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About memorial services for ancestors

I was told by someone that since my husband's ancestors didn't have a memorial service, it's better to do a memorial service for ○10,000 yen.
Since this memorial service has not been held, I think it has had an impact even on my children.
We know that memorial services for our ancestors are important, but we are hesitating to such an offer.
I'm not overdoing it, but since they haven't held a memorial service, they say there's a problem, and I'm quite confused.
Isn't it possible to do memorial services for ancestors without spending that much money? What should I do?

4 Zen Responses

How do we position the death of a deceased person in our lives

Good evening. My name is Kameyama Junshi.
The memorial service for ancestors is not the Jodo Shinshu sect, which I believe in, but I would like to answer it with my own thoughts.

First, when I spent 100,000 yen to make a memorial service, “I was able to spend 100,000 yen to make a memorial service.” What I think is, “I multiplied it by 100,000 yen.” That's because I have that feeling. And it wasn't against our ancestors; it was “multiplied by 100,000 yen.” I think this is a thought directed at ourselves. This is because it was an act of memorial service that we carried out, and we don't know if the deceased actually made a memorial service.

Well, the purpose of the ancestral memorial service is for your ancestors to become Buddhas. In the Jodo Shinshu sect, attaining Buddhism for the deceased is the work of Amida Nyorai, and it is not a job we can do. Therefore, in the Jodo Shinshu sect, sutras are not recited for ancestral memorial services. As followers (followers) of the Jodo Shinshu sect, what we can do (or do) for our ancestors is to have a feeling of gratitude that the fact that we have a relationship with Amida as followers (followers) of the Jodo Shinshu sect in this way is due to relationships from our ancestors far away.

In other words, ancestral memorial services are acts for ancestors to become Buddhas (chanting sutras, etc.), but where these acts end up is “how do we position the death of the deceased in our own lives.” I think that's going to happen.
Therefore, memorial services for ancestors are not affected by a small amount of money.

These are my answers. There may be various ways of thinking depending on the denomination, but I would appreciate it if you could listen to it as a piece of advice.

Since memorial services are done with the heart

The most important thing is whether or not you have feelings. Secondly, it's important whether you know what it means.

When it comes to money and donations, they often say “give with feelings,” etc., but it doesn't mean “less is enough,” and the point is whether or not they really have a lot of heart.
Strongly speaking, it can also be said that it is a ratio to one's own wealth. The 10,000 yen donation for a person who has 100,000 yen of free money and an offering of 10 million yen for a person with 100 million yen are at the same ratio, so if you look at it simply, it can also be said that they gave with the same amount of feeling. It's not the market price.
Other than that, it is more beneficial to donate with money earned by oneself rather than something stolen or picked up. The merit is greater if the other party makes offerings to a person of high virtue. Conversely, there is a law for the time being that helping someone who is really in trouble also has great merit.

Speaking of what it means to make a memorial service for someone who has died, the person making the memorial service is a person of high virtue who makes offerings, etc., or a person who is in trouble, and the good act that made the memorial service is directed (turned) to the deceased person and received. An ancestral memorial service is a memorial service for an ancestor.

If your ancestors and deceased aren't in trouble, you don't have to do it, but since I don't know from here, conversion is beneficial not only to specific people, but also to sentient beings, so it's good for someone else, and it's my own merit when I do it, and there's no loss in doing it anyway, so let's do it to the extent we can.

For details, see my book “Why can merit be converted?” Please see Kokusho Publishing Association etc.

With memorial services and offerings that I was satisfied with

Puniko-sama
I'll give you my conclusion first. It's fine if it's not ○○10,000 yen. (I guessed that your question was about the offerings and money involved in the memorial service to ask a monk. I'll talk about this point.)

There are hundreds of thousands of monks in the world, and there are people who need ○○10,000 yen, so whatever you feel like. There are also monks who say zero yen is fine if they have financial circumstances.

On the other hand, some members of the general public are really indebted to this temple and would like to donate a lot.

I think the important thing is to gather information yourself, listen to the story, and ask Mr. Osho to hold a memorial service. There are quite a few wonderful Osho people in the world!

The memorial service is not about the amount of money.

Nice to meet you, today.

The memorial service is not determined by the amount of money.

A pure heart that puts hands together is important.

We were born and are now in this world with a father and mother. And I'm here because I had many ancestors, such as my ancestors, and so on, my ancestors...

The probability of being born into a human being is close to a miracle.

If there is a Buddhist altar, thank you as always! Please put your hands together. If you don't have a Buddhist altar, thank your ancestors! Please put your hands together.

It is your pure prayer that leads to memorial services for your ancestors.

I hope you have a wonderful and wonderful life.

Gassho