Tips for not getting frustrated

When you're frustrated, you can say nembutsu.

I was driving a car, and when I was forcibly interrupted, Namu Amida Buddha, Namu Amida Buddha.
If there's anything you don't like, Namu Amida Buddha, Namu Amida Buddha.
When I remember something bad, I think Namu Amida Buddha, Namu Amida Buddha.
When my wife scolds me, secretly Namu Amida Buddha and Namu Amida Buddha.

If you praise Nembutsu, you'll be taken to the Pure Land of Paradise when you run out of lives.
Thanks to bad things, Nembutsu has been praised a lot.
It makes me feel like thank you for the bad things.
Give it a try.

Aeriss-sama

Every day will be difficult during childcare struggles.
But kids are honest, and they must learn a lot from them.

As a result of making a decision and taking action, some kind of result comes out along with it. I chose that. However, I get negative feelings that I don't like it, that I lost money, and that it's my fault. It's not the result you chose; it's the result of judging that result.

In other words, breast milk does not come out after delivery → there is no problem with that situation.
Nevertheless, my friend's words “it must be tough” → my partner blames me → it's my fault that I don't get breast milk
Seizing it with a way of thinking that has taken a leap forward creates a cause for frustration and trouble.

The fact ended with “it's going to be tough.” I don't even know if they're blaming you or not, but that's probably because they said it that way. That person is speaking ill of me because of that expression. They are probably adding unfounded selfish judgments, etc.
It means you're making yourself unhappy.

It is better not to imagine the feelings behind any person's words without permission, and accept them as they are. If you do that, you won't get frustrated. If you were frustrated, that added to the facts. You can think of it. In short, they were angry that it wasn't true.

I get annoyed sometimes too. But that also for a few seconds. After that, it's all in the past. I won't add good or bad to the annoyance, and I'll leave it as it is.
Time is flowing.
Even if you get angry at the hospital's response when you gave birth, that is a story from the past, and the fact is that there is a cute child right in front of you right now.
There's absolutely no need to get frustrated.
Little children accept the facts as they are, don't judge good or bad, and live that way. There's no such thing as dragging on the past and worrying about it. Very honest. We want to learn from the way children are.

You seem to be a very imaginative person. Expanding imagination is far from fact. I'm being made to dance to what I had imagined.
The illusion is that you are frustrated. I'll leave the facts as facts.

My name is Kameyama Junshi.
I think the trick to not getting frustrated is not to have excessive expectations. Even if you don't get frustrated with someone else's child's stats, it would be different if it were my own. That's because my child has something to look forward to. The same goes for being frustrated at work. It's frustrating when work doesn't go as expected. There are causes and effects for things, but various things cause relationships and produce results. So blaming yourself for everything is nonsense.
There are things that irritate everyone. Just because you're a monk doesn't mean you don't get frustrated. But I think I want to live my life with a sense of peace, even just a little bit.
These are my answers. I would be happy to help you even a little bit.

Once upon a time, a parishioner was barked at by a dog he had just started keeping, and for that reason alone, he was determined to be a bad person, and rumors spread. It's awful.

It was decided that they must have kicked the dog off, and they said that there is proof because there is a camera attached to the front door. So, I was able to check the recording and was able to confirm that nothing had happened, but they were flirtatious, saying that they came in the middle of the night and kicked it off, and it was spread as a rumor.
Most people trusted me, but some people began to look at me with blank eyes, and it took nearly 5 years to restore trust.

Even if it's not my fault, there are unreasonable things that happen one-sided. Even if you're just shopping at a store, there are times when a runaway car crashes into you and you lose your family, right? You don't have to blame yourself for everything.

I'll go back to the story. The person who spread the bad rumor about me was deeply remorseful a few years later. It seems like they were scolded by the vet or someone else. Yes, that's right. That's because it's the worst thing to do when keeping a pet.
I wasn't the only victim, but there were enemies all over the place, which interfered with my life. Then it became clear that they had spread lies, and people around them didn't trust me.

What I want to say is that everyone lives with shortcomings. People who are cold to others are just showing their own flaws. That flaw is not necessarily personality. It also includes external factors, such as the work environment and differences in knowledge between generations.
In the case of the parishioners, it was probably due to lack of study in preparation for owning a dog, and delusional love and personification for pets they had just started keeping. Often, if you think of it as a certain story, it's not frustrating, and it seems pitiful.

And everyone lives while suffering from their own shortcomings.
It's smart not to think about things that make you or your partner suffer. That's why I say it to myself as if it were a rhetoric. “Well, there are all kinds of people in the world.” That's all. I won't develop it any further. If you've caused trouble yourself, you'll have to look back, though.

Also, if I get frustrated, I play games. In the American military, it seems that the drug addiction of soldiers decreased dramatically as a result of having soldiers on the battlefield carry game consoles. Good games are just as effective against stress.

tonight. My name is Kamata Ryusuke from Yosenji, Matsusaka-shi.
Certainly, it's easy to get stressed out in this day and age. Even if it's a trivial matter, blood spills over your head, and you get angry because you don't have to get angry at your family etc. I myself got married 7 years ago and started living with my parents for 2 to 3 years, and I had a personality that I had always been frustrated, frustrated, and angry because of various things, and I was stressed out a lot about various things. If I think back now, I've probably run out of room for my own feelings.
However, it is possible to bring “peace and relaxation” to the mind by making effective use of just a small amount of time in everyday life from that frustration. Speaking of what it is, zazen meditating through zazen meditation and deep breathing to maintain a mind damaged by frustration or stress. In the Soto sect to which I belong, I do zazen for 40 minutes several times a day, based on morning and evening, but it seems impossible for Aeris to perform 40 minutes of zazen several times a day in his daily life like an ascetic monk. However, it is said that zazen meditation has the effect of relieving frustration and relieving the mind even in a short time of 5 or 10 minutes, and there is also Zen called standing, half-eyed, adjusts breathing, and indulges in meditation. Why don't you try attending a zazen session at a nearby temple, or try relieving your frustration little by little by incorporating zazen into your daily life even for a small amount of time in a day?
Kamata Ryusuke Gassho