hasunoha - Zen Q&A

Nice to meet you, I would like to talk about my 90-year-old mother.

My mother, who has supported and encouraged me due to many difficulties until now, has become impossible to treat due to illness.

I've been worried about my husband and son who have mental problems (my son who was hurt by verbal violence wasn't even able to meet face to face). I can't believe that my mother was my emotional support, but she would soon be gone, and it's so painful. At the end, I'm thinking of taking her to my mother's rental apartment and taking care of her to the fullest.

Every day, I go to see him at the hospital. I gradually lost my strength, and I can only endure crying when I see my mother finally talking, “It's painful, I want to get better quickly...” and say “I'll get better soon.” Every day my heart is crushed by my own helplessness.
I can't stop regretting it if I lost my father, lost my mother, and did it even more at night. I'm taking care not to make my mentally unstable son worry, but it's painful.

My mother herself is worried about us, saying, “I want to live longer, and I still can't die right now.” I myself intend to work very hard for my parents. But it makes me feel sorry for being an unfortunate girl.

Home-visit medical treatment will begin next week, so I want to do my best, but I'm worried about whether I (my heart) will be able to endure it. How should we deal with it from now on?

And I'm very worried about what will happen to me when that day comes.
How should we live in the future

We look forward to working with you.

PS: Thanks for your message. Whether you choose the Nichiren sect or the Zen sect, your mother and Chie-sama will decide. Once you have time, I think it would be a good idea to go to one of the nearby temples and discuss the future.
Also, please contact us if you have any questions. m (__) m

Thank you Chie for your consultation.

Seems like a difficult situation. I would like to express my sympathy to your mother.
It's like praying that even a little bit of your strength will come through.
Your mother will appreciate your dedicated attitude.
Please hope that devotion will reach you until that time comes.

And if that time comes, you should rely even more on your faith.
With your faith, I hope that your mother will be at peace and security even after that time.
That wish has come true, and even after that time, your mother will watch over you, even though her appearance changes. I believe it even more.

I don't know Chie's denomination, but please imagine the Buddha of the sect you believe in and hope for it every day. The power of faith will eventually heal you too. It will heal with your mother.

One bow

I'm now taking care of the mother I've been relying on

1 Zen Response

Rely on faith