hasunoha - Zen Q&A

This is my first time consulting with you.

It's about work, but my
I'm tired of feelings of competition, dislike of losing, jealousy, and impatience.

I live a work-centered lifestyle.
I can only find my value in how many jobs I do and how successful I am at work.

Once evaluated, I feel at ease.
But it's temporary, and soon I feel impatient that I have to do well again...
I feel like I don't have any value when I'm not being evaluated for my work.

When a colleague's job is excellent, those feelings above become even stronger.

There are no quotas, and no one is bad at comparing me to others
I'm in a state where I'm strangling myself.

I don't have time to spare, and I harshly evaluate other people's work.
That is further driving me down.
I'm going to be strict with people, so I think I have to do better.

I'm in my 30s, and in terms of age, I'm teaching my juniors about work
I'm also required to stand on top and put things together
From things like the above, I don't think I can raise people or evaluate them correctly,
I've avoided it.

There is also a good image when you don't like losing
My feelings are stronger of jealousy of others being evaluated.
I feel that my mind is so dirty, and I'm sick of it.

People who recognize others as good rivals,
I want to be someone who enjoys others' success.

When I think this state of affairs will continue for a long time to come
I'm about to get tired...

I think it's difficult to control emotions
I would be happy if you could give me some advice.

Thank you for your support.

I read it.
Wouldn't it be okay to leave my own evaluations for now? I think it's time to take a break in terms of age and experience.
Why don't you take a good rest and refresh your mind and body.
Don't evaluate who you are right now.
And for those who are doing their best, they say, “Oh, they're doing their best...” Let's keep a step away with that feeling. After a while, you may be able to see the good and bad sides.
Then let's rearrange the partitions after a while.
A visit to a grave would be a good way to refresh yourself, and I think it would be a good idea to calm down and pray at a nearby shrine or temple.
I think they are refraining from going out due to the virus, but since this is an opportune moment, I think it's okay to relax and pray alone once you've calmed down.
There will always come a time when the epidemic calms down. History has proven it.
It's all right, so please calm down and reset it.
I support you from the bottom of my heart.

Thank you very much. It's a time like this, so don't be in a hurry, calm down, and let's make a decision.

I want to ease my competitive spirit

1 Zen Response

Let's stop evaluating once