The result of continuing to listen to my friend's concerns...

If you're quoting words from sutras, it means you don't understand other people's feelings.
What to do with others is itself an impudent story.
It's the same no matter what kind of relationship you have.
I don't think you need to worry about it.

There is a method called listening that encourages spontaneous recovery by continuing to listen to the other person's concerns.

That person also doesn't want advice; they probably just want to listen to complaints. I think the person who has been in a relationship for a year and a half but hasn't changed her mental state was originally that kind of person, right?

From now on, I think it's a good idea to keep a constant distance and not talk about yourself at all. If dating is still burdensome, why don't you just walk away gradually?

　Pppp. Were you trying to change your friend's personality or were you trying to answer a consultation? It's written that you can't listen to that friend's consultations or complaints yourself, and that you don't know how to treat them, but if you want to change someone else's personality or feelings or solve their problems, you won't be able to solve it by simply listening only unilaterally to your friend's story unless you face it with your whole body and soul. You have to meet a friend's husband, listen to the opinions of both parties, and find a solution you are satisfied with. In a trial, etc., it takes 1 year or more for a judgment to be issued, which is fine. The same goes for mediation. Even if a professional does it, it takes 1 year, and it is something that cannot be solved with ordinary knowledge and experience to resolve in a direction where amateurs can do it. So are eagles. I study every day while answering everyone's questions at hasunoha. What kind of answers would be good for this person? If someone like this actually comes to the temple, how should we treat them? It's always a day of reflection.
There are things that can be solved in a few days from the time the problem is born until it is solved, and there are also things that cannot be solved until a long period of time is taken. If you really want to solve your friend's problems, you should face your friend no matter how many years it takes. If you're a true friend, you should listen to them without abandoning them. If it's a pretend friend, don't contact them at all.
Also, as our marital life gets longer, we can see each other's shortcomings and dislikes, and I want to talk to friends who can forgive my heart. After that, I don't think you should cheat for any reason... so I don't think your friend is bad.
Hot springs cannot come out unless you keep digging deep into the soil.
　
　

I don't think you have to think too hard about it.
I think it would be fine if I simply happened to touch my crackling girlfriend due to lack of love, stepped on a landmine, and hit the anger switch.
The bottom line is “use it as an opportunity to handle anger.”
Suddenly, kappa plates are sensitive.
If it dries, it will die.
If you don't apply the hypersensitivity simulator, you are hypersensitive.
She wants SKII of Love, Domohorn Wrinkle like moisture of mercy.
Everyone has pigs, kappa, and monkeys living in people's hearts.
Yes, they are Inohakkai, Sa Gojo, and Son Goku.
That's right, another name is greedy, insane (tonjinchi).
It's saw, literally translated as 1 devour, 2 crap, 3 gratefully.
So, Genjo Sanzo is a monk. Actually, this is our job in a deep sense.
I'm in the process of aiming for enlightenment (enlightenment) by enhancing my humanity.
The Buddhist story that symbolizes this is Dragon Ball.
It's USO... it's Journey to the West.
advising
Anger cannot be an attitude of rejection.
You can calm it down by touching it on Buddha's palm.
Maybe you're also asking, “Why are you mad there?” They may have been outraged (angry), saying, “I've been listening to them a lot until now, so don't get angry about that.”
Both you and I are angry. That's why you should touch it.
I will continue to work hard not to get angry in the future using your questions as an opportunity, so please use her as an opportunity for you to calm your anger.
If everyone's heart is filled with water of love, our Kappa, Swimming In My Heartful Mind ♡ plate will also be moisturized and happy. This is the only time I feel at ease.
It's a dangerous state when the water of love runs out. “That's cool,” “I don't like people, I hate it,” “ah, listen to that?” It becomes.
Don't laugh at her, but let's laugh a lot at the human saga here and have no side.
And please awaken to a greater love for humanity, a sense of Bodhi.
“Oh, I also think I might get angry when I don't have enough love.”
Let's moisturize her once again by buying her kappa plate (which is bad, though) by buying her lunch with love and service unique to girls.

ppp-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. I would like to state a few words as a humble opinion on the side being consulted.

In consultations about human relationships, such as consultations about marital affairs, romance consultations, friendship consultations, etc., to some extent, it is possible to state exemplary answers based on one's own rules of thumb or general rules of thumb, solution theory, etc., but if the amount of information to make a decision is small, it will inevitably settle down to bland and uneventful content, and there are cases where it is not a fundamental solution.

Nevertheless, there are cases where we want someone's opinion, or we want the opinions of experts or, for example, we monks, and I think it is possible to use them as a reference by presenting the answers.

Also, by consulting, there are cases where even though they already have their own answers, it is difficult to make a decision, so they expect support. In this case, there are cases where that person has already created direction in the question “I want you to answer like this,” and by capturing it, you will be able to answer for a decision.

Furthermore, by consulting with someone, you can view yourself more objectively through conveying the content, leading to calmly analyzing the situation, and there are also cases where you can find answers and find solutions yourself by consulting.

However, in any case, unless you are able to become one heart and soul with that person, as the person listening to the consultation, you cannot know that person's upbringing, personality, environment, emotions, thoughts, background, etc. in detail, so there is no way that you can truly answer for that person.

In other words, any problem can only be solved by oneself in order to truly solve it.

Originally, there are no problems with that in this world either. The problem is caused by our own foolish mind and ignorance (fundamental ignorance), so in Buddhism in particular, we will answer in conclusion that it is necessary to work firmly to resolve the cause individually.

Therefore, in the end, I can only say that we should walk along Buddhism together in order to learn and practice Buddhism...

If you don't seem to be able to solve the problem at all just by listening, please recommend studying Buddhism to that friend.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho