Reasking about making offerings to photos from when you were alive

“It means putting a table next to a photo from when I was alive, but if my parents' house has a table, am I allowed to just leave the picture and pray?” But that's fine. There are no issues.

If possible, I think it would be even better if you could ask the family temple at your parents' house or a temple of the same sect near you to create a seat plate for your late father and brother to make a memorial service.
Even if you don't have a Buddhist altar, you can do a memorial service with just a table...

How about it?

Sakura Sakura-sama
My name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an, thank you for your support.

I'm asking again after adding more details to my previous question.
There may be differences in ways of thinking depending on local customs, religion, and denomination, but I don't think it's that much of a problem to display photographs of people who have died during their lifetime and pray there (by the way, I live in Yokohama and am a Jodo Shinshu monk).
Please ask someone you know about your mother's reasons and reasons why it's no good. I don't think there will probably be a clear answer, such as “I heard that” or “I think so.”

Did you watch the 2011 morning TV series “Carnation”?
Fashion designer Ayako Koshino, the mother of the three Koshino sisters, was modeled by Machiko Ono when she was young and Mari Natsuki in her later years.

The main character lived a long life of 92 years. There is an impressive scene where photographs of close people who have passed away are arranged on the sideboard of the living room in their later years, making offerings, and talking.
I watched that scene and had a warm feeling, saying, “Isn't it a Buddhist altar... but this is also an ant?”

The “correct answer” as a monk is “buy a Buddhist altar, make a name plate or past book, make an offering, and pray. Photos are not always necessary. It may be that “the object of worship is not the deceased, but the true image.”

However, they place photos and relics of the deceased on the sideboard or table, make offerings, and pray. Isn't that good? I don't think it is the role of a monk to impose a “correct answer.”

I'm hoping that a desire for Buddhism will sprout in Sakura Sakura as a result of her death.

I'm a Jodo Buddhist monk.
I'm saying that the principal image sign is at my parents' house and I'm putting my hands on the photo, but that's fine.
However, don't forget to chant “namuamidabu, namuamidabu” and nembutsu.
Then, please hang out with them, “Please help your father and older brother for the nenbutsu I chanted.”
In the Jodo sect, chanting Nembutsu is more important than anything else.
If you put your hands together and chant “namu amidabu, namu amidabu” anywhere, even if you don't have a card, even if you don't have a picture, Amida will never abandon you and save her.

The idea that Buddhist altars are only in the original house is fading away.
Nowadays, there are many people who own individual Buddhist altars.
This is because the Buddhist altar is both a temple inside the house and a symbol of religious spirit.
You've probably been indebted to a lot during your lifetime, so why not ask for something proper? This is because parent-child kinship relationships continue even after death.
Even if you offer a memorial service with dishonesty or in a state where your heart is cloudy, clouds will remain somewhere.
This isn't about you, so just FYI.
When I went to visit graves the other day, the client's relatives instructed the client to “not do that kind of thing,” from the manners of visiting graves to everything.
I'm sure the person who was pointed out was giving advice in the sense that it was better to be precise because they had plenty of experience with failure.
It is also true that in the era, everything has been simplified and simplified, and the style of not being thoughtful, too sharp, and too dry is rampant.

There are more and more fashionable and stylish Buddhist altars coming out.
However, if that goes too far, I think the essence is that individualism is rampant.
Put yourself at the center and keep it compact so that it's easy to do.
To be honest, there are times when I feel something is different.
It's not forced, but I think the orthodox style fits best for the time being.
This is because the fact that you are uneasy this time means you must have some doubts about the way you are doing it, so I think that is the best answer.
Things that leave behind some kind of embarrassment also have an impact on your daily mentality, so after all, I think it's better to stay in a proper way without feeling someone pointing your back finger at you. It's hard to say, but I'm sorry.

This is Todo who answered your previous question.

It was too late to check the “Question Again” article.

Sorry for the late response.

Since the previous answer, various circumstances have come into view, and answers from other monks have also come up.

The previous answer was shown in the form of, for example, the “correct answer” mentioned by Mr. Urakami.

I think about Mr. Urakami's answer in almost the same way, but if I had to add one thing...

It was Amida who created the Pure Land for those who have passed away.

He passed away due to Amida.

There doesn't seem to be a principal image in your house, so it doesn't matter if it's a small picture statue or a Buddha statue next to the portrait, so I'd like you to put your hands on Amida when praying for the portrait.

I would like to add that kind of hope.

　is that so? Is it the Jodo sect? I think it's just my parents' denomination, but I'll answer on the assumption that you don't feel like changing your beliefs.
The conclusion is as Mr. Urakami said. In order to make a badge, you have to be careful. But if you want to make a table, say it to your sister-in-law at your parents' house and have them create a table through the family temple. Please perform a memorial service for entering France (devotion). If you do this, I don't think useless trouble will occur. My personal opinion is that I don't need to make cards (please be prepared that it will cost more money than you can imagine).
I think it is precious for an eagle to pray in front of a photograph like this, but there may be people who look abnormal when viewed from the sidelines. Maybe that's why someone I know said it too. In the future, as the months and days go by, people may be absent from the memorial service etc. because it is not convenient. It seems like they do a lot of things when relatives gather at their parents' house during Obon, Ohigan, New Year's, etc... Don't forget the feeling that you're always putting your hands together in front of a photo, and be sure to act with plenty of time.
That was extra indebted to you.

Sakura Sakura-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

As for the form of the memorial service, I know that it is also important for each individual to express their thoughts on the memorial service, and I think it should be respected.

However, when it comes to haphazard and disorder where everything is possible, I know there may be a problem with that.

After all, I think it would be necessary to have a certain amount of consideration for precious things and treat them in a way that is not disrespectful.

This is called “majesty (majesty)” in Buddhism, and the content is taken for granted, and form is emphasized to some extent because form is treated as a sign of consideration for that precious thing.

Of course, it must not be solemn with no obsolete content, and it's not that everything has to be gorgeous, but I want to make adjustments so that precious things can be treated as precious as possible according to one's height.

Now, on to the main subject, “... I put pictures of the two of them on a shelf, decorate with flowers every day, and offer tea and water. Occasionally, sweets etc. are also offered. “...” I can think of the two of them from the photo, and they decorate with flowers every day, offer tea and water, and remember the bodhi of the two people at the gathering, and I think it would be really good as a form of memorial service showing Sakura Sakura's thoughts.

Furthermore, if we were to make it even more majestic, of course, it would be a Buddhist altar or seat plate, but when it comes to adjusting the Buddhist altar and seat plate, I still know that formal memorial services, such as the opening ceremony and devotion ceremony, will also be necessary, so I hope you can think about that as well. In that case, please contact the Bodaiji Temple.

Also, as already answered by other teachers, I would also recommend that you teach the purpose and perform memorial services in accordance with the teachings and manners. If you are in the Jodo sect, I think the following site would be useful for details.

Jodo sect official website
http://jodo.or.jp/

What is the Jodo sect
http://jodo.or.jp/naruhodo/jodo_index.html

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho