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I can no longer trust monks

It took a lot of courage to come here with a title like this, but I would like to ask the question because I really want to hear the monk's opinion.

When my father was cremated 6 years ago, the chief priest of the temple who is now a parishioner recited sutras and then said, “You don't have any money, do you? “I'll change 300,000 yen to 200,000 yen, so don't worry,” she said in a very nice voice that goes through without being afraid of people around you.

Certainly my family is poor, but they paid the alms properly from their difficult lives, and I didn't ask them to make this funeral cheaper either. They probably took care of it, but when the monk supporting the Buddha talked about money at the crematorium, it didn't block his open mouth.

I felt uncomfortable seeing them ride to the crematorium in a high-class foreign car, but aren't monks like this so rare these days?

Even after the funeral at the temple, I couldn't help but constantly talk about money from beginning to end, about how much was it for the ossuary and about this much at the stone store. There is nothing but distrust of the chief priest, who is grieving over the loss of his father, who only says nothing but business words.

It is said that the previous chief priest was a splendid person who wore a scarlet robe, and it seems that he became a parishioner from his grandfather's generation.
The current chief priest plays golf, and many luxury foreign cars are lined up in the parking lot. What's more, they are also putting effort into constructing meaningless bell towers, etc.
And speaking of essential temple facilities, what is a barrier-free toilet for parishioners while remaining Japanese-style? It's an old temple like
I feel sorry for the old people then.
What exactly are donations and donations being used for?

I can't even hear the Buddha's story, which I'm so thankful for.
Today, when there is a lot of noise about parishioners leaving their families, is it because these stinky boys are running to make money that is not in line with the times, or are there boys who start making money because the number of parishioners decreases like Columbus eggs in the first place
I don't know which one comes first, but even if I want to finish the tomb, I'm too afraid of how much will be blown up this time, so I can't even discuss it.

A sermon like that borrowed the name of the Buddha
I'm scared it looks like it will happen.
Temples used to be places to look down on people like that... and I can't sleep at night because of sadness, anger, and anxiety about the future.

Originally, I have cherished the ancient customs of visiting graves, Obon, and the equinox. I saw a golden temple, and it seems like I won't feel like continuing in the future. Thank you so much for your guidance.

4 Zen Responses

Things to protect

“Cherish the ancient customs of visiting graves, Obon, and the equinox”
What you should prioritize is your praying habit and how you feel. Nowadays, when sloppy ways of praying are rampant due to sideways guts, I think people like you are a national treasure. Please make decisions and actions to protect the Buddha that dwells in your heart.

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I don't think I have the qualities of a monk

I read it.
I think it's reasonable for you to feel that way.
And we will make a memorial service for your father and your ancestors with all your heart. Namu Amida Buddha Namu Amidabutsu

Such people are nothing but moneymakers who dress like monks. As a monk, I've already forgotten my qualifications and duties as a Buddhist. I'm really ashamed and sorry that something like that exists.

After all, it is true that even among monks there are such foolish people. I often hear it too. It has existed in every era. There are things that are engulfed in power and greed and act in such a way as to take money or property from people. There are boys who are covered in greed, as the saying goes, “If you hate a boy, you hate even an idiot.”

I think your house has had a relationship with that temple for a long time, but I think it would be better to review the temple's attitude and the attitude, words, and actions of the chief priest once again.
Also, I think it's okay to talk to all the parishioners, and I think it's okay for all the parishioners to be careful. Also, if you don't listen to your opinions or everyone's opinions, don't reflect, and don't have any prospects for improvement, I think it's okay to change the family temple.

There are many monks in the world who save, guide, and snuggle up to those who suffer, those who are in trouble, and teach the Buddha's teachings firmly.

So I prayed at various temples, met the chief priest, talked to them, and if you find a temple you would like to take care of, I think it's okay to change the family temple.
In that case, it's about calmly telling the temple how you and everyone else feel.
If they still seem to be talking about money, ask an expert. If a third party says it, that temple will probably have no choice but to respond calmly.

I sincerely pray to the Buddha and your ancestors that you and everyone will be able to believe in the family temple and make memorial services for your ancestors with peace of mind. It's fine. You'll definitely be able to hold a memorial service with peace of mind.

Please feel free to contact us if you have any further questions.
It's probably not a monk or a temple anymore. You should move away from that bad relationship as soon as possible. That's because Buddhism isn't there.

Maybe it's a misunderstanding

Good evening. Sorry for talking about money all the time.

Certainly, if you ask me, Ishiya-san sometimes talks about how long it takes and how long it takes to get a license plate. At times like that, I sometimes think that I'm just talking about money. But if you think about it, the price for the stone shop and the Japanese table is from that dealer, so it has nothing to do with the temple, right? I'm talking with the feeling that payments after the funeral can be anticipated.

Also, I thought “many luxury foreign cars in the parking lot” was an urban legend. As far as I know, I don't know. If you check the origin of this urban legend, facts such as that luxury foreign car was a car for people visiting graves, or that it was a monthly parking lot on land adjacent to the temple but unrelated people came up.
The bell tower is also an important religious facility with meaning.
I don't play golf, but I don't think it's a sport that expensive right now. It was during the bubble era that golf memberships were expensive.

If you look at it with colored glasses such as “I don't like it” or “they only talk about money,” it seems that even if the monk is riding a mini car, it may look like a luxury foreign car (there have been rumors that I'm driving around in a luxury foreign car even though I'm riding a mini car). Please check the facts carefully once again.

On top of that, if you think it's strange after all, I think it's okay to think about the future. It's okay if you speak in good faith about the grave.

As the same monk, I just feel sorry.

There are very few smelly boys like this
Because of that, ordinary monks are also looked at with the same eyes
The departure from the temple is also accelerating.

Most monks are doing it right.
I want them to move to a temple with a monk like that.