hasunoha

I had my ribs broken off. divorce? Am I slow?

Thank you so much for your help.
I would like to ask for your help this time as well.
We've been married for less than 2 years.
When we first started dating, he was kind. However, since I became pregnant, we have had constant fights. Get out of the house in the midst of a storm against my heavy weight! They go on a rant, and even when they go on a trip somewhere, they just end up fighting and ending uncomfortably.
When I'm in a good mood, I'm cooperative with childcare and housework. Therefore, as much as possible, I came out bad and apologized, walked up to them, and appeased them so as not to get angry. However, he has a pretty short temper and complains a lot. When I can't stand it either, I just say it back violently.
Also, we got into a fight yesterday over a trivial matter, and I was already having a hard time, so I ignored it.
Then, when I opened the door this morning, he was on the other side and hit the door. He thought I had hit it on purpose, so he waved his fist and hit him. He was hit multiple times in the face and stomach. My ribs are also cracked. However, I did it again. They resisted by hitting and kicking. I also contacted the police and it almost became important, but they said they needed time to calm down, so I'm leaving today and living for a while. My real mother, let's put up with it. Since my child is only one year old, they are persuading me that it is really difficult to raise them as a single mother. I agree with you. However, I can't forgive dabbling in women. I know it's both a fight and a loss when they fight back, but the face of the opponent who suddenly hit me is burning into my mind. I've never been hit by a man until now, so I'm shocked.
I'm at a loss as to whether to put up with the child first, put up with it, and live my life as before, or whether I'm going to raise my child alone. It's been a long post, but someone please respond. You really need an objective opinion.
Thank you for your kind attention.

2 Zen Responses

alimony and child support

How about getting divorced after negotiating child support so that you don't have trouble raising children even if you get divorced?
Let's get alimony if possible.
Showing marital violence to children falls under psychological abuse against children, that is, child abuse.
At this rate, I think there is a possibility that it will hurt children's hearts.

I think it's important to reflect on each other.

I've read your question.
Violence is absolutely no good.
let alone rib fractures,
Even if it's a married couple,
It's OK to be arrested for injury,
I think it's an incident.
First, get a medical certificate at the hospital
It's about being taken.
What kind of things did I do
I want you to be aware
I think so.
On the other hand,
As you can guess from the text,
You too have emotions
I wonder if it's hard to hold back?
I can imagine that.
It's also called
Unilaterally, the husband
If they were being violent,
Police officers are their husbands
Current offender arrested on injury charges
I think I did.
The reason they didn't make an arrest
Both sides are furious,
There are acts of violence,
I wonder if it was judged that the fight was a win-win loss,
Isn't there one?
My husband is also injured
Haven't you done it?
Honestly, give me a lot
There are emotional issues on both sides
I felt like it was there.

Master,
Dear you,
Be firm and calm with each other
Become,
First of all, never use violence,
Pledging,
When you have a complaint or complaint,
Make a contact note,
not verbally,
Communicate by writing in a notebook in sentences.
The person it was conveyed to
We will respond within 3 days.
If you don't answer,
As a penalty,
Pay for meals out of pocket money,
or,
If you talk clearly
What do you think?

To a fool
Just like both of you have problems,
I can't believe it.

No matter what step you take next,
Get emotional right away,
The habit of using violence
I think it should be fixed.

I feel sorry for your child.

I wish you all the best.