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How to deal with stuttering

I've always been the type that makes it easy for tension to come out in my body.
I blush and stutter when everyone sees it.

However, I loved talking to people, so I got into the hospitality business. However, when I answered a phone call to a customer or another store, etc., the name and name of the store did not come up, and it was misunderstood that it was a prank call.
This kind of thing became a bitter memory and I stopped it.

As for my personality, I'm the type that compares people to others and despises them.
I always become too aware of the other person's image of myself, and I get hardened.

There's something I want to say, but I'm frustrated that I can't. Because I'm not aware of stuttering in front of friends or family relaxing
It doesn't stutter.
I get abnormally nervous when it's a situation where people are evaluated in society.

For my part, I want to relax and be myself at work without worrying about people's eyes. I'm only concerned about stuttering because I'm doing what I want to say while converting it into words that are easy to say.
I don't think stuttering can be cured. I want to be myself not bothered at work. Please tell me how I should deal with myself.

4 Zen Responses

Hello.
I used to be a nervous person too.
As a true story, this is Kinchor Tange, who had the experience of being selected as the number one person with severe tremors when he was in elementary school.
My name is still in the collection of literature from that time. No mercy, elementary school students.
Maybe because of the trauma that followed. My high school recorder test was a transcendental trill.
Girls said they were “cute,” but it was too late when they realized their value.
When I told my calligraphy teacher that I wanted to cure my character tremors, the answer was too mature, saying, “It can taste good too.” I wasn't convinced.
When I was in college, I first met the same trembling man. “It was there! They're each other!” I've quit smoking now, but I used to smoke the same cigarettes.
If you like, please come and practice zazen in the same Saitama.
You can also use nembutsu, mantras, and sutras at a nearby temple.
But when I was listening to the Zen story, “I” disappeared, so I stopped shaking.
In your case, I think “not really doing anything” is the best.
The tremors will stop when “I am overly aware of people” disappears from within you.
Originally, there was no such thing as “me,” but since when did humans think “this guy” is “me.”
Now look at your hands. I think I lost my strength and stopped shaking.
Try saying something. You should have become your true self.
If you get bitten or feel nervous, please come to the temple.
There are people who worry about the person next to them during zazen meditation, but I can sit anywhere, so I'm not nervous.
When you completely remove the public eye from yourself, you're just who you are.
Maybe it will heal. it.
That's because my Transcendental Trill has healed too. However, since there are several people attending the zazen session, I think it's difficult to ask questions, so it's OK if you come individually.
Dare to try it out in order to “get used to it” in the presence of people.
The tension won't last forever.
The hint is “if you let go of you, it will go away on its own.”
Come and get the hang of it.

Take a breath

Previously, I was a child who could hardly go to junior high school, and I was made to the middle school life committee, and my teacher suddenly told me to stand on the morning stand at the morning meeting on Monday and announce my “life goals for this week,” and I was forced to go up to the morning stand. In front of over 300 students and 30 teachers, it was completely blank and I couldn't say anything. I felt like a fire would come out of my face, and after that, I couldn't speak in public or talk to my friends. It was around the end of high school that I was able to finally talk after getting away from that trauma for a while. But I became an office worker, and 15 years later I was a customer center manager. Since it was processing complaints, it was an extremely difficult job to clearly communicate my thoughts. Even so, “what I can talk to myself right now is limited. You should tell them one word at a time to the extent you can. It's fine because it's impossible for me to tell everything clearly.” With that feeling, I always took a slow breath before talking. So I think it's fine not to panic about what you can say, do whatever your heart desires, and then listen to what the other person is saying. Please feel at ease when talking! People with a heart will definitely listen to your story, so don't worry!

Slowly one word at a time

Understood.
I'm also really bad at speaking.
I've hated Japanese the most since I was in elementary school.
I couldn't even read the textbook, so I was always excited to see if I could guess the teacher.
When I was an office worker, I worked in a factory and didn't talk much, so I was at ease.
However, now that I'm a monk, I sometimes talk a little bit in front of believers, so it's a struggle.
Anyway, I'll speak slowly word for word.
Like the cameraman Watanabe Yoichi.
I can't talk a lot, so I only talk about important things and things I want to tell you.

Let's do our best together.

I'm not going to die

It's an abusive way of saying it, but it doesn't cause death, so it's fine.
Everyone probably has flaws and complexes.
“It's okay, just the way it is, thank you.”

However, in situations where people tend to be nervous, they may be running away.
In your mind, let's put ourselves in the position of the side that runs away, the side that chases, and the side that enjoys it.
Imagining an impossibly unscrupulous fantasy is fine, so let's imagine enjoying that situation.
For example, it's a scene where everyone is paying attention to your stuttering voice, and if that is the case, everyone is listening to your sexy gasp while being fascinated, you're the only one in a position where it's okay to let out a proud gasp voice; rather, let everyone hear it.
Impossible, right? he's a pervert, right?
I look like a girl, but my personality is a perverted bastard; I heard a sexy voice today too, and that's fine.
Don't worry, even if you're a pervert, you won't die.