To be loved by your ancestors and Buddhas...

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Even if you do a memorial service with pure thoughts, you will be alienated by your ancestors
Even if I ask for a prayer with a pure feeling, I don't feel like I'm being paid in front of the gate by the Buddha.
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I'm not really impressed by the way it is said in a way that disparages the Buddha. When I say, “Maybe even if I really put my heart into the memorial service,” I'm already in a state where “my feelings are wobbly” and “my heart is wobbly,” and I work believing that if I get serious and pray the sutras, my sincerity will reach both the Buddha and my ancestors.

If you go to the Buddha's world, your ancestors won't disdain you. There is no such thing as a Buddha paying in front of the gate. Whether you're visiting a shrine or offering a memorial service for your ancestors, I think that's because your heart is half-hearted.

In the Soto sect, the phrase “dignity is Buddhism manners is purpose” is often said in ascetic practices. Since we learn patterns and acquire molds, our daily lives and training will become proper, and our mentality will also become strong. First, please just work hard at chanting the sutras and praying.

This is what Amida Nyorai said
“Shitsuga Tokubutsu, the Ten Faces of Sentient Life, Shikoku, Shikoku, and the Ten Nemesis, Those Who Don't Get Right, Only the Five Reverses to the Law of Slander”

If I were to explain what this means
“If I become a Buddha, all good people, bad people, wise people, and fools will all be born in the Pure Land, except for those who slander the Five Reverses and Justice because they are felonies and unbelievable.”
It means that even though they say that it is a felony and that they are excluded because they are untrustworthy, they say “all good people and bad people are the same,” so sooner or later, all such people will be saved.

It's a Buddha who has such a generous heart of mercy
Even if you don't usually have faith, they don't say, “What a mess, I don't know what you say,” nor do you say “I'm a little presumptuous, I only rely on it when it's convenient, Kora.”

Well, if you can be saved even if you don't have faith, you don't need to praise Nembutsu, and you don't need to go to a temple, but that's different
You can certainly be saved, so why do we do nembutsu, do we share our hands, and do work

Since they save us with such a forgiving heart of mercy, they do nembutsu as a heart of gratitude
Amida-sama is not asking for anything in return; we will do it without permission, and we will do nembutsu with the feeling that it is just like in our heart, thank you with all your heart

The time required for the death of the Buddha is allocated to how he spent his time in Shabha, but he never gives or receives benefits.
Don't worry, it doesn't matter if you don't practice ascetic practices or not.

Zo-chan

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

As the character suggests, a “memorial service” means “to nourish”, and it is important to “nourish” acts aimed at enlightenment and nirvana in thankful and precious Buddhism, the Buddha's side, and “offerings” with ancestors who first went to the world of the Buddha and walked the Buddha's path; furthermore, all sentient beings who spend their time in this world are all equal, and everywhere, “nourish” acts aimed at enlightenment and nirvana.

There is no such thing as being bothered by “good deeds” or “merits” when it comes to standing on top of the line.

As you learn and practice Buddhism, I think it's good to refrain from doing what you shouldn't do and work hard on what is recommended.

In other words, in simple terms, it is the content of the Shichibutsu Tsuji, but it is about purifying the mind by working hard and doing good deeds without doing anything bad.

Please continue to cherish your relationship with the Buddha, please keep a little bit of the above, and I would be grateful if you would follow the path of Buddhism.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

Apart from the Buddha, I don't know if our ancestors really listened to our sutras or watched our good deeds.
However, showing our splendid appearance to the Buddha and our ancestors is an ascetic practice.
The better you do, the better your heart becomes.
The more good things you think about, the better your heart becomes.
If you have a good heart, your worries, which are the cause of your worries and suffering, will weaken, so your worries and suffering will decrease.
So, if our ancestors watched our good deeds, our ancestors also watched it and thought good things, so the worries and suffering of our ancestors would also decrease.
In that sense, we do good things and offer them to our ancestors, but even if our ancestors don't see it, it's our own training, so it leads to a reduction in our own suffering.