The high level of pride and the feeling of looking down on people

You can train your sense of empathy by continuing to pay attention to “what do these people (people) want them to do.”

At the same time, if you objectively look at your own words and actions, it will be easier to find points to reflect on.
Neither of these are feelings you suddenly acquire, but the shortcut is probably to “speak slowly” and “have more ears to listen.”

It is also possible to draw conclusions on your own about your worries, etc., or that might be easier.
However, by actively relying on people, I think your original goodness will come out more and more.

Empathy, an objective view of oneself, and reliance on others.
I recommend it ★

Machi-san. You're continuing to worry about relationships, aren't you?

This time, I'm talking about what kind of people are “proud” and “ostensibly social, but there are barriers. I thought about how I felt that “I haven't exposed myself” or “I'm looking down on people somewhere.”

As a result of thinking about it, I'm not good at people who don't accept conversations. They are the kind of people who don't accept me when I say something, and they cover it up from above. They are people who don't honestly say, “You're doing your best, that's amazing.”

I don't know if Machi-san is that kind of person, so she may be saying something extremely out of place, but if this is possible, I think it's OK to “accept the other person's story with interest.”

I'm totally different! If so, please read it.
In any case, I believe that by looking closely at myself, my vague feelings will be clarified, and improvements will be made.

＜See thank you and posted＞
“As expected.” It's a mixed feeling, good and bad to be hit (wry laugh).
But if that's the case, it might be a good idea to attend a counseling course etc. There may be an image of counseling as giving some advice, but in reality, emphasis is placed on “how to listen to the other person.”

I also took counseling courses in Yokohama, where I live, and I am continuing my studies. In particular, the purpose is not to train counselors; it is for each person to acquire the ability and counseling mindset to listen to the other person's story in their own place (workplace or home).

I think there are courses in those municipalities as well. It's fine even if it's a one-off, so why not try it out once?

There are also things that are difficult to drink with 100% juice.
It's smooth, so I can drink very much.
Humans are no different. If it's too thick, your opponent won't be able to swallow it.
Pride, ego, my strength, my horned, self-centered, presentable...
There are various words, but it can be said that all of them have a “strong” level of self-concentration.
Maybe my consciousness isn't moving around, and it's too much on myself. You're probably unconsciously being yourself. Even if they are popular entertainers, they don't like being pompous or aggressive, tengu, and being a queen, and they are feigned. No matter how talented people are, if they don't have humility, they are seen as being out as people in this Japanese society with the virtue of humility.
Even if you're not aware of it, it's a relief just because people around you give you that kind of advice. It's about being humble right away.
It's simply saying, “Oh, am I assertive?”, it's a matter of flexibly holding back the assertive mole depending on the situation ('omega')
Even with questions like this, I think it would be nice if they were more basic. Please try again ♡

Machi-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

Previously, in the question below, I was able to successfully answer “happiness” that is not a “compromise” of one's self.

http://hasunoha.jp/questions/398

There are places where we inevitably think about things with ourselves at the center. This is because everyone cares about themselves the most and loves themselves.

In a sense, this is sex, and there are aspects that can't be helped.

In terms of Buddhism, “stubbornness” is regarded as the cause, but it is really troublesome.

Therefore, in Buddhism, it is recommended to get rid of this obsession with the self called “persistence,” and getting rid of ties by viewing things and things as a reality.

This is the so-called “sky,” but even if you say “it's empty, it's empty,” it becomes something crazy, so it's important to advance the understanding of “luck” in parallel along with understanding “sky.”

Understanding “luck,” for example, when I think about “can I live on my own,” I realize that this is completely impossible. Being associated with various things and things, and countless others, in other words, being “lucky,” means that when we understand the state of our “being kept alive,” we begin to feel aware, thankful, and thankful for those who keep us alive, and we are able to humbly refrain from arrogance and foolishness, and treat others with compassion, compromise, kindness, and compassion.

Just as everyone values and loves themselves, everyone values and loves themselves. Other people don't like being treated like that. Not dealing with what you don't like doing to yourself, that is, not causing trouble to others, and if possible, making arrangements so that you can be useful and beneficial to others is important for each other in order to successfully spend this auspicious world with each other.

This time, I think it would be nice if I could start by being aware little by little and keeping in mind that I am a person who is supported and kept alive by various things.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho