I can't sleep at night because I'm afraid of dying

Thank you for reading, sorry if the category is different.

I'm afraid of dying. “Death” is a completely unknown world, so I am filled with fear. Losing one's existence is painful depending on how one dies. The more I think about it, the more confused my head becomes and I hate it.

At night, when I sleep, when I get into my futon, I unexpectedly think about “dying,” and I can't sleep. I'm afraid of dying, I don't want to die, and I often stay awake until midnight crying.

I'm also bad at leading to death. When an earthquake occurs, my body doesn't stop shaking, and when an earthquake with a seismic intensity of about 3 occurs, I am struck by the feeling that the earthquake has moved away from my head and my body is shaking for a while. My parents also say, “Your way of being scared about earthquakes isn't normal.”

A special feature on war, which is featured on TV shows. Earthquake special feature, murder case. I was also watching, etc., and I was driven by an uneasy feeling, and I couldn't sleep that night.

Death is something that comes at some point and must be accepted, but I am in a state where I cannot accept it.

It is also possible to have a psychiatrist give you medicine to brighten your mind (?) I think so. However, if you do that, it seems that you will not be able to live without relying on medicine. I would like to change this state of affairs. What should I do?

4 Zen Responses

I don't know when I'm going to die

Maybe tomorrow, maybe today
You might not wake up after sleeping
Maybe next year, 10 or 20 years from now?
I don't know, I don't know

That's why I live the present to the fullest; I don't think there's tomorrow and I'm fine

There were times when I was just as anxious, scared, and unbearable
it's scary, scary, and unavoidable when you start thinking

Let's speak loudly every morning when we wake up and get out of the futon

“I woke up today too, thank you”

It doesn't matter if you say thank you to God, the Buddha, yourself, or everything
The happiness of being able to wake up safely today, the happiness of being kept alive
Please chew it every morning

People who know it can live more grateful every day than people who don't know

Ancestors' teachings

Nice to meet you.

I'm impressed that when I was a teenager, I never thought about “death” like you.

I agree with what Shogenshi wrote.

Also, if I had to add, are your parents still alive? So what about grandparents? Furthermore, what about great-grandparents? In other words, I think our ancestors = Buddha are there.

Those who have passed away are literally people who “lost their lives.” All those who died were made up of Buddha. Becoming a Buddha = becoming a Buddha. The Buddha is preaching the teachings. What kind of teaching is that? The teaching that “people always die.”

If you hear that, you might say, “I know that.” But because they are people who have lost their lives, they say to those of us who still have life, “Take care of that life to the fullest. He taught me firsthand, “Even if you die tomorrow, don't have any regrets.”

A person called Rennyo Shonin of the Shinshu sect said, “Put the greatest importance of the afterlife on your heart.” Joining hands with your ancestors means receiving their teachings. Praising Nembutsu is a reply I received saying that I will cherish my life and live my life to the fullest.

Death is scary. However, until the moment I die, life lives in me to the fullest, no matter what I or you think or feel. Let's live today to the fullest along with that life.

I'm being kept alive by my parents, relatives, friends, seniors and juniors, teachers, bosses, and the many people I've been involved with, and you.

Gassho

Pure Land of Paradise

It's a Jodo sect answer...

Have you ever sung Namu Amida Buddha?
If not, please praise me in a quiet voice.
Namuami dabutsu, that's right.

Did you praise him?
I just heard that voice of Amida Buddha in the Pure Land of Paradise.
When you run out of life, Amitabha will pick you up and take you to the Pure Land of Paradise.
There are many people who died earlier in the Pure Land of Paradise.
I'm sure many of your ancestors were there too.
So I'm not lonely.
There is no suffering in the Pure Land of Paradise.
The moment you run out of life can be painful.
However, it is said that the moment Amitabha Buddha approaches and sees its light, the suffering quickly disappears.
It's only a moment.

So please don't worry.
Please don't worry about the next life and concentrate on the present world you are living in now.
If you feel uneasy, praise Namu Amida Buddha again.

Fujiwara-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

I recently answered questions about fear and anxiety about death, so the content is the same, but for your reference.

The state of suffering due to fear, anxiety, and fear about “death”...

Of course, my humble life also had a fear and anxiety about “death.”

But now I don't have that much fear or anxiety.

The cause of fear and anxiety lies in “ignorance.”

Alternatively, in Buddhism, it is a state of not knowing the truth, as “ignorance and ignorance.”

So, of course, “try not to think” and “ignore” are probably one thing, but since everyone will eventually welcome them, they won't stay that way forever.

Therefore, although it becomes miso in the foreground, I would still recommend learning and practicing Buddhism, which involves sincerely confronting “death” and advancing understanding.

One hint for that is to understand the state of “body” and “consciousness” (fine consciousness) in “death”

Regarding “death,” the possibility that it will become “nothing” seems to be one of the causes of that fear/anxiety, so if you can firmly believe that “death” is by no means “nothing” or “absolute,” my understanding of “death” will also progress slightly, and fear and anxiety will also ease.

By all means, I would like you to take an interest in Buddhism and learn it.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

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