Being an only child

Good morning, mother of one child.
I'm also an only son.
As the person in question, I'm dying to have another sibling...
I never thought about that.

Of course, I never had a grudge against my parents.
They let me do what I wanted to do, and they supported me.
Since I don't have any siblings, I'm more lonely and stronger (laughs).

The fact that one person is the limit due to your own various reasons,
I understand it very well.
I think that's fine.
Please don't be too demeaning.
Being asked “when is the second one”... it will all be over within that time.

“It's a pity to be an only child”, thank you very much (laughs).
leave me alone! It feels like...

The world, not limited to this case,
There are many statements that ignore the person's circumstances.
You should listen to that kind of thing.
Like “say it without permission...” (^^)

It's fun for a family of 3, too.
The very fact that you have children is important,
The number of people is not an issue.
Please take good care of nurturing one seed as a couple.

Me too, and when I look around, I see a lot of parents who are only children.
Everyone is taking it easy.

You are raising your own children
I think it would be nice if you could develop it in your own way.
Let's live more comfortably (^_^)
That ease of mind made my son
I can't stop believing that it will also lead to being raised peacefully...

Nice to meet you, mother of one child. My name is Akazawa from Ichimyoji. I would like to answer my own thoughts by saying “advice for raising an only child in an environment where 2 or 3 children are commonplace around you.”

“Is there a second one yet?” When you hear “an only child is a pitiful attack” or “a fun story about a family of 4”... it's easy to think that children's happiness is made by parents, but parents only provide their bodies, not even the soul.

Soccer player Honda had a child and said, “This child is taken care of by society.”
When I heard those words, I agreed with “Honda, let's do it.”

God said, “I'll leave this child to you, so please raise him properly,” and left it to me.
When children become adults, they search for the place they should be on their own. In the case of girls, it's the same way of thinking that “my parents' house is a temporary inn until I find a husband.”

Children are raised by kind people until they get to where they are originally. So if you appreciate your parents' kindness, return that favor to society. I think this is a real parent-child relationship.

The fact that it is better for children to have siblings is an adult's point of view and has nothing to do with the growth of a son's soul; parents do not give children happiness; rather, parents receive happiness over children.

I'm happy enough with this child alone, and now let me do what I can do now so that this child can be a parent who can be happy like me when they have their own child. Why don't you think so?

Like the mother of one child, I answered as a parent with one 3-year-old child.

It's cute when my son is 3 years old. Every day is a discovery, and I don't think it's unreasonable that I can't think of another person.

> Actually, maybe I want a second child myself.
Maybe so, maybe not. It's natural for feelings to fluctuate. The fact that the husband doesn't want a second child may also be a cause of trouble for a mother of one child.
Living expenses and mental leeway are something that can be managed at that time. As you already know, children's smiles are priceless.

The Buddha named his son Rahula (meaning obstacle, restraint, etc.) and took it as a hindrance to his own priesthood. I personally want children to be a treasure for parents and society. However, it is normal in the world for ideals and reality to be different.

I'm an only child, so it's impossible for me to say poop. The person raising 2 or 3 people said, “That's amazing. How about being spoiled at this time by saying, “That's right, I'm an only child, so please take care of me.” Let's dodge the inappropriate opinions of those around us as appropriate. I'm sure they're just saying it without much thought to the other person.

I have a lot of kids, so
I will answer from that standpoint.

There is nothing good or bad about the number of children.
There is also no ideal number of people.
And when the number of children increases,
There is no such thing as increasing happiness by that amount.

In my case,
The feeling of happiness when you're alone,
The feeling of happiness when two people are together
What is the feeling of happiness when there are 3 people
I thought the quality of each was different.

What you can do alone won't be able to do with 2 people...
There are things we can do with just two people...
As much as I was able to get a different kind of happiness
Some percent of my happiness up until then will disappear...,
Is that what it feels like?

Even if it's a married couple without children,
That's why there is happiness.

You can't get a partner just by hoping for one.
It's not something children want, either.
It only comes true if you have that relationship.

Now is the time to enjoy the family of three.

At a disciple's house.

Grandpa: “Son, how old is he?”

Me: “I'm in middle 2. It's fast.”

Grandma “Just Alone?”

I said, “Yes. That's right”

Grandpa: “Yes, it's fast, isn't it?”

Me: “That's true. It was a blink of an eye”

Grandma “I wish there were 2 or 3 more”

Grandpa: “Baseball is coming, right?”

I said, “Yes. I also want them to study a little bit, though.”

Grandma “Aren't you lonely when you're alone?”

Grandpa “Isn't it okay to have something you like?”

Me “Yes”

Grandma: “It's a pity to be an only child”

Grandpa and I “...”

Grandma: “Hey?”

To be honest, I was sharp, but hold back a lot.

Me “My wife is sick and we can't have children anymore”

Grandma “... ah...”

This is an extreme example, but people often say things like this. it's someone else's business, isn't it? It's irresponsible and cruel, really. I also know very well that the Crown Princess is getting sick.

My son was born soon after we got married, but it wasn't easy after that, and my wife had uterine fibroids about 5 years ago and lost her uterus. In other words, we won't have children anymore, and our son won't have siblings.

Well, I wish I had one more person, or if I had a daughter, thousands of times that of this grandma. But I can't do it anymore. Even so, my son grew up full of energy and honesty, and I feel happy to see him. Thank you for being born, I think so.

Right now, if you think it's okay to be alone, I think that's fine. However, when the feeling that I wish I had one more person becomes stronger, I would like you to receive it if it is something you can do after consulting with your husband.

Gassho

Strangers just say things about children in exchange for greetings, and there's no consideration. It's about each family situation, so there's no need to listen.
It's a strange conclusion, but if you focus on satisfying your child's love, that problem will be solved.
In our case, we have 2 children.
They say “children are stubborn,” etc., but to be honest, the meaning is completely unclear so far, only in my case. My child violently interferes with the fact that my wife and I are on good terms.
When I tried to talk to my wife, she sang a song in a loud voice and said, “Don't talk!” SHAW
It's not always a good thing to have 2 people.
Even when I'm taking care of my younger child, my older child always wants to be cared for, and I can't help but feel so lonely.
There will also be a lot of consultations with this Hasunoha in the future, such as people who are not on good terms with siblings.
If I hadn't had a younger child, I wouldn't have felt so lonely or scolded by my older child, and I can't count how much I would have received all the love from my parents, filled with love, and become a boy, wow. After all, I think humans are begging for something they don't have.
Most people only comment with common sense.
It's not just within the scope of common sense 📶, is it?
I think it's okay for people who have a different direction from themselves to the extent that their mobile phone manufacturers are different, and their plans are different (in many ways, life plans are also different).
Let's resolve the sense of minority isolation by having confidence and conviction in our own future designs.

Child-rearing is something where two people, a man and woman, meet, and are involved long after that until the child becomes an adult. In some cases, it may continue to change even when that child becomes an adult.
There is an ideal and a reality for everything.
I think that's exactly the case when it comes to raising children.
If you feel limited by having another child to raise your desired child, then you probably shouldn't hope for birth.
I don't think we should be rude to new lives.
Raising children is not a job.
Please don't overdo it (^_^).