Can a bad relationship be turned into a good relationship?

I love my husband,
The kids are here too,
Don't call this a good relationship
What do you call a good relationship?
There are definitely mountains and valleys in life.
Disgusting things,
painful things,
The sad thing is
It's there.
What is going to overcome it is
Isn't it life?

Fortune telling makes divorce a point of view.

PostScript

Really serious events have continued for the past two years, haven't they?

Your parents' injuries or farewells, your husband's illness or major injury, traffic accidents for yourself and your family... I think it almost broke my heart.

Actually, I myself have never been at peace for the past two years.

I saw off my father, and then so did my mother.

The company was driven to the brink of bankruptcy, and even so, they somehow stopped because they didn't want to fire any of their employees.

They were also involved in disputes over inheritance, and they are still not completely over.

The car also caused two major self-damage accidents, and breakdowns were repeated.

“Why does this keep happening.”

I didn't think that once or twice.

Even so, I didn't think of it “because it's fate” or “because it's a bad relationship.”

I didn't entrust my life to fortune telling either.

Because my life is what I live.

Buddhism explains that unexpected suffering is inevitable in life.

However, that suffering does not determine the future.

What shapes the future is “how we live today.”

The harder it was for me,

“This is my life. It doesn't belong to anyone.”

I've been telling myself that.

That's why I want to tell you too.

Please don't give control of your life to fortune telling words.

No one can decide how much you care about your husband or how you want to protect your children.

There are periods in life where unexplained events continue.

However, you can choose for yourself how to accept it and how to walk forward.

Your life doesn't belong to a fortune teller or someone else's prophecy.

If you're alive, you'll have to watch farewells and deaths. It may continue. If they were alive, they would have had that many relationships. That person, and that person, the number of people I know is increasing.
Also, as the number of connections and close people (family members too) increases, feelings (greed) will naturally spring up.
That's a human being, isn't it? It means living, right? If you live in many relationships, then a lot of things can happen.

What is the standard of good and bad?
It depends on the person, and I wonder what is convenient for me is “good.”

It's the same as calling a rainy day good weather or bad weather. Rain even though I want to go out, rain blessings crops are different from person to person, right?
It's about how vague people's standards are.

Is fate, destiny, decided even before birth?
Well then, no matter what you do, there's no point; it's going to be a waste. Are you going to live by blaming everything that is about to happen?
Are you going to leave something to happen with your fortune telling, blame it on something, and live on?

If you can change it, you have to change the way you think.

Life is full of sorrows and joys.
Life just doesn't go the way I imagined it.
Also, there are worlds you can't see until you go through various experiences.
The way you live and look after that will be different depending on whether you clean it up with a bad relationship, or whether you look at your feet to properly rethink the future. Once you're addicted to fortune telling, people will walk away. (Because people like that often come to me for advice)

Why do you think the marriage wasn't a good match?
You're the one who decided that, aren't you?
If something happens around you, you have to overcome it with him, not by fortune telling.
I wonder what I'm going to face is the guy I'm going to live with.

In Buddhism, a heart that turns all evils in a good relationship or in the most wonderful direction is called selflessness or bodhicitta. Enlightenment and sanguish were achieved only because both Buddha and Dogen Zenji had a Bodhi heart.
Who decides whether things are good or bad in the first place?
Let's think about a scarf that is useful in winter.
It's warm to wear when it's cold.
However, when wearing a scarf becomes commonplace, your body becomes weak, and once you put it on, you can't let go of it. If children play playfully and carelessly, they will be strangled. However, if you donate, present, or offer something to your husband who doesn't like making a hand-knitted scarf, your husband's personality will change drastically and suddenly become kind to you, your heart will get along, and your feelings of dislike may blow away. 🎁
There is originally no right or wrong even with just one muffler.
The judge of right and wrong of things is “yourself,” and it is your intellectual religion and faith that leads you in a good direction. Buddhism is the kind of education that is most rational.
There is nothing inherently good or bad about things.
So are words. The same goes for evaluating others. If you believe in something that has no basis called fortune telling and it is translated into words, your heart will turn into a bad relationship. Things should be judged and evaluated based on roots, roots, and facts, so don't be forced to use words such as unknown fortune tellers without any scientific basis. The words of people who influence other people's lives are not something you should believe even if you are allowed to enjoy them. Both what is written on the internet and in books and fortune telling are “interpreted conveniently by the recipient in the first place.”
We should first get to know such human sagas. That's because it's the Buddha's teaching.
People also cry when they hear fictional stories in movies and TV shows. My emotions are shaken by linking to my own experiences. Humans are the ones whose brains are deceived even in made-up stories, so we should lead that easily disturbed heart to an immovable heart.
As the mirror says don't laugh first, in order to have a happy life and only good relationships without bad relationships, you must first change your brain behavior patterns.
No matter what you see, listen to, or read, if you tend to be hypersensitive and allergic, it will ruin your life. An allergic reaction of the mind is a reaction to protect oneself, but the allergic reaction will disappear by changing the destination opposite the heart afterwards. At this time, “OK, I'll do it!” By being aroused with that feeling and a sense of bodhi, the mind will always move well. Auspicious