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I can't stop working

I'm a 40 year old woman. I have one child in preschool.

I work for a short time after giving birth (annual income of 4 million), but my chronic glaucoma has worsened since 2 years ago, and my blurred and invisible parts have increased.
The doctor said that using a computer (I kept using it for about 6 hours) and that working did not lead to worsening glaucoma, but my eye fatigue was severe, partly because of my age, and I always had headaches, dizziness, back pain, etc. probably because of uncomfortable middle work, and finally, symptoms of depression also appeared, and I took a month off of work.

While I was resting, I tried to eat and exercise, and lived a leisurely lifestyle, so I felt completely better and my physical condition has improved just like that.

So I think I'll go back to work again, but when I think that if I go back, I may have the same suffering again, I don't have the courage.

The family says they should stop working because they are worried about their health. I've already worked hard enough, and I think I have savings for this year, but I'm worried about my money and can't stop.

My husband earns enough income (annual income of 10 million yen), and I'm 43 years old, and I think if my husband gets sick or his savings are reduced due to hyperinflation, and it's a waste to think that once I stop, I can only find a fraction of my current job. In particular, I have children who don't have specialized skills and aren't in perfect physical condition...

I also think it was stressful that I couldn't stop for 2 years even though the ophthalmologist said it wasn't relevant, but I think it would be better for my health (I really think so), but it's still... When my eyes are in good condition, I think I can continue, and when I'm bad, I think it's absolutely impossible, and my heart shakes.

Please give me some advice.

5 Zen Responses

I'll check my footsteps.

I have had a lot of painful experiences, and I know it was difficult.

Blurred vision can lead to confronting fear and anxiety.
Little students think it's best to have self-love, but even so
I believe that the desire to get the job done is also precious.

It's just,
What is so much anxiety about the future is about you
It can also hurt you.

Why don't you check for yourself what I should do the most right now, here
I wonder how it would be. If it's already on a solemn tour,
Why don't you slowly talk to your husband or other family members
How about it?
First, check your footsteps, “watch your feet” in the Zen language to which Koi belongs
Please be careful with your feet. I hope you can think of the word.

Humans are living things that are more afraid of getting ahead than any other animal.
I don't think any other creature is more afraid of the future.
Therefore, humans have developed the cerebrum, and the ability to avoid danger is the greatest
It is also said that they have become excellent creatures.

Our eyes also become invisible as we age, even if we think it's scary if we take it on our own now
When that time comes, “I can see unnecessary things, that's fine.”
There are also people who say that.

The buds of anxiety are born from today's soil, so today's soil
I think the hard work of cultivating will give you a little peace of mind.

Please don't overdo it and proceed step by step while checking.

A crackle in the body and a crackle in the heart.

Hello, my name is ♡ Body and Mind Oriko Sama ♡ Korikata Mariko.
By changing what is in direct contact with your body, you can be relaxed.
So much so that I can write my lower back as a snag on my body. It is important to devise ways not to cool your lower back or back.
Conclusion: 1 chair, 2 desks, environment 3 contacts 4 outside air 5 let's do our best to change the mood ♡
① Chairs can be adjusted in height so they don't rattle, and force can be distributed to the legs and back, so there is no strain on the lower back even when sitting for a long time.
When the chair wobbles, strength is applied to the lower back unknowingly in search of stability.
I called the company chair “I have back pain” and made it my own. You can also change the cushions.
② When using a PC, place an inconspicuously colored bath towel or thin cushion-like cushion on the desk so as not to strain your elbows. This is because when an elbow or arm hurts, strength is unknowingly applied to the shoulder in an attempt to protect the elbow. When your desk is cold, your body cools down too. When it gets cold, the body contracts, tension, blood flow deteriorates, and strength is applied, and the body becomes a crackling child.
Even popular soft cushions, which are said to have high cushioning properties, can eventually become stiff once the body is filled up. Zazen doesn't last when it comes to strength.
③ Attach a film to reduce blue light on the PC screen, set the screen to dark, plus buy glasses that reduce blue light at an optician shop. If you're wearing contacts, switch to glasses starting today. I also had contact before, but of course my eyesight also deteriorates when things stick to my eyeballs all the time.
If you can do it cheaply, it won't cost 10,000 yen in total for cushions, towels, film, and glasses. It's better than being hospitalized due to impaired physical function ♡
④ Workplace arrangement. Isn't it placed in a place where it is easy to come into contact with the outside air and the outside air mixed with germs, which is a position where the air conditioner is still hitting?
⑤ Release strength during pressure.
Martial arts, sports, and performance experts also value losing strength.
When you put effort into it, focus your feelings so that you can let go of your strength.
Losing strength can also be said in the heart. If the strength of the mind is lost, the strength of the body will not enter.
At the same time, it is also very important in terms of being soft, relaxed, and not thinking about uneasy things even before they happen, so you can be pampered by your husband at the same time.
Q What is the job for? What is the money for? What, health for whom?

I have a question for you.

 Mr. Tabashi, I have a few questions from the eagle,
① What do you work for? If you just want income, you should keep doing this job. If it's not fun, I think it's okay to quit. I understand the family's opposition, but I think it would be better to show a lively mother for the education of her children. I stopped asking the next question. Yes, people who enjoy their lives (feel a sense of purpose in life) will definitely have a positive impact on their children. Just making it difficult isn't good. “My mother worked so hard at the cost of her own life...” and. Which one do you think would be good for your child? I think it would be better for eagles to honestly show how adults are alive and well. Are there any choices you don't have a hard time with?

So that you don't have to use it uselessly

Not being able to stop working because you're worried about money is probably a problem that everyone has.
With an annual income of 10 million yen at age 43, he's a great husband. Tabashi-sama seems to be worried that if her husband becomes ill..., but from her husband's point of view, she may be worried, “If my wife's eyesight gets worse or depression progresses...”

I would like you to consult with your husband and keep an eye on your health so that you don't waste money, even for the sake of a cute preschool child.

Don't overdo it

Mr. Tabashi-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

Don't overdo anything. I think it would be good to keep your body and mind in good balance and stay healthy.

Recently, I've been answering the following questions about this.

Question “For mental health”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/423

“... For health, it is also necessary to keep the balance of each effect (the five elements of color, reception, thought, action, and wisdom) as little as possible. ・・”

In terms of Buddhism, good balance means “middle path.”

Question “Does truancy mean going to school”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/416

“... In difficult Buddhist terms, it means “middle way,” but if you can't overdo it anyway, don't overdo it. Of course... for example, if you strangle the strings of a koto too hard, the strings will eventually break and you won't be able to make a sound. However, if the strangling is too weak, the strings will loosen and no sound will come out. It's neither strong, nor weak, and the strings of the koto make just the right sound when tightened to medium. In this way, I hope you can work at your own pace without overdoing it while making firm estimates. ・・”

Also, regarding how to think about income from a Buddhist perspective, I have dealt with slightly related matters in the following question.

Question “I don't know how to deal with friends who earn more than me”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/425

“... money issues are the most common object of obsession and worry, so it is necessary to be especially careful. Rather, if there is one, it is recommended to accumulate good works by using it for good deeds through devotion. ・・”

There are only quotes, but I would be happy if you could use them as a reference.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho