Are kids good at bumping or snoring?

　When there's something I don't like, the switch suddenly turns on, and the person changes. Their facial expressions and wording have changed, and they look like yakuza.

This is also true for my own children, and I usually say “Haru-chan, ehehehe.” I'm doting on it, but for example, if something a child swings hits me, and it just so happens that it doesn't hit me, and it hurts, they say, “Wow, let's do this!” It's going to become.

It's natural that it's better not to hit than hit. However, if you don't hit one shot lightly, you'll be snoring with words for 30 minutes or more, and I think it's even more mentally damaging. Also, it will accumulate next time, and it won't be enough if it's light. Then there is a risk of major injury.

Incidentally, my wife, who says it's not good to hit, has been snoring in a closed room called a bath for an hour, crying and making her cry.

I would be happy if you could tell me what the monk is thankful for.

5 Zen Responses

Let's stop either

It will hurt your child's heart.

When the switch is about to turn on, 5 seconds is fine.

“Calm down calm calm calm calm down”

Try taking a deep breath.

Little by little, you will be able to control yourself.

There are times when the switch is turned on in the same way for me, so I understand how painful it is.

It's fine.

Don't Justify Yourself

Getting angry and scolding are completely different.
You're just venting your anger; it's not education or discipline.
You must clearly explain what is bad and what is good, and why you are being scolded now.
No matter how many times you say it, your child may not do what you say.
Even so, parents keep wishing for their children's happiness.
That is probably a parent's love.

It's outrageous to be swayed by a momentary sense of anger, raise your hand to a small child from an absolute position as an adult, and be upset.
I want you to be aware that this is embarrassing.

The Buddha never gets angry.
This is because they know that we cannot indoctrinate others with anger.
We can't imitate that, but I think it's important for them to learn from that attitude.

It will come back

　Right now, you probably have an absolute advantage. However, one day the position will be reversed. This is the same in every home. “Is it better to hit my dad's yarrow or snore? hehehe.”
No matter what, it is uncritically accepted by him as a principle of action. If you can, I'll teach you the “right thing.” If you want to teach with your body, do it, show it, and teach it as action.
I swung something around and hit my dad. I tell them with their mouths, “At times like that, I apologize and say sorry.” For now, just the shape is fine. If you really want me to say it, apologize yourself when your father does it. If you just say “apologize from the bottom of your heart,” you'll just be a talkative person. When your father apologizes, you become a child who can apologize.
What do you think, if we leave it as it is now, children will learn that “problems can be solved by hitting or sniffling.” You will be a child who acts like that to those around you. And then one day I'll give it back to you, someday. Like Asano parents and children in “Assassination Classroom.”

It's not about putting up with it

Hit and snore.
Both are awesome, aren't they?
Don't put up with it.
If you put up with it, you're already angry.
First, try “don't impose your own rules on children.”
It would be really sad if you and your wife were bumpy and messed around like that when you were a kid.
Someone did that to you too, and as a result, you probably “ended up like that” in a negative spellbound loop.
both of you.
In any case, such education will continue to have a negative aura in the family for a long time to come.
There is no doubt that you will be unhappy. It will be an incident if it breaks down someday.
They don't feel good about each other, either as a couple or between parents and children, do they?
Ikari, snoring, being grumpy, yelling, being violent, and snoring are “your weakness of heart.”
That's not strength. Bullying the weak.
We recommend that you search for anger management with your wife and kids and take courses.
There are also many “Don't Get Angry Books.”
Maybe she has too many things.
Please eliminate “expectations” and “demands” about your partner and the situation in your home.
They treat children as friends, not as parents.
I get annoyed when they talk cheeky because they try to be cocky.
We communicate even when we are poisoned.
Punching and snoring are just acts of violence.
However, the problem is that you don't want to fix it.

Nice to meet you
I'll tell you what I felt

I'm also a parent of people
Sometimes I feel emotional
So I understand it very well

What I want you to notice
What do you want to value as a parent
What do you want to tell your kids

Scolding is different when you get angry
Does it have love or not

I'm sure your child has love
I hope you can try to act with love
On top of that, I think your loving words and actions will come out

I think raising children is also parenting in a sense
I am being raised by children every day
This time may also be a lesson for your further growth

I would be happy if you could use it as a reference

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