if decided.
I also said that it would be good if I joined the temporary service until it was decided, but after all, it seems like people can earn 50,000 etc. in 3 days, so it seems like my sense of money is getting strange. She said it herself.
And it seems like when I quit the store I first worked at there, I didn't quit.
The two of them discussed it and decided to completely quit that store.
And she also went to register for dispatch.
However, yesterday I discovered that she was working at another store. She's bad at lying and hiding, so I understood right away.
We had further discussions. We had the best discussion so far. I listened attentively to her story and told my story very well. She also said she wanted to go back to her previous normal job, and the two of them talked about doing their best.
She also had the best face ever.
I want her to say that little by little is fine, so I want her to do her best.
And speaking of mine, since there were so many things, I'm honestly mentally in a state of emptiness. There is also a part where I doubt it even though I don't want to doubt it. I'm thinking of going to a psychiatrist too. Still, I want to work hard with her, and I love her.
I think the two of us will do our best. Last but not least, won't she work in the sex industry anymore? Isn't it strange that I like her even though there are so many things up to this point? Please give me some advice.

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Worship

Lies burn the hearts of self and others
if it's a serious lie, it takes up a tremendous amount of time

Is it dependent on sex
Is it dependent on money
Does it depend on Sugarcane's kindness

I can only read it from a sentence
I think it depends on all three of these
Betraying over and over
This is because they are taking advantage of what Sugarcane forgives
Unfortunately, in a sense, there is no difference that it is the most despicable act

The fact that they have been snuggling up and walking together is very important
However, rescuing from dependency is not an easy task
First, the mental and physical health of the rescuer is number one
Be prepared not to be hurt by lies
A resolute attitude that never forgives lies
Always keep a calm and calm attitude and language
Strong and mature spirit
It must be equipped with
Why don't you take a break and train yourself

First, take back your own health
Isn't it okay to think about redividing the partitions?
Life is long, so it's fine
Reorganizing the partition with a resolute attitude of “not allowing lies”
It may also make you discover a new perspective

I pray for the mental and physical health of the two of you

Gassho

if you really want to rehabilitate her...

Hello Sugarcane.

You're forgiving her hidden sex work, aren't you? I think it's great. There are so many things people can't say to people. If she wants to live a serious life, it's important not to drag on things to the past, but to love her now.

Well, it's a pattern where her own life went bankrupt, learned the manners, and then further disrupted her life with money from the customs. Your original lifestyle isn't right, so unless you change that lifestyle, no matter how much you apologize in front of you, you won't be able to stop living a flashy lifestyle, so you'll end up in a bicycle business where you earn money from customs again.

Chances are, you still have debts and secrets that you don't know about. That's why it's unstoppable. I can do nothing but cry in front of you. You probably won't be able to fix that life alone.

If you want to rehabilitate her, think about marriage, and do something about it, tell her right now not to live together. The first thing to do is to know all her assets and debts in order to know her life. Please listen again and see if there are any more. Of course, please check passbooks, mail, etc. On top of that, it would be nice if you could live together and teach them how to live. If she refuses it, she probably won't be able to rehabilitate. Even if you force yourself to get married, you won't be able to stop living a flashy life and end up getting into debt and making you suffer.
You'd better break up.

Please do your best. Maybe you are the changing Kannon who saves her. I'm rooting for you. Please feel free to contact us anytime. Gassho

First of all, please take a good rest

I read it.

I think your heart is very tired and hurt right now.

First of all, I think the first step is for you to relax your mind and body. Don't leave right away in a situation where you're too exhausted to make a decision.

First, make sure you get a good night's sleep, eat nutritious food, and heal your fatigue thoroughly.
Then, once you've recovered, let's take a calm look at it again.
Please carefully review the state of that situation, your own thoughts, and how you think about yourself and how you want to live from now on, and how it is desirable to make decisions.

Your life is yet to come.

If you hurry, you'll ruin the situation.

Please sit back and face it.

I'm supporting you from the bottom of my heart.

It's hard to be in a relationship with someone who has different values of right and wrong

When it comes to customs, of course, they're legal, right?
It's not like they're committing a criminal act.
Perhaps speeding is an act much closer to a crime than working in the sex industry.
This means that you and your girlfriend have different values of right and wrong.
Maybe you're imposing your values on her.
That's fine. Communicating how you think to others is important.
However, if the difference in values still doesn't shrink, can it be said that the “compatibility” between you and her is good in the first place?
If you want to keep dating her, you may need to not only make her change her values, but also change your own values closer to her.