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Seventh taboo

My father died seven times. My mother left behind has few pensions and doesn't have much savings.
I want to do my father's memorial service, but I can't afford it, so I'm worried.
Is it a punishment for not doing a proper memorial service?
Would my father be sad?

3 Zen Responses

There's no need to worry. Dad knows it.

The one who knows best is your father.
There is no way that everyone is requesting a memorial service even though they are aware of the difficult situation. If maneki-san were a parent, what would you do? Will I charge my child?
There are many ways to make a memorial service, but the most important one is the heart. Expressing gratitude, and the other is giving. When it comes to donations, it's not just about money and goods.
Smiling is also a blessing.
The same is true of serving people for free.
It's fine to do what you can do now, so why not hold a memorial service for your father in that sense? Actually, the fact that we answered like this is probably part of the administration of finance.

I've read your question.
I think it's already solved, but I'll write my own plan.
I think it would be a good idea to give a reasonable amount of money and run a memorial service after telling the chief priest of the questioner's family about the circumstances of the family asked in the question. Of course, you don't need to tell them everything, so I think you'll be able to fully understand it even if you blur it gently.
Just for your reference.

If you like, we'll hold a memorial service at home.

I don't need an offering.
Send an email to the temple
Please send it.
My father's at home
A memorial service for the 7th anniversary will be held.

Whether you're away,
No matter where you live,
heart problems.
Since it's about the soul and spirit,
It's fine.
In the first place, memorial services
this material world,
From Shaba Sekai
To the spiritual world and the world of the soul
That's because it's for hands.

I don't really feel like it, if it's OK,
In front of a Buddhist altar
Put your hands together
I'm going to commemorate my father's 7th anniversary.
After declaring it,
A memorial service will be held.
Be happy in the Pure Land of Paradise
Please live.
Your father, your ancestors,
Thank you for your blessings
It's there.

If you say
It will be enough for a memorial service.

If possible,
Dad's favorite food
Please make an offering.

I wish you all the best
I'm praying.