My father is 64 and my mother is 68.
Recently, both of them have gotten worse in their legs and lower back, and their physical strength has visibly declined...
Parents aren't always young, are they?
However, every time I realize that my parents are getting old, I am struck by an unspeakable sense of anxiety.
What should I do to have this kind of feeling?
There's only one way to keep yourself from getting old. In other words, there is no choice but to die
There's only one way to avoid dying. There are only things you haven't been born with.
However, once you have been born, you must die. No one knows when it will be. However, what is clear is that he is alive now. More than that, it's just a present where I'm being kept alive.
Therefore, they age as proof that they have been kept alive, that is, they only get old when they have been kept alive. Nevertheless, there's nothing you can do about it even if you say you don't want to get old or die?
I understand the feeling of feeling uneasy about the appearance of parents who are getting older. However, relationships with parents who are getting older are opening up there. And if that relationship continues, nursing care may be needed someday. At that time, another relationship is born there to return the favor of raising oneself there.
You and your parents are alive and now that you are getting old. I would like you to take good care of that current relationship.
Gassho
Hello, my name is Akazawa from Ichimyoji.
I think this is an age where many people, like Aya, have a sense of anxiety.
My mother has cared for me since I was born, worked hard to raise me from early morning until late at night, and loved me regardless of profit or loss. Isn't Aya the same?
That's why there was a part where I absolutely thought about my mother.
My parents are always energetic, take care of me, and are strong people who take care of me. I don't show my weak points...
But parents are human too. Humans, just like us. There will come a time when we learn about our parents' weakness and old age.
At that time, Aya must take it properly and return the favor up until now. Now it's your turn.
But that doesn't mean you don't have to hold or worry about it alone. I want to talk to my siblings and work together to do filial piety.
It's easy to take your eyes off reality, but that's not a good life.
With just your actions, many things will surely start moving.
Those who age well are not ❝ responsible ❞ even though they grow old.
Shouldn't we take it as a mature one?
The word old age is also used in an honorable sense.
It doesn't mean master, old Buddha, family, long-established store, old man... apart from that, Ji-sama or Ba-sama.
The trick to overcoming old age is to keep your mind from getting old even when your body is weakening.
People who are physically sick but not mentally ill are ❝ healthy ❞.
It's unhealthy if your body is sick and your mind is sick.
Even if your body is healthy, if your mind is sick or old, that's just not healthy.
The death rate for humans is 100% since birth.
It's about both your parents and you enjoying old age well.
Instead of suffering from being sunk by birth, illness, and death, they float in the pool of life, old age, illness, and enjoy swimming, and paddling while having fun on a boat.
That is the Buddhist way of life.
Aasama.
I'm Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an.
My father passed away over 10 years ago, and although my mother is alive and well, she has become a grandmother quite a bit. I'm doing well for my age, but various changes due to aging have also come out. I feel so lonely when I think that I won't be able to see my energetic and good-natured mother when I was a child anymore.
I have 2 older brothers, and they talk from time to time, but the way they take it is in three ways.
But since I became a monk, I had many relationships with elderly people, and I also learned counseling, so I feel like I treated my mother with a different stance from my older brothers.
“Accepting forgetting and not blaming it for failure”
“Listen even when they talk about the same thing”
What I keep in mind when dealing with my mother is mainly the above 2 points.
This alone makes my mother feel at ease when dealing with me.
If you think about it, when I was young, my mother forgave me (even if I got angry once) even if I forgot or made a mistake.
Even when my little self asked the same thing over and over again, they answered it over and over again.
I can't give it back enough, but I'd like to return the favor even a little bit.
Here's one poem by Misuzu Kaneko.
“Grandma's Story”
Grandma doesn't talk too much,
I love that story, though.
When you say “I've already heard it,”
She looked pretty lonely.
In Grandma's Eyes, Kusayama's
Nobara no Hana was shown.
That story is nostalgic,
If you could talk to me,
Five degrees, ten degrees, no matter what,
It's like listening like I'm being fooled.